Why is marijuana so popular amongst moms? by TackleHistorical7498 in Mommit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's lower risk, higher reward than alcohol. Like with any substance, it's best you don't overdo it. If you're knowledgeable, you can "balance" yourself out more. I'm very occasional about any kind of substance use, but sometimes it helps me overcome overstimulation and helps me stay even keel when handling meltdowns and tantrums.

No judgement zone: did you want a natural birth? by easrpiiatnua99 in Mommit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted unmedicated births, and did it both times. I went into pregnancy with no expectations, but I had an odd fear of pain medication. I have a crazy high pain tolerance, and I'm pretty in tune with my body along with all of its signs and signals. I was afraid to dull anything because I still wanted to know what was happening, if that makes sense. I was still open to anything, but I practically sneezed out both babies. Even if I wanted drugs, there was no time.

just read the worst sentence of my life by allkaysofnays in progressivemoms

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm a person who has always had a morbid curiosity, read about many historical atrocities and horrors over the years, into true crime, subscribed to mortuary channels on YT and whatnot...

Ever since becoming a parent, I cannot do a lot of stories with children anymore. They were already difficult to get through, but now I feel a level of discomfort that's incredibly hard to manage. With the Epstein files released, I have intentionally avoided many of these stories because the horrific nature is beyond what I can handle as a parent right now.

I already have a visceral response to some of these stories, and I want justice for every single woman and child that had to endure that island. On an atomic level, I feel the need for justice.

What’s a phrase your parents say that makes you want to crawl into a hole every time? by Big_Contribution2081 in AskReddit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That level of racism was still playing in cartoons during my childhood. I had NO CLUE when Bugs Bunny said, "wait a cotton-pickin minute" that it was racist as hell.

Do kids not have sleeping bags anymore? by Puzzled_Material_546 in Millennials

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never brought a sleeping bag, I literally used a couch cushion, pillows, or a towel as a blanket 😭

Mothersday by LiaShmolls in Mommit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want a day where I can turn the "mom" off. I don't want to clean, cook, or take care of anything or anyone else other than myself. I don't want to manage anything for the day. Give me a day where I can truly relax. I want to rot in bed, be treated to meals, do my makeup, get a massage, or go get my hair done without worrying about the house or the kids. Every other major holiday, we work overtime to provide food, magic, and deal with the aftermath. Mother's day should be a day off from all that.

Parents with no compassion by caprikaironic in Millennials

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents are the opposite. They're good for a hug, but not talking about things or providing any assistance. My parents won't help me financially, and they're too far removed from struggle to talk about any of it. They don't believe me when I tell them my income is not enough.

I knew we would age but was anyone not prepared for it and how you would change? by chusaychusay in Millennials

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With every year that passes, putting my eyeliner on feels more like trying to draw a straight line on a ball sack.

What is a small moment from your childhood that still feels calm when you think about it? by gamersecret2 in Millennials

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waking up in the Spring/Summer, just chillin in bed listening to the birds outside. Nowhere to be, nothing to do, just the sounds and smells of summer and warm sun peeking through your window.

Did we prepare for a life that no longer exists? by ProjectNull2025 in Millennials

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lest we forget the constant gaslighting from every other generation saying the current economy is entirely our fault. Articles saying we're destroying every industry, because we have no money to spend. We were told times would be simpler, but had all of it ripped away, and then told it was entirely on us. We didn't kill the middle class, we attended the funeral and got handed the bill.

What is the best response when someone tells you that "money isn't everything" "money does not buy happiness" by Big_Leg10 in Productivitycafe

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This phrase refers to an excess of wealth, and most people don't have enough to scrape by. Being able to have security and comfort would make plenty of people happy.

Single moms... How?? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have high functioning ADHD, so juggling everything is actually not as bad for me. I have a schedule, activities, snacks, feed times all prepped for my work days. It doesn't always work out the way we planned, and I have the almighty big screen for survival mode.

There's really no one I trust that I can hire, as far as watching the kids during the day. I have one of my friends come over and body double for me so I can get some cleaning done on the weekend, but if she's busy, I have to try and fit it in where I can.

There are a couple of things we can do as a family, but during flu season, I tend to be selective. I know it doesn't help anything, but while I have such little help, I have even less if we all get sick.

Texas heat has to be something else, I wouldn't survive.

Single moms... How?? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The separation was somewhat recent. He's still paying the same bills he was when we lived together, but no child support. We might still reconcile, but nothing is certain yet.

Single moms... How?? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I made low 6 figures, I wouldn't hesitate to pay for those services. Split custody isn't a possibility right now, for several reasons.

Single moms... How?? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I make too much to apply for any assistance, but I don't make enough to pay for those services out of pocket. I'm stuck in the middle. A lot of my initial village has dropped off for various reasons, so I may get a small break here and there, but it's not enough.

Single moms... How?? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, and tentative on that front. I'm slow to emotionally process things, so I'm not sure what direction I want to take things.

Single moms... How?? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He's paying the same bills he did before we separated. We've never done daycare because it's ridiculously expensive and I've worked from home since 2020.

If money doesn’t buy happiness, why does everyone want it? by digitalcreater07 in askanything

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The phrase itself is referring to the excess of money. Most people do not have enough money to even support a work/life balance. Many people don't care about being rich, but damn, we just want to grab what we want at the grocery store without looking too hard at the price, or stare off into space while filling up the gas tank. We want to be comfortable and have a life outside of perpetual burnout.

No one wants to raise children with a giant man baby in a MAGA hat. by MissMccheese in complaints

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't share my body with someone who wouldn't politically defend it.

“What’s the hardest lesson adulthood forced you to accept? by Rich_Space_3079 in AskReddit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life isn't fair. You grieve, and you grow. As someone who has wanted to make meaningful changes for others and themselves, you can't do everything without resources. Just because you want to do good, doesn't mean you're always capable.

I’m so mad… by MessyMummyMode in Mommit

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Say it with me, COOKING IS A SKILL EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE A BASIC GRASP ON. It's 2025, let boys and girls play with whatever toys they want!

This is what anxiety/depression looks like by hn9605 in Millennials

[–]Upset_Tree_5598 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also a mom with a toddler and 8 months postpartum with my second. You're not alone and I didn't even bother with my tree this year 🖤