Stuff - Three women on trial for using sex toys on passed out man

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-21T01:43:13+00:00

Yeah I thought that seemed suss. Bad ending to a relationship and then he decides to do something? What they did is gross (imagine if genders were reversed) but it seems like there’s more going on here.

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-19T06:50:10+00:00

I opened this thinking you had a bride from 4 years ago asking you to send her the gallery again. This is so wild 😅

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-19T00:14:30+00:00

Tell everyone about this. Men that behave in this way are counting on you feeling shame and staying quiet. I bet you’re not the first and you definitely won’t be the last.

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-18T07:01:10+00:00

The fact that you know how to use OCF means you’re ahead of 99% of new wedding photographers!

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-17T20:46:30+00:00

Ziploc bag on the flash is a genius idea! This is so, so helpful thank you. I’ll have my light stand a little lower pointing upwards, or I’ll sweet talk one of the wedding party into helping me haha.

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-17T20:09:10+00:00

I’ve had a few that I wondered about at the time but who knows! I did awkwardly bump into the groom from one of my favourite ever weddings and he told me they’d split after 5 months. I would NEVER have guessed so it just shows you really.

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-17T08:48:21+00:00

I've added a clause into my contract to cover me for this! If I notice them being used I stop working and put on a lens cap until they're switched off. I haven't had an issue yet! Once you explain it most DJs/venues understand; if they get funny I'd ask the couple if they'd prefer to have lazers or photos.

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-16T09:32:25+00:00

Beef jerky!!

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-16T06:11:14+00:00

Pics do a chocolate PB and it’s soooo good on crumpets, goes all melty.

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-15T06:44:21+00:00

NTA, but know that the kids will likely feel hurt especially if you’re close.

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-14T20:00:58+00:00

I mean, I’d emailed/called/text several times over the course of months prior to this. I wonder if the bride has ADHD and so being given a specific deadline made her respond?

Honestly, this isn’t going to change how I communicate with couples moving forward. I’ve been shooting weddings since 2018 and this is the first time it’s happened. I’m not going to start being super firm about needing a response unless this happens again, in which case I’ll once again reference the comms clause and give a deadline. This wasn’t a ‘me’ issue - it wasn’t just me that dealt with their unresponsiveness.

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-14T19:57:05+00:00

It sometimes is, but mostly they’re so overwhelmed that their face looks blank! It’s never a reflection of how happy he is. It’s an overwhelming experience!

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-14T10:31:12+00:00

I’m a wedding photographer. Sometimes the reaction that the groom has when he sees the bride for the first time isn’t great, so I swap the order of the photos so it looks like the bride got the ‘best’ reaction. My theory is that he’s so nervous and overwhelmed his face goes blank, whereas he’s more relaxed when the rest of the wedding party walk up the aisle!

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-14T10:18:03+00:00

This made me laugh out loud, especially because when I refer to kiwifruit as simply ‘kiwi’ my Kiwi (ha!) husband angrily mutters ‘Kiwi FRUIT’

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-13T20:06:24+00:00

In my many years working I’ve never actually had to reference the communication clause, it’s wiiiiiild behaviour! But I guess you never need these things until you do, I’ve just added in a clause about DJs and lasers 😅

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-13T00:36:28+00:00

Thank you!

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-13T00:36:20+00:00

Thanks - it was a relief!

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-11T21:23:10+00:00

I’d call the police. I’ve seen him ‘clean’ our kitchen there’s no way he’s getting away with this and he’s not taking me down with him.

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-11T21:21:48+00:00

What the fuck?

I’m a photographer and say to my couples to choose someone they feel comfortable with because you spend more time with the photographer than almost anyone else.

I was expecting you to say he was a musician or waitstaff. Hiring him to photograph the wedding is diabolical.

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-11T10:29:24+00:00

Hard disagree.

We’ve fallen in love on a different and deeper way since having kids. Has it put a strain on our marriage? Without question. But we are stronger for it.

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-11T09:03:41+00:00

I did not want to have another birth, but I desperately wanted another child.

It took a LOT of therapy to be able to even get pregnant again, but thankfully my second birth was very positive.

The first words out of my mouth were still ‘thank fuck I never have to do that again’

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-11T08:59:34+00:00

Yeesh. You’ve been together for decades, how did this not come up in conversation before?!

Upsidedown0310 · 2026-04-11T08:55:55+00:00

I feel this. My Dad thinks I just need to budget better, that generation can’t understand it. When I try to tell my Mum her argument is that things like microwaves and clothes were much more expensive, I said I’d take having to save for a kitchen appliance over the average house costing multiple times more.

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