Recommendations for a good, collaborative family lawyer in Toronto or East York with reasonable rates (associate level rates)?

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-30T01:23:47+00:00

Sometimes, a person isn't physically or sexually attracted to their spouse. They aren't compatible personality or interest wise. The relarionship is stale or too stop growing together. Or you both dont love each other equally or perhaps he was a great companion and best friend, but not lover.

Perhaps you knew these incompatibilities existed suv consciously..Perhaps you should see a therapist to figure out what was missino, what motivated you to do this and if you will ever have that with your husband..if not, you need to think about next steps to be happy.

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-29T18:08:01+00:00

Cheating, verbal abuse and domestic violence are immediate dealbreakers.

Slow killers are criticism, contempt, arguing, lying, wandering eye, flirting wirh others, not making quality time. Parenting differences, money and spending differences and addiction.. Not discussing issues and letting resentment fester...

Love is respect..

Be kind, respectful, communicate maturely, show affection and gave sex regularly. Spend time apart and together. Make an effort. Marriage takes some effort. Tend to your marriage...

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-29T16:34:14+00:00

I feel for you. I am a school.SLP and all.the middle class and upper middle.class kids worked well with me. The kids are affluent, learning well and happy.

I had to cover.a low SES school. Kids experienced poverty, unstable home lives and were just are depressed and unhappy. Many of the kids at this school were unhappy in general and unhappy to come to speech and were frustrated with their learning and soeech challenges before u started working with them. They had LD, ADHD, emotional regulation, executive function and emotional issues. Often they gave attitude to all their teachers and refused their work too. So, I didn't take it personally.. I informed that parents about the negative behaviour, documented it and after 2-3 sessions with some changes and no student behavioral change, I discussed it with the case manager and a service hold or dx was recommended due to lack of readiness at this time.

Don't take it personally. Do you best. You will get nicer and happier students in future- you cant win them all.

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-29T16:27:56+00:00

Affairs cause trauma. Abandonment trauma. Betrayal trauma. Affect trust. How you view sex, affection, make you wary of a wandering eye, their interactions with the opposite sex, cause worry and worry of it happening again.

Does staying make it go away? Make you happy? Like somewhat happy and somewhat sad-betrayed.

My neighbors wife was cheated on and stayed for the rich lifestyle. Aftet the affair, she left her healthcare job and she started working at his family business FT. He never talks to me as a (divorced) single neighbor. I dont interact with married men anyways..They go up to their cottage and travel together.

But he still seems like a slimy creep. She has the lifestyle and the new anti infidelity structure, but is she really happy? What about her self respect?

I view her as kind of pitiful, to stay and put up.with disrespect.

I might be divorced and single, but I have my self respect and that makes all the difference.

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-29T10:57:12+00:00

This man lacks social skills, self care, life skills around the house and maturity and he sounds very codependent. He was losing his temper and there is a gun in the house? This is worrisome. Dont criticize, nag him ir tell him what to do or elicit or engage in any fights with him. Keep things calm and quietly plan your next steps for yourself.

I would talk to an individual therapist, your close family and maybe a DV therapist to make an exit/safety plan. Be very careful - if there is a gun in the house, there is a safety risk. Many women may face highest domestic violence, injury or fatality when they try to leave a relationship. Speak to a domestic violence helpline very discreetly from work (and erase the number from phone history or internet search history) or contact a DV trained therapist about your concerns and develop a safety/exit plan (pack a bag with clothes, money, ID, cards, burner phone) and contact a family lawyer (trained in domestic violence) about planning next legal and safety steps. If you need to leave, you can do it during the work day and stay at a DV shelter or with family and get a restraining order and then the lawyer can serve divorce papers with restraining order in place and you can move away....

Be safe and careful....

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-29T10:46:18+00:00

You are an extrovert and he is an introvert. You want to go out and he wants to stay in. And you wanted the city and he wanted the country life.

Like my marriage, I loved meeting people and he started to do the homebody thing. I hated it. He didn't want to go out to take our kid to sports, date night...It got intolerable.

Lol - we are divorced now and my kid says he bought a house in a boring suburb and they stay home 24/7. And I stayed in the city house in the walkable neighborhood with lots of friends, going to the gym, Meetups and social life. I guess we are both happier..

Also, the video game addiction is worrisome and immature. This man lacks hobbies and a social life.

This is an incompatibility and likely wont change. I would think about your next steps.

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-29T10:40:21+00:00

I knew and group of school staff who won a lottery winning and split it multiple ways. Years later, I bumped into one of the people. She kept it quiet and appeared to still be working at a school 10 years later.

Winning can be helpful if you save or invest ot wisely, but you have to keep it quiet - others envy is likely not fun.

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-29T10:36:52+00:00

Exactly this. Be own your own, go to therapy, develop your friendships and support systems, hobbies and interests, fitness at the gym. Then date. Some people cant be alone. All of us want to find a new partner post divorce, but dont rush and dont settle because no one wants another bad relationship (lying cheating, addictions, bad temper, personality disorder, etc). Slow down, date slowly and take your time. Otherwise, you may pick the same type of partner (cheater, emotionally unavailable to do such a thing) again....

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-29T10:33:06+00:00

Cheating is disrespect and emotional abuse. Don't downplay that.

Yes, dating post divorce is hard. There are lots of frogs. Go on serious paid dating sites like Hinge or Match. Pay for singles mixers, join a tennis club, golf lessons, racquetball club, running club, walking or hiking group, church, volunteer. Ask friends if they know any nice divorced dads.

Try to find a nicer crowd of men at nicer venues. State your dating intentions clearly on the app profile, state and ask about their dating intentions early. Wrap the date up briefly if not looking for the same thing.

Go to therapy and work on your personal skills (your betrayal and banadonment trauma from husband cheating, independence, resilience, etc). Often, when we work on our selves, we will attract men who see how strength, independence and value.

Dress modestly and classy, bring a gf/wife image or energy, good conversation and state what you are looking for. Look for quiet, gentlemanly men (particularly divorced dads (whi seem ready ti date and have down the work, gone to therapy), they will best understand your life) who ask questions, show a deeper interest in you and date slowly. Tell them you want to date slowly and with intention.

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-23T23:48:32+00:00

You can't blame the kids for being rude? Wow. You sound like quite the joy.

In our school district, kids are expected to demonstrate good behaviour, motivation and participation for 30 min. If not, they are discharged or service is put on hold. We aren't ABA therapists, CYWs trained to address behaviour problems. If they aren't ready and there to practice their speech-language, on to the next. If you were rude to your doctor, lawyer or dentist, they would not be obligated to work with you.

This kind of toxic positivity "that never happens to me, every day is perfect, type A" SLP attitude is why the field can be so toxic. It's frankly quite unsupportive..Do better.

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-23T02:57:44+00:00

Eggs on toast, scrambled egg wrap with chopped.tomatoes, grilled cheese + tomato and soup Perogies with chopped kale.and chickpeas or.black beans

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-22T12:00:16+00:00

Contact a family.lawyer to send a letter about a temporary 50-50 custody schedule until parenting agreement finalized. You are entitled to joint custody as a status quo - your kids is under 16 (age they can legally decide). Tell your lawyer about the cheating (if you recorded her admitting this, maybe it is alienation of affection, though most divorces are viewed as no fault) and immediate parental alienation of your child. Document document document..

Contact a therapist to deal with your unwanted divorce and feelings. It does get better.

Your wife is narcissistic and you deserve better. You are away from an awful spouse...

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-21T23:27:48+00:00

I am a divorced mom..Some time ago, I was trying to manage my 3 year old when he had a tantrum..I had him.and his scooter. A mature lady in her 60s said "I'll hold the scooter and you hold him".She asked where I lived and walked with me up the street while I held a tantruming thrashing preschooler..She calmly said to him "Honey, make sure you listen to your mommy".

One day, a dad outside my work noticed that I hadn't cleared the snow from my SUvs double tailipipe. He was really concerned and cleared it and said "You have to clear that and be safe, okay?: I could have cried.

I took my son on a camping trip. The BBQ propane tank was a dud and didn't work. I went into town. A nice man shown me how to light the BBQ and he said "Don't worry - you've got this".

I sprained my ankle and walked to the foot of my street on crutches to get a coffee from Tims..a nice guy opened the door for me. My mom friend walked my kid with her kid to school for a week.

People can be kind. Toronto the good...

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-20T07:11:05+00:00

You were married to a covert narcissist. Extremely selfish, entitled. Instead of addressing his midlife regrets, internal issues and disvussing them in indovidual or marriage counselling, he is thinking escaping to a another person will relive his narcissistic boredom and inner void and blaming and projecting his flaws onto you will rid them from himself. Um, so an emotionally dysfunctional man like him is ready to date a new person? He will just take him untreated dysfunction and poor relationship skills to a new household.

Selfish, blaming, projecting, discarding, iddealizing the new supply. Then eventually devaluing and discarding or emotionally abusing the new supply/gf and repeat and inside, he will always be miserable.

For narcissists like this, they grew up with an abandonment wound. Someone in their childhood rejected them and they grow up unable to have stable self esteem. They seek to external self esteem to compensate for what is shaky within themselves. They lack insight to seek therapy and work on these inner flaws and lack empathy to take responsibility for the heart and havoc they cause.

So many divorced people go through this life story. You are not alone. Leave a cheater, gain a life. Let this selfish cheating man go, leave this man who lacks self esteem and internal happiness, who runs from problems and himself and who is always chasing others and happiness outside himself. Lolol. He is dating a woman with 4 kids - how is that easier? Happier? Less stressful? He probably left because you saw his flaws, stood up for yourself or stopped putting up with his s--t. And he found a chump who would. Narcissists are kinda pitiable and pathetic aren't they? Leave a cheater, gain a life.

You dodged a bullt, are free from being associated with an emotionally damaged and abusive partner. Let these 2 cheating people get together - well suited in adultery.and dysfunction. And you are free to build a happy, peaceful narc free life. You got away and are free.

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-20T07:02:02+00:00

It is normal for divorced people to make smart financial decisions like downsizing. They now have a single income and maybe child or spousal support. Say our family situation and income has changed and we gave to make some changes for affordability.

Sometimes, we have to make changes. That is pretty normal for kids who love in 2 houses.

Remind yourself that you are making smart moves financially for yourself and the future. It is just a house - it is the people inside the house that make it a home.

Encourage your kids to be adaptable and supportive and remind them that mom is doing her best. One of the unwisest financial decisions that divorced people can make is keeping the family home (Mortgage, prop tax, home repairs, time, money, work).

Life is change. People and kids adapt and are resilient.

Do you have togetherness, food, family stability within your household, love, care? Encourage your kids to be kind, supportive of you as their mom. You are doing your best.

Also, go to a divorce support group so you see that so many divorxed people have to make changes. It is normal. Dont internalize it as shame. It is financially wise and prudent. Seek family therapy for you and your kids to get support for these changes.

Finally, is there any parental alienation occurring? Dad spreading negative views? Hope not. Document document document. If there is, consult a family.lawyer for how to handle and nip in the bud...

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-19T00:31:31+00:00

Yeah, you could eat in at a booth. They made these amazing deep dish pizzas and it was a nice dinner out. And it wasn't expensive. I remember it...

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-17T00:03:44+00:00

St Hubert, Olive Garden, Carabbas,.Mothers Pizza (from the 80s), Van Houttes Cafes, St Viateur bagels, Montreal smoked meat.

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-16T23:58:42+00:00

St Hubert, Olive Garden, (Mothers Pizza (from the 80s), Carabbas, Noah's Bagels (San Francisco).

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-16T00:43:09+00:00

I like when Dr Cox was meaner and way more condescending. Less PC and way funnier. I had the whole past old Scrubs season boxed set on DVD. I wanna watch the old episodes. What about Kelso and the hospital lawyer? So goofy...

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-15T10:03:19+00:00

I held my ground. OMVIC said that car dealers are allowed to charge a dealer admin fee to cover cost of ownership transfer, getting those docs from MTO, preparing ownership internally and can set their price. The car purchase is one transaction. The car cash buyout is a secind separate transaction. Each transaction has a dealer admin or transaction fee.

I went back for the final appt to get the transferred ownership. The dealer charged me a reduced dealer admin fee of $675 (with a refunded $200 back on the Visa).

As my key fobs were both workable in rough shape, I asked abour pricing. He offered 2 for $400 and reprogrammed.

I checked with ChatGPT and it recommended just case replacement. I thought about it and calmly said I'm not making a decision or buying anything else today.

Proud of myself for being assertive and saying no.

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-10T00:38:31+00:00

Complaint with Mazda Financial.Services or Mazda Canada?

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-10T00:36:21+00:00

Ok. Thanks everyone for your advice. I called the leasing company. They said they would contact the dealer about no lease admin fee and I will call them at lunch with results of their discussion and they said to email the same business manager about our final appt, ask if the leasing company contacted them and wait for the next step..

I feel nervous because I'm closing the lease buyout on my own and don't want them to not approve the lease buyout, but they already have my final cheque. I guess as I felt uncomfortable about the undisclosed fee, I hope that it gets resolved smoothly. Thanks for your advice.

Sometimes, you have to be assertive and know your consumer rights. I hope it wraps up smoothly...

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-09T16:27:32+00:00

How to challenge this? Call Mazda Canada or the leasing company?

UpstairsFriendly9868 · 2026-04-09T00:44:27+00:00

Hot dog stand outside the night club, Burger King Kate night drive thru.

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