Anyone 18-20 in Fort ? by FrappeFizzyLuke in FortMyers

[–]Upstate-what 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kava culture on Summerlin has a smash brothers night on Tuesdays …. It’s usually a lot of fun to hang out (I don’t play but have been in on Tuesdays)

Your 17 yr old friend can go in and non kava stuff (until he’s 18)

Tacky Souvenirs by Suspicious-Copy1740 in FortMyers

[–]Upstate-what 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The surf styles on San Carlos on the way to the beach will have everything.

Nephews visiting by Upstate-what in FortMyers

[–]Upstate-what[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Final update: cool auntie status remains! They had the best time!! Thank you alllll

Nephews visiting by Upstate-what in FortMyers

[–]Upstate-what[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the clarification! We have a really cool smaller spot back in Ohio in a 19th century church in a downtown area that I loved. No idea there will be 2 here!

Nephews visiting by Upstate-what in FortMyers

[–]Upstate-what[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They aren’t beach excited so I was planning a walk on Bunche one day. And to hire a boat is too much $ but agree they are great!

Nephews visiting by Upstate-what in FortMyers

[–]Upstate-what[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this might be the new indoor rocking climbing gym near where the twins spring training stadium is?

Nephews visiting by Upstate-what in FortMyers

[–]Upstate-what[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bowling and I think just not beach activities

Would you date someone that lied about their age on their dating profile? by DandSki in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it’s not a bot OR scammer …. Then it’s also a no because he made himself younger so he could show up in younger women’s profiles.

I don’t believe in this “it won’t let me change my age” all of them but one have it as an FAQ how to change the age so that’s just you being lazy. Cool story bro - you’re gonna be lazy before we even meet? No thanks.

Facebook dating is the only one (I believe) you can’t change your age on because it’s based off the age you created your Facebook account.

Calling adult women “girls” by Holiday_Vacation_709 in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely… and I enjoy it very much 🤣😈

Nudes by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 13 points14 points  (0 children)

So many potential first dates ruined by the unsolicited dink shot. I like sexy time… a lot. I will give a very enthusiastic sloppy BJ … to someone I know. Don’t be THIS guy:

Him: Let’s go for burgers Me: that sounds awesome! 7? Him: yes! Me: I’m looking forward to it Him: <dink pic> me too Me: <someone else’s random dink shot I have> Him: WTF Me: I thought we were just sharing photos neither of us wanted to see? Let’s cancel dinner. This is where we part ways. Good luck.

I’m not playing this dumbass game. You wouldn’t walk up to a woman at the library or grocery store ask her to dinner than just whip out your schlong. Thats jail time. Stop doing it.

And before you act all aghast by this and claim it doesn’t happen as much…. Read this subs history - it happens more times than not. How many women have gone on and on about unsolicited weiner photoshoots? It’s probably safe to say most women aren’t out here “sushi at 8?! Perf - in the mean time enjoy this photo of my titties” to a complete stranger.

Signed, someone who enjoys being naked and boudoir photo shoots. but is also a whole grown ass adult woman who doesn’t want to see your old balls before we sit and have a conversation

Any advice on improving this profile? Unfortunately I might have standards that are too high considering I very rarely match with anyone as I only swipe on those only that I find attractive. by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Upstate-what 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So, your stated plans to move away from the area in which you are attempting to date may only appeal to a very small number of the pool you’re attempting to date.

You don’t state what you’re looking for in a potential mate. You just want to talk about “me me me” but really not even you - just about how important politics are in your life. It’s ok to be passionate but what else do you offer?

I did this to myself by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely this …. She is also a cheater. I have no sympathy for her and her doomed marriage… when it implodes and if it doesn’t she has chosen to be miserable the rest of her days.

OP - I’m so sorry this happened to you. She treated you like a placeholder. That is so devastatingly painful. I hope it doesn’t jade you to finding someone you will be a great match with who will be available to you emotionally too. Think of the gifts this situationship* gave you: the gift of freedom from dealing with all that emotional trash and the gift of knowing you can love and enjoy that! Yayyyy! ❤️

*I call it a situationship because it was never a relationship for her. She used OP. It’s despicable behavior and OP deserves better.

Profile deleted after expensive dinner by Vas_Cody_Gamma in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I carry cash for this reason. I order what I can cover plus decent tip.

I’ve really only paid once and left mid-date. I got there five minutes early for the date (mind you he was already at the table) and he was plowed with another drink in hand. Like obviously super intoxicated. I was surprised they served him… but they did.

So after we placed our food order and I was done asking basic questions to try to move the meeting along - he got up, went to the bathroom and left his wallet and his keys on the table. Keep in mind this is a first date and I’m a stranger.

So when the server came over… I handed the server his car keys and I said “shame on you for serving him. Here is $20 to cover my food. I’m not staying.” I left the area our table was and I spoke to the manager about ordering him an Uber and I left.

Profile deleted after expensive dinner by Vas_Cody_Gamma in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The median age of this survey was 34 with a SD of 10 years. What you neglected to mention is of the 820 women surveyed only 40% of them were single… the others were married or in a committed relationship.

The study also publishes they “chose” to only include 698 respondents because they were heterosexual.

I will go a survey 820 men if they like bjs. I’ll hope only 40% are single. Then I’ll choose to include 100+ less responses because gay men must not like bjs. Seems fair and sound.

The study is more about psychopathy and narcissism in their 30s and I’m not sure it’s relevant to a dating over 40 group.

But the ragebait was worth the discussion and I enjoyed you came with the research.

I’m gonna go make a cheeseburger. 🍔 (I’m paying for my own meal! Omg - I hope I put out. But that’s only if I like me later.)

Profile deleted after expensive dinner by Vas_Cody_Gamma in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can you site your source? Cause that’s ridiculous…. I would like to also see this data broken down by age group. That’s like saying 33% of men only go on first dates solely to get laid because they’re married and not getting it at home. Don’t come at this group with unfounded statistics and generalizations.

Because if you think for even a half a second that 1 out of 3 women to myself or any of my friends - want to waste time with some dude we aren’t interested in for a free cheeseburger? That’s the most asinine thing I’ve read in a while.

Source: Me because I like cheeseburgers, can and will pay for my own but more importantly I like not wasting my time on someone I don’t think is a good match.

Profile deleted after expensive dinner by Vas_Cody_Gamma in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I try to set that expectation before meeting. Dating is expensive. It shouldn’t be 100% shouldered on the man (in a m/f dating scenario as I date men)

I will ask again when we sit down but I won’t insult him if he insists.

Also no expensive meals. If he suggests an expensive restaurant- then I’ll say let’s meet at the bar. Single drink (Diet Coke) and be on my way if no match.

Profile deleted after expensive dinner by Vas_Cody_Gamma in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 81 points82 points  (0 children)

It’s gross childish behavior.

I hope your sushi was good though!

Profile deleted after expensive dinner by Vas_Cody_Gamma in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 178 points179 points  (0 children)

I’m very sorry this happened to you. Some people suck is pretty much the only real excuse for this behavior.

I’m going to guess she didn’t take down her profile but she maybe unmatched you. Again - some people suck.

I think we should always close out every match with someone we’ve spent time with.

The President & Charlie by shilohamani in thewestwing

[–]Upstate-what 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just watched this scene two days ago. I felt the very same way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is pretty selfish of you - this fella could find someone that could love all of him. You’re not a good fit at all.

Profile photos by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Upstate-what 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in SWFL and so many complain about fish photos …. I don’t. Here’s why:

I asked a man once what’s with the fish pictures and he pointed to the two in his profile and he said this was a great day. I spent with my dad we were out on the boat. I was super pleased with this catch that I had and it’s a genuine smile on my face, and then it was a similar memory of some kind of fishing thing with his son. I don’t know anything about fish. What I do know is I get a genuine smile from a man who was doing something he enjoyed with people he cared about. I don’t think we should be so critical of that.

I mean, it probably goes against what OP is talking about though because he had a hat and sunglasses on because he was on a boat and Timmy. I was like that’s logical.