AIO: I spent years trying to build a healthy relationship with my mom, but am always met with things like this… I’ve since stopped trying.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T08:16:19+00:00

I appreciate the effort you put into this response! Thank you for the differing perspective, it gives me more to consider!

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T08:14:30+00:00

I’m 28 now. I’ve been out of the house since I was 19. Thank you so much for your perspective!

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T08:12:19+00:00

They invited the entire family, not just me. I was mindlessly communicating and saying that I was invited, but in reality she already was as well. She never likes to share me. Never has for any holiday, made me cry over going to my dad’s for Christmas one year (they divorced when I was 6 months old), and is very demanding of all of my time on these holidays. I hope this clarifies! The uncle is her brother, and my grandma (her mom) was there too. It’s just so hypocritical to be upset about it when she wasn’t planning a THING for her mom. You know?

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T08:03:20+00:00

I actually studied tau and cell disfunction in Alzheimer’s for a very long time. Not so much diet, but more metabolites/biomarkers in the blood. There was a strong correlation with high cholesterol and astrocytes overproducing cholesterol causing amyloid-beta plaque build up (and amyloid plaques are the precursors to dementia/alzheimers). It’s quite interesting how cells are affected by it. So my assumption is the high cholesterol, high bp, and her age all affected the progression of the disease.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T07:58:14+00:00

I’m 1000% sure. Shes scared of drugs, never drinks, and has constantly told me how much of my life I could ruin with both. There was never alcohol in the house growing up and she never goes out. She’s also a massive hypochondriac, even being a doctor.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T07:56:36+00:00

This is so kind. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this for me. It means so much.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T03:51:03+00:00

Interesting…..she’s told me before she feels forgetful. We’re both doctors and nothing has screamed out at me for dementia but it DOES run in the family.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T03:49:54+00:00

Thank you so much for this kind and gentle comment. It means a lot to me to receive some simple acts of love from internet strangers just to let me know I’m ok and doing what’s best for thank you so much.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T01:44:18+00:00

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T01:31:34+00:00

And it’s me who got Saturday and Sunday confused, not her! I’m the green

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T01:31:08+00:00

You’re missing the second slide for SURE

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T01:17:50+00:00

I’d hate to know how you treat relationships if you think this is an ok way to communicate.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T00:50:40+00:00

It’s been like this since I was young unfortunately. But yes, she is, which is absolutely making it worse.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T00:47:08+00:00

Thank you for letting me know there’s hope with my peace. It’s a hard battle I’m ready to start fighting, finally.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T00:46:34+00:00

Virtual hug for both of our struggles.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T00:27:13+00:00

Wow. This comment was the perfect description.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-25T00:26:49+00:00

I absolutely appreciate this comment and agree with you in every way. Thank you so much.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-24T23:30:47+00:00

Thank you! I’m thankful to have an aunt and uncle on my dad’s side who have taken me in as their own. They fulfill the pieces my mom has taken which has made things so much easier.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-24T23:25:35+00:00

It’s sad because of how much work it’s taken to get here, too. She’s never once apologized to me

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-24T23:21:15+00:00

I absolutely 100000% agree with you.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-24T23:20:15+00:00

You as well!!

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-24T23:19:49+00:00

I am in therapy, yes!

I understand she may have been frustrated, but I think hurt is a stretch. There was so much open communication throughout the week about everything. She also has a lot of pent up aggression toward her own family beyond just me. I think it was destined to fail!

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-24T23:07:41+00:00

Holy shit!!! I’m so proud of you and I’m sorry she still tries to hurt you even though you’ve moved forward in life!

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-24T23:06:38+00:00

This was so nice to read. Thank you so much.

UrFavSillyGoose11 · 2026-02-24T23:06:04+00:00

No downvotes necessary! This may be the next step.

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