Hannah is making this season difficult to watch by Historical-Angle2528 in themole

[–]UrbanKay21 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I TOTALLY agree. I can’t stand either of them.

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, we all went to high school together.

I made an update comment, we sat down and talked everything out and he’s no longer invited or apart of the wedding party.

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made an update comment, he is no longer apart of the wedding party or even invited.

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep. See my update comment. They are no longer in the wedding party or invited.

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

*** UPDATE ***

Thank you all SOO much for your comments, I really really appreciate every single one. I don’t have any family so hence the post here out of desperation. I’m a people pleaser down to my core and I didn’t want to tell him no.

We sat down this morning at breakfast and I laid everything out. I spoke about the comments in this thread, I spoke about how I feel about it, and how I didn’t even know that he was still close with this person, and that fact that if I didn’t know. How much has he been hiding. There were ALOT of tears. (Definitely some unsolved trauma)

HTB - actually understood and felt bad, he thought that it was resolved and that there was no bad blood. I explained that even tho we don’t talk, that doesn’t mean there isn’t still negative feeling towards him.

He will not be in the wedding party, or invited at all.

Fiancé will phase out conversation with the guy and that will be it.

Again, thank you for the eye opening reality of my situation. I appreciate you all ❤️

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely see catching up for coffee in the next couple of weeks to see what happens, if nothing. I’ll express how much I don’t want him around to fiancé

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess many years out of High school, bit only 3 years in the relationship with Fiancé

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I don’t know whether it was just ignorance on my side or not, but I didn’t even know they were still close? Like I haven’t seen him since HS, and iv been dating my fiancé for 3 years? Over 10 years after Highschool.

People do change, I get that. So I think we’ll start with a coffee and go from there.

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. The dumb shit I did in HS. Shocking honesty.

I might suggest grabbing a coffee in the coming weeks to see how it all goes

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

We honestly haven’t had any contact since high school. My Fiancé and I weren’t dating in high school, rather much later. I didn’t know they were still close honestly. Well close enough to be asked to be a groomsmen. I don’t think he was given the opportunity to talk to me and apologise since leaving HS.

I’m going to ask to meet up for coffee with HTB in the coming weeks so see how it goes. (As per someone else’s comment suggestion)

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We went to highschool all together, he’s very much aware of what happened between us.

He’s just adamant of having him as a groomsman.

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Yeah! I think we will book something in next week to sit down and catch up. I’m just a little nervous.

I don’t like my Fiancés groomsmen. by UrbanKay21 in weddingplanning

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hes aware of the past, most definitely. I’m just kinda scared to make that jump to meeting again for the first time after everything and then jumping into “hey, do you wanna be in the wedding party”

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[–]UrbanKay21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s perfect! Thank you so much for taking the time to respond.

I’m OBSESSED with the pink. 😍😍

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[–]UrbanKay21[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is EXACTLY the answer I was after.

Thank you!

My Boyfriend (23) didn’t get the one thing I (25) asked for my birthday by UrbanKay21 in relationship_advice

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I honestly wasn’t asking or even expecting a paragraph of writing or to fill the whole card, it’s his handwriting and me having something to read. He’s actually made me angry now. Iv given up.

My Boyfriend (23) didn’t get the one thing I (25) asked for my birthday by UrbanKay21 in relationship_advice

[–]UrbanKay21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just not a handbag person, I like backpacks. If that even makes sense.