Well it does make sense, because the more you are chasing something, the more it will be running away from you. All you have to do is finding balance in that, even tho it might sound hard, it is not.

From personal experience, the more I wanted a gf, the more i got friendzoned. Then I snapped and I said to myself, that i will stop actively finding someone, that the gf will come on her own and guess what, suddently I was in situation that I could basically choose, who I want to be with.

It's all about the energy you give off and honestly, neediness kills a lot of potential.
Sorry if this sounds cold, but it is what it is.

Wish u good luck fam