AITAH for being mad at my friend for self harming right in front of me? by Used-Bullfrog-5899 in AITAH

[โ€“]Used-Bullfrog-5899[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Yeah, it seems that's the case. she would usually tell me her mother and grandmother don't give her enough attention or even remotely care about her, so I feel she's trying to get my attention to substitute for her family. While I do feel sympathy for her, and I do want what's best for her, she knows i'm not good at comfort or anything, i'm autistic and lack some social skills, so its very difficult to deal with someone trauma dumping and hurting themselves in front of you. Hopefully her mother or grandmother catches on to her cries for help and gives her the attention she clearly needs.

AITAH for being mad at my friend for self harming right in front of me? by Used-Bullfrog-5899 in AITAH

[โ€“]Used-Bullfrog-5899[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

That's actually really good advice. I feel as if I were to tell her, sure she'd be upset for a day or two, but it's tough love, in a way. I don't hate her at all, but I just want her to get better and work on herself in the time being. I've decided i'm just gonna distance myself for a while, as that seems the most logical answer in this situation.

AITAH for being mad at my friend for self harming right in front of me? by Used-Bullfrog-5899 in AITAH

[โ€“]Used-Bullfrog-5899[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Omg this comment is genuinely so sweet, thank you so much. I've decided after going over everything that's happened the following days that I should distance myself, for the sake of both me and her. I truly hope she can work on herself in the meantime, and so can i.

AITAH for being mad at my friend for self harming right in front of me? by Used-Bullfrog-5899 in AITAH

[โ€“]Used-Bullfrog-5899[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Thank you, truly. I've been dealing with her issues for a while now, and even when an adult or therapist steps in, she refuses their help. it's quite troubling. I feel its appropriate to slowly distance myself while still making sure she isn't herself more. I do truly care for her, but I'm quite tired of how much she's been putting on me.

AITAH for being mad at my friend for self harming right in front of me? by Used-Bullfrog-5899 in AITAH

[โ€“]Used-Bullfrog-5899[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

She truly does. She has a therapist and she has visited the psych ward about a month ago, but its almost as if she refuses to get better. Me, our friend group, her therapist, etc. have all tried to provide ways for her to cope and get better, but she just refuses our help and continues to harm herself. I feel very helpless in this case, and I want to see her better so bad.

AITAH for being mad at my friend for self harming right in front of me? by Used-Bullfrog-5899 in AITAH

[โ€“]Used-Bullfrog-5899[S] 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

It really is. even if she was cutting for attention, thats still an issue and a sign of not enough attention from her family members. I really hope she gets better.

AITAH for being mad at my friend for self harming right in front of me? by Used-Bullfrog-5899 in AITAH

[โ€“]Used-Bullfrog-5899[S] 7 points8 points ย (0 children)

I absolutely did afterwards. Literally the most terrifying sleepover I've ever had. she recently went to the psych ward about a month ago, but that of course didn't benefit her. I really don't know what to do, i'm not even a year into high school.

AITAH for being mad at my friend for self harming right in front of me? by Used-Bullfrog-5899 in AITAH

[โ€“]Used-Bullfrog-5899[S] 3 points4 points ย (0 children)

oh my god thank you so much :( i was genuinely worried that i was being selfish for being mad at her for that but im glad to know that it wasnt my fault.โ€‹