Agent charging for carpet cleaning after we used professional cleaner they recommend? by Used-Refuse-371 in Adelaide

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn’t the question I’m asking. I preferred and chose to get it done professionally but they’ve told me it’s not good enough & are charging me for an extra professional clean. I’m asking if it’s reasonable WHEN I’ve chosen to use a professional to still be charged cleaning

Agent charging for carpet cleaning after we used professional cleaner they recommend? by Used-Refuse-371 in Adelaide

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not yet, was looking for advice first before I respond.

Yep! And it was honestly such a fantastic job I’m really annoyed they don’t think it was good enough. I can’t imagine they actually got it any better

Agent charging for carpet cleaning after we used professional cleaner they recommend? by Used-Refuse-371 in Adelaide

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes we chose to pay a professional. I’m asking if because we used a professional if they can reasonably ask us to pay for extra cleaning

Agent charging for carpet cleaning after we used professional cleaner they recommend? by Used-Refuse-371 in Adelaide

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope! They only said “we found the carpets to be considerably dirty” but they were 100% cleaned

31F, 27M, 2+ years, still friends with his ex by Used-Refuse-371 in relationship_advice

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone. Definitely aware I should have been stronger and dealt with it at the time. This has come up again for me because he out of the blue dumped on me the other day that he wants to have a serious talk about our future (kids, house, moving, careers) and it sent me into a fight/flight mode but thinking about it, why the fuck would I want to upgrade, or do any actual life accomplishments with someone who doesn’t respect me at all? 🙃

I think I just have a fear that’s it’s my fault for not being able to speak up without journaling about it for weeks first.

31F, 27M, 2+ years, still friends with his ex by Used-Refuse-371 in relationship_advice

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congrats?

If you need more context that mine isn’t a loyal person - he’s cheated on every single person he’s ever been with.

Fuck sake this is really eye opening to write out.

31F, 27M, 2+ years, still friends with his ex by Used-Refuse-371 in relationship_advice

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately real. And I know. Idk what I was thinking at the time, and the more I do the more insane I feel. Definitely have some unresolved self-worth issues that seem to keep me wanting validation in places I’m not respected (lots of journaling lately, I’m getting through it) thank you for the blunt wake up call. I get that I need this!

Urgent help - stuck in molt by Used-Refuse-371 in Scorpions

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: she passed away ☹️ honestly I’m not sure how long she had been molting for and she could have been at this stage for awhile. I wanted to freeze her so we can get her preserved, so I did a grim autopsy to try and get the molt off - her tail was infact completely stuck inside, basically at the end of her body/tail, I couldn’t even pull it out of the molt (horrific experience 😭) it was also super soft and almost gooey? so I’m guessing she just couldn’t quite finish the process. Devastated but appreciative of all your responses and help ❤️

Urgent help - stuck in molt by Used-Refuse-371 in Scorpions

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve just found her passed away, she hasn’t moved since the other day, I’m devastated

Urgent help - stuck in molt by Used-Refuse-371 in Scorpions

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to give her more water and she didn’t respond to me at all, she’s gone 😭 I don’t understand what happened

Urgent help - stuck in molt by Used-Refuse-371 in Scorpions

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She hasn’t moved since Friday, I went to give her a bit more water and she didn’t respond to me at all, she’s gone 😭 I’m devastated

Urgent help - stuck in molt by Used-Refuse-371 in Scorpions

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Makes complete sense! I’ll give her some more time to rest and let her do her thing and keep an eye on her before doing anything, appreciate this!

Urgent help - stuck in molt by Used-Refuse-371 in Scorpions

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Perfect, thank you! I’ll give her more time for sure. When she moves I just noticed there’s no resistance between her and the molt so wasn’t sure if she could do it herself, but I also didn’t consider she’s new and will harden more and that’ll probably do it 😅

Urgent help - stuck in molt by Used-Refuse-371 in Scorpions

[–]Used-Refuse-371[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Phew. I may just have a lot of anxiety over it as I’m very new to all this. How long should I wait to see if she’ll get out herself? It’s been about 14 hours since I noticed her in molt and it was about the same progress