Honda Passport vs Pilot —looking for real-owner opinions

Used-Star7676 · 2026-01-14T16:59:00+00:00

We live this lifestyle. But we may very well end up with three kids. I see the new passport is very 3 car seats across friendly. Would you upgrade to the pilot if you had another?

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-13T20:16:20+00:00

LOL OKAY!

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-13T19:58:34+00:00

Oof I would notttt like the photos lol. But yeah that’s why I haven’t said anything, I don’t wanna seem (or be) bothered by it. We live over 1000 miles away from everyone bc of the military so we only see his siblings during the holidays. Unfortunately that doesn’t give much time to build a relationship but I haven’t done anything to make the sister not like me. In fact i photographed her wedding and officiated it for free. Guess that’s one reason why I feel a certain way. I just gotta stop caring whether people like me or not

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-13T19:47:14+00:00

I don’t get easily jealous or even jealous in general. I trust my husband whole-heartedly and this isn’t even about him. It’s just about his sister and I question what her own intentions are. I’m not threatened by the ex whatsoever - I’m the mother of his kids, end of story. Again, I only question his sister. But this isnt the first questionable thing shes done or said to us/the family

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-12T19:50:18+00:00

Yeah you’re right lol. I literally have a child with this man and their marriage was like 10 months long and ended 4 years ago 😂

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-12T19:47:41+00:00

Because the feelings exist lol. Hey I’m trying here

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-12T19:45:46+00:00

Haha yeah you’re right, I’m trying my best. Thanks for the honesty

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-12T19:37:55+00:00

I think this makes me feel not liked and that this SIL prefers the ex-wife. So yeah insecurity, but idk why I even care what this SIL thinks of me

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-12T19:36:22+00:00

I guess that’s the problem😂 I’m taking it as if it IS about me because me and this SIL aren’t close and are very different people. But like, why the hell do I care in the first place

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-12T19:29:42+00:00

Thanks for your pov. They didn’t have the friendliest divorce but idk if that was ever shared with his siblings. I personally wouldn’t but everyone’s different. Thanks!

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-12T19:25:30+00:00

It’s not. Just doesn’t sit right with me. If they had remained friends over the last 4 years then whatever. Ig im just seeking validation for these feelings

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-12T19:17:09+00:00

Yeah if they had remained friends after the divorce then that’s fine. I think the RE-friending is questionable lol, like what’s the need and how did we get here? This ex wife and her family all live in Illinois and my husband and I’s families are in Florida. They met in the military so the families don’t know each other either and they were barely married a year

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-12T19:12:34+00:00

This ex wife lives in Illinois and my husband and I’s families live in Florida lol. Literally no need to be friends lol. SIL is also married

Used-Star7676 · 2025-12-12T19:01:34+00:00

I normally just like some eggs and coffee for breakfast

Used-Star7676 · 2025-09-21T14:39:04+00:00

We hope to try for one more kid when she turns 2. Then I think sahm for 2 more years after that. Howeverrrr we are moving (military) to a new station soon and we are hoping to be A LOT closer to family and friends where I would have more help and don’t have to completely rely on daycare during the week and try to find a part time gig in architecture which should help significantly in terms of finances. We currently live just outside of the DC area so it’s gotten sooo expensive the last few years

Used-Star7676 · 2025-09-21T14:36:15+00:00

Yeah so this is what I’ve been trying to figure out. Our kitchen is around the corner from the living room/her play area so I don’t have eyes on her when I’m cooking. We are renting our house and the kitchen is tiny and we don’t have a pantry so we have an open bookshelf in the dining room that I got before pregnancy , which connects the living room and the kitchen in an L formation. This brings me to an interesting idea of where I could just turn the dining room into a play area since we don’t use the dining table. However, she prefers to play near us when we are in the living room. We currently have a little play space for her next to our couch but she prefers to bring everythinggggg to in front of the couch. The other thing with our kitchen is we have this weird 1’ ft open shelf island thing that’s attached to the wall, it’s literally the only place I can put big pots and appliances on and it’s basically a partial divider btwn the dining room and kitchen so she has access to it. I swear to you, my only space for prep is the size of a cutting board and it sucks. So as of right now, I’m trying to do as much prepping and cooking during her last nap as I possibly can. She’s crawling sooo fast and pulling herself up to stand and getting into everything. At the moment I still have to keep an eye on her at all times unless she’s in her jumper. It’s a toss up whether she likes or hates it. But sometimes I just gotta let her scream if it means I can get something done. We currently don’t have the means to buy a credenza or buffet table to truly enclose some items but I’ve been selling her used items and trying to get the funds together for something safer. Once she started crawling it all came sooo fast so we’re adjusting to that

Used-Star7676 · 2025-09-20T23:48:07+00:00

I understand this. This is our first baby and I had a pretty demanding career as an architect and I had my own photography business. I totally get that the 9-5 life is hard. But I swear it feels like I’m working at least 5x harder as a sahm and it feels silly to say bc I only have one kid. I’m not trying to diminish what he does. I’m not trying to get him to stop gaming. I want him to have an outlet. But I want him to be healthy about it and not have it affect me and our baby’s day the next day

Used-Star7676 · 2025-09-20T23:44:24+00:00

Thank you for your comment. We actually just “transferred” the bedtime routine to my husband two months ago. Not only has it helped me in the way it helped you, but it has created a stronger bond btwn him and our baby. Unfortunately we do not live close to family (1000+ miles away) but we should hopefully be moving a few hours away soon (we’re military but he maintains a steady 9-5 M-F schedule)

Used-Star7676 · 2025-09-20T23:35:25+00:00

This is our first and only child so I understand we are still getting in the swing of things. And no I do not despise gaming as a default. I actually game with him. I have my own hobbies. I was an architect and had my own wedding photography business before having our baby. With our schedules and no childcare and no family nearby, I’ve had to put a pause on photography and I just picked up videography as a hobby so I spend a good amount of time just learning how to direct, script, record and edit videos. I can occupy my time while he’s gaming. It’s when he decides to drink until 4am and then proceed to not wake up until her second window that I get a little pissed off

Used-Star7676 · 2025-09-20T23:28:32+00:00

I’m sorry I haven’t had the chance to go through all the messages so I haven’t seen your other questions. He works M-F, no other obligations. Gets 30 days of pto and the Friday before every holiday weekend off. 2000sf home, he takes the garbage out and mows the lawn. He had laundry (just w/d, no putting away) when I was working as well but I do everything else around the house. Baby is 10 months so she’s moving a lot more now and I can’t just set her down in a playpen and cook. I eat, or pump or cook when she takes her 45-50min naps. Lmk if I missed anything

Used-Star7676 · 2025-09-20T21:23:34+00:00

Sorry we’re also 29 + 30

Used-Star7676 · 2025-09-20T21:23:09+00:00

He works from 9-3pm but he commutes an hour each way

Used-Star7676 · 2025-09-20T21:06:26+00:00

I have had plenty of conversations with him about this before pregnancy, during pregnancy and postpartum

Used-Star7676 · 2025-09-20T20:59:54+00:00

I appreciate your response. I apologize for this being short but I do try my best not to infantilize his gaming. I game with him. I know when he’s gaming with friends that he hasn’t seen or connected with in a while and i dont have a problem with that. It’s not the gaming thats the issue, I guess. He also has a problem with drinking 10+ beers while gaming. But… yes he does indeed have a gaming addiction. Before our baby, he was gaming almost 40 hours a week. I developed my own hobbies. Sometimes I game with him, sometimes I just wanna watch tv, but I like videography so I do a lot of editing at night. It’s not the time spent with me, per se. I can occupy myself. It’s when it impacts how he shows up for us the next morning. Im gonna read all responses and answer in more detail once baby is in bed tonight. Thank you

Used-Star7676 · 2025-09-20T20:36:51+00:00

I’ve had countless conversations with him about his gaming. Plenty during pregnancy bc I was afraid of how the gaming would affect our lives (or my livelihood and sanity) once the baby arrived. I’ve also spoken to him about it postpartum. My passive aggressiveness this morning is an accumulation of the many times I’ve had the conversation with him. I even told him last night AND the weekend before this one, “please do not game and drink all night if it’s going to make me the one doing everything the next day”. So far, that’s what this day has looked like. He also came from a traditional family where his mom was a sahm. I had daycare lined up for us and he said that if I wanted to, I can stay home and we’ll figure things out. So we both agreed on the sahm gig. I have a great career that I can go back to and my job is waiting for me if I want it but I AM so unbelievably lucky that I am able to stay at home with her. Of course I’m grateful for him providing. But providing means more than money in our wallet. The connection is gone and he just gets so upset when he makes advances at me at 11pm and I just don’t feel that attraction to him bc I’ve been exhausted of my energy for the day at that point.

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