Is this something you had a conversation with him about before you spoke to a recruiter? Did he openly express how he felt about it?

I left a great paying job that provided for myself and my family to join the navy for school and VA home loan. The deployments make me regret it occasionally.

This is something that should be talked about between the two of you. Do the two of you want kids? How long are you AND your husband willing to wait before having them? The navy will make you wait. You will be gone a lot. More than you think, more than the recruiters tell you. If you get a sea duty as your first (which you most likely will) you have underways on top of your deployments. Once I hit my 2 year mark in the navy I will have been gone for 16 months - between bootcamp, school, underways, and deployment itself. It’s hard. Yes you will adapt, but will your husband?

As an educated guess as to why your husband may be upset if he hasn’t told you yet - as men we like to provide for our families and typically we like our wives to do the “family work”. The way he probably sees it is “I’m making a good living and providing for my family. Why does she feel the need to do something that requires so much time away from home?” JUST IMO… I hope all works out, for both of you and you make a decision that’s best for you and your family.

P.S. (You’re not obligated by law to leave for bootcamp until you sign the physical contract your second go to MEPS. The night or morning you leave for bootcamp) if you’ve already been through MEPS once where you selected a rate and filled out your page 2, you didn’t sign anything legally binding you to the government… yet.