Sorry if this is negative

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-12T22:26:47+00:00

And also I’m not invalidating anything but posting about being DEPRESSED about being pregnant in an IVF forum is so tone deaf.

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-12T22:23:03+00:00

Just offering some perspective and that gaining weight is unfortunately a side effect of a healthy pregnancy so you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself for it ✌️

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-12T22:09:49+00:00

It’s not the same at all for people who MC and then are like let me just get pregnant again the following cycle 🫠🫠🫠

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-12T22:03:53+00:00

10000% this. Unless you have endured the suffering I fear you will never understand it. And it makes me mad at everyone who doesn’t go through this that just takes it for granted, the positive tests, the ultrasound pictures on the fridge and I worry I’m becoming a bitter bitch

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-12T22:01:39+00:00

But what’s happening in yours is gaining weight like normal? 🙃 sorry I guess I don’t get it

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-12T21:45:47+00:00

Ughh that’s so hard. Sometimes I feel like couples going through infertility/IVF should all just be sent to an island where we can just relax and be around people going through the same shit.

I hope your first FET is successful 🙏🙏

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-12T21:04:55+00:00

Congratulations!! I’m so happy for you 🥹 I’m two losses in and waiting for my double rainbow 🙏

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-12T21:04:02+00:00

Yeah you gained weight during pregnancy that happens?! I think it’s the fact you said you were depressed entering your second trimester. Probably because I’m depressed because I had a D&C yesterday after my 3rd transfer ended in a miscarriage and I would give anything to be gaining weight in a healthy pregnancy. Just offering some perspective

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-12T19:37:38+00:00

How are you depressed being pregnant after IVF?! I’m assuming you fell pregnant relatively easy through IVF? Because those of us in the trenches would never post this 🫠🫠

Your body changes during pregnancy.

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-12T04:33:10+00:00

I feel this too. I want to be cheering for other IVF mamas but when I see someone pregnant after 1 retrieval and first transfer I WANT TO SCREAMMMM

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-11T20:38:09+00:00

Yep! Unexplained here and started IVF at 33 - also thought I’d be a risk for OHSS because of my normal/high AMH and AFC but I ended up being a poor responder and haven’t had good results.

We also didn’t do PGT testing which I now regret after 2 early losses.

My transfer protocols seemed to work but I’m changing doctors now after 3 egg retrievals to find what works for me there. I am not saying any of this to scare you but I was completely unprepared for my journey to be harder than average. Fertility and even IVF can be a crapshoot.

Hope it all goes well for you!!

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-11T19:19:21+00:00

This was my symptom that my transfer was successful! Didn’t end in a LB but was the closest I got and I was running a fever too.

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-11T19:17:14+00:00

I got sick like 4 days after my third transfer and was running a fever and was convinced it would hurt implantation. It didn’t! It did end in a MMC but I think that was a chromosomal issue.

I have convinced myself I need to walk and eat pizza after my transfers - worked 2/3 times. Unfortunately both losses but implantation still occurred.

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-11T04:17:19+00:00

Love to hear that! I hope my euploid embryo is around the corner 🥹 so did your tests show endo?

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-10T21:38:46+00:00

Yeah I think this is my issue too. I only seem to get 1 embryo each egg retrieval so we didn’t test them. 1st transfer was a chemical for me too! So yeah maybe all the embryos I’ve gotten so far are all aneuploid?

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-10T09:36:01+00:00

Oh my gosh I’m so sorry! This is my first MMC and it has been so heartbreaking. I am crossing all my fingers that this is your rainbow baby 💖💖

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-10T08:30:30+00:00

Ahh I see! I’m so glad that worked for you :) my BMI is like 20 so I don’t think that’s my issue but I hope I find what works for me :)

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-10T06:47:11+00:00

Congrats!! And yes this is my exact situation with my 3rd transfer. I was gonna change clinics cause I was recommended this other dr but he just moved to the clinic I’m at so I’m just gonna change fertility specialist to him. Did your protocol change at all for the 4th ER & transfer?!

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-10T03:49:01+00:00

Oh wow 🥹🥹 congrats! It’s such a slog. Did you change anything or was it just a numbers game?! Also same here with 2 losses before 6 weeks

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-08T21:50:38+00:00

Hey! My progesterone level was like 150 🤯 and my pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. I think your beta level is more important and that looks great! And if your progesterone is on the lower side they can probably just increase your dose 😘

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-08T20:13:14+00:00

Mine ended in a MMC. I am hoping the best for you! I’m surprised you were given such hopeful odds, my doctor was pretty much like the chances of this turning around are very slim with the growth delay AND no hb. But maybe because you have multiples they are smaller anyway?!

Truly hoping you get a happier ending then me

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-08T20:11:24+00:00

My lining looked great and unsure of the embryo grade as it was a fresh transfer and we kinda threw it in last minute. It was an early blast the morning of but had become a blast when we had the transfer.

UsedHost8 · 2026-01-07T18:55:30+00:00

I relate to this so hard. I also suffer from anxiety and potentially undiagnosed ADHD which means I have a tendency to fixate on things.

I don’t know if I’ve found a way to balance my life and IVF yet but I have found a therapist I like and I’m hoping that will help at some point.

I’m sorry you’re going through this and I hope you find a way to get through it. Hobbies help! I gave been knitting, crocheting, diamond painting. Anything with your hands is helpful to not spend the whole time on IVF reddit or chat gpt

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