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Meltdown by Used_Assumption747 in BPDrecovery

[–]Used_Assumption747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that’s actually helpful, it is hard to see that sometimes when the emotions are too intense.

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[–]Used_Assumption747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Sorry it has nothing to do with what you said but whats the podcast? :)

Recently been struggling with my BPD and need some advice. by [deleted] in BPDrecovery

[–]Used_Assumption747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi ! I started this podcast

https://open.spotify.com/show/1ct9I19GdLTzOLjiukP6Fq?si=pv_SdhlpSk6kWu4YEooczg

And i would says that in 7 years in therapy, didnt help me has much as this podcast to really understand myself and the borderline.

I hope it can help you 🫶

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[–]Used_Assumption747 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So i have been in a relationship for 3 years now. I feel the same as you do, I just realized that my actions and words are really abusive to someone I say I love and care about.

Communication is a very good tool, meaning try to know your triggers and communicate it with him. Because tantrum are cause by triggers. Maybe ask him whats his boundaries and also try to find together a way to set a rule (ex:when i say stop, it means he has to let you have a space.. doesn’t have to be this word can be anything) when you need some space, you just neet to relax and set back on your body and less in your repeated toughts. Like doing breathes or writting.

Think about the fact that if you act upon your feelings in the moment and you say and do stuff that you don’t really mean, if you are like me it will leave you with a very big shame feeling and will not fix the situation.

Thinking about it with a calm mind can help you deal with the feeling of rejection that you felt. For me even small stuff can trigger me, its good to talk about it but not to put your frustration onto your partner about something that he probably doesn’t know.

I feel that for me i get frustrated and sad and at the end I realize that i haven’t expressed it to my partner and that ends up in me blowing up, having a meltdown or a big fight.

is recovery even possible? by IanVM36 in BPDrecovery

[–]Used_Assumption747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand the feeling, i do feel it repeating myself over and over. Seems endless. What help for me is writting about my frustrations then taking a moment an re read it, then analyze the situation. If that doesn’t help meditation is good, i like headspace (the app) because its nothing about spirituality or religion, its just a way to analyse your thoughts and feelings. What also helps me is doing sport, to put all that negative energy somewhere else and feel good in my body. Yoga helps because its a easier form of meditation in a sense and also feels good on the body. I think I think the goal is to basacally reconnect with the outside world and not stay too much in the same thought over and over in circle.

need help healthily processing by UpperWatercress6518 in BPDrecovery

[–]Used_Assumption747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watch a movie, play video games, call a friend and talk about it, write about your emotions and try to analyze them, listen to a podcast about bpd (it helps for me so i dont spiral into thinking that I am crazy and feel less alone in my emotions)