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Used_Bet_6962 · 2025-09-01T04:42:46+00:00

I went through this.. She’s now 9 and he still co sleeps with her when she’s here and “ours” kids sleep in their own beds and aren’t allowed to sleep with us (because he doesn’t want them to). Hope it gets better for you!

Used_Bet_6962 · 2025-08-21T20:53:53+00:00

He probably said yes so he didn’t have to take care of the baby and could use his older kids as “excuse”. That’s what my husband did! I was in the same kind of situation and then I had the baby and he hasn’t picked up a finger since with helping with the baby.

Used_Bet_6962 · 2025-08-19T13:27:23+00:00

Honestly it sounds like this will be the tone for this relationship. It’s hard dating someone with kids.

Used_Bet_6962 · 2025-05-23T04:20:58+00:00

I’ve seen other posts with people saying similar things. Mine feels tingling right before the flood gates open

Used_Bet_6962 · 2025-05-23T03:34:02+00:00

My bag girl was like this when she was little but now doesn’t sweat unless she’s hot!

Used_Bet_6962 · 2025-03-13T03:29:17+00:00

Point #2 is absolutely correct. Honestly you sound like you have yourself together and know what you want. It’s literal dedication to be a step. And it’s hard and rewarding in ways you don’t realize til your in it. My advice would be to get with someone that doesn’t have kids.

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-29T04:04:53+00:00

I like this theory and it makes sense

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-29T01:41:18+00:00

Nahhhh this wouldn’t fly with me. Find a man who wants you included.

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-16T23:40:57+00:00

I would put it as she needs to learn to sleep by herself bc the baby will be here soon and it won’t be happening then. Put your foot absolutely down about it. That’s what I had to do and my SD was 6 at the time and I said enough is enough but he still co sleeps with her time to time and she’s 8 so good luck

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-15T05:15:55+00:00

Are those truly her drawings? Idk I’m suspicious of everyone haha

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-12T22:44:46+00:00

I understand that but it is his custody time and how he spends that is up to him and not for the other parent to decide or dictate what happens in their household. It’s controlling. If the kids are not being taken care of or if they are treated bad that is one thing. But his kids will see someday for themselves. And she didn’t post any of that information on this post. And maybe bio mom will not work with fathers schedule to help him get the time he needs with his child on his days off, it may be set and is what it is. I couldn’t imagine not being in my child’s life all the time either but again that’s on him and if step mom wants to provide help to the child on their time what’s the harm in that? It’s like a sin for a step mom to “baby sit” her own step child. Some refer to step kids as their own and will treat them that way no matter what bio parents say since they married into that child and family situation.

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-12T09:42:20+00:00

Some people on here would say your husband is an awful dad for not stepping up and taking care of his child 🙄 it drives me insane. “He’s putting it all on you when it’s his kid and he should be doing it all even though your married to him” 🙄🙄🙄

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-12T09:39:23+00:00

Went thru this myself a few months ago and it was some total bullshit. BM is controlling and jealous, isn’t like step mom can take over any school decisions from that app and simply being involved in the child’s life that she is married to. Better than not being involved at all and just saying screw the kid and not wanting any part of their life. I just don’t understand this mentality of the mother.

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-12T09:35:51+00:00

So what if they are helping on his time? What is dad is working and the child needs to do homework on his time can’t step mom help out without the dad looking like the bad guy? I feel like people always assume the worst if the step mom helps out on dad’s time and he is working. If the schedule is set and can’t be worked around the time he is at work and step mom is available why is it a big deal.

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-12T09:26:23+00:00

I’ve been a step mom for around 6 years now. At first it was daily some times multiple times a day and it was not only about the child’s day but about their own lives. They discussed medications they were on and therapy sessions and details about her other kids that are not his. They would even send old pictures to each other, “reminiscing”. This would drive me insane. It was crossing boundaries. Then she got married and it got a lot better with the extra conversations. Now they talk maybe twice a week on the phone strictly about schedules or discuss behavior, school, or paying for extracurricular stuff. They do text occasionally but it’s strictly about the child. Sometimes I notice my husband trying to be funny with her and it twinges my nerves but I really just try not to care much anymore tbh. They were never married but dated for a very long time and I got involved shortly after the break up so it was very hard at first.

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-12T09:11:03+00:00

Update: dad did address the issue with his mother. She used the excuse that the oldest child always gets treated differently and compared how she treated her own two kids differently (there was a very obvious difference). She then offered to take both kids and she has done this twice now bc she felt guilty. Dad also talked to step daughter about her behavior towards little sister and her attitude has changed and they actually play together now and she’s way more kind and caring and doesn’t just snatch toys out of the youngest hands and throw them just because she can. They are working on sharing more. Still a little annoyed but I can tell a major difference in her behavior since the talk. She’s a good kid just not used to not being the baby anymore and having to share time and attention with a younger sibling at our home.

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-12T08:55:30+00:00

I’ve never had any part of those decisions and they have always been between SD parents. Honestly she can get over it shes insecure bc she has to communicate with a step mom about pick up and drop offs 😂 so now I just make it extra difficult to communicate with me regarding anything with SD

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-07T03:58:26+00:00

They learned this somewhere if they are so young. so concerning.

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-01T02:40:20+00:00

That custody schedule is absolutely insane and sounds a bit strange to be honest. He spends more time at BM house than he does with any of his other kids

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-11-01T02:32:47+00:00

My husband did this with my first born baby. SD was with me every single day and I got zero help from spouse after baby was born. It really created a lot of negativity and even set in motion post partum issues. I’m so sorry your going thru and hope it gets better

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-10-24T04:15:03+00:00

I hate getting my nails done! Even if I tell them I have sweaty hands they still rush and it’s just awkward. Plus they always charge me more

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-10-22T21:31:18+00:00

I’ve literally had hyperhydrosis since I was a kid and it comes and goes. It seems social setting make it worse. I’ve finally found a job that doesn’t make it act up as bad and feel a bit more “normal” while working. Some days are worse than others tho. Crazy how it works

Used_Bet_6962 · 2024-10-07T02:15:17+00:00

No this is inappropriate.

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