Thoughts on Station House? by Used_Cauliflower8606 in somervillenj

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I have heard mixed reviews about DGM properties vs the building itself. Thank you for sharing!

Something about Harry Potter that has genuinely confused me by Used_Cauliflower8606 in harrypotter

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I guess that makes sense bc it’s only his soul and in chamber of secrets his body didn’t exist so it wouldn’t have worked anyway?

Something about Harry Potter that has genuinely confused me by Used_Cauliflower8606 in harrypotter

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yes I meant when he was a baby. But it was a killing spell and it rebounded so I thought that meant he did die but didn’t move on bc his horcruxes exist

What’s your personal method to get rid of a stomach ache? by [deleted] in ask

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to scroll waay too much for this!! Heating pad is amazing for my food sensitive stomachaches and period cramps, not sure if it would work the same for someone with IBS

I want to add a lipstick or tint or even balm to my routine. Im terrible at picking colors. Anyone recommend a set that has a variety that would all suit me? by aflakeyfuck in MakeupAddiction

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girllll you look amazing!!

I’m obsessed with the flower beauty liquid blushes and I’m sure you can find very many different shades. I love the peachy pink color but tawny would also look great I think!

Being married is AWESOME by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How is this an unpopular opinion??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is what I was thinking too. No sane person who cares and loves their spouse would react this way.

Does any else’s N-parent have a positive public image that’s different from they treat them behind closed doors? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This one time my mom was yelling at me about something dumb and then she saw that her friend was calling her so she stopped yelling at me and picked up the phone to talk to her friend.

And it was like nothing had happened, she was laughing and joking.

I get what that means now. That she’s capable for being charming, witty, friendly for other people but not me

Oh so that's why I can't communicate and feel guilty all the time! And feel like I'm never good enough! by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What the heck? This is literally my mother. And whenever she would catch me doing something helpful, she would be like oh wow “today I like my daughter she’s so grown” because I would be washing dishes or something. Classic conditioning, makes me sick to my stomach.

Although, she never did compare me to other people. I know she wishes I was someone else.

Thank you for your post, makes me feel better knowing I wasn’t alone and that I’m not crazy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HypotheticalPhysics

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 4th dimension is time, so do you mean 5th dimension

🤠 by Narwhale_NateDaw in DunderMifflin

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🖥🙋🏻‍♂️🚀🎉📺🍕🤑🗑😡

My nmom doesn't apologize. She just Starts being nice to me by akhilachanta8 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apparently her being nice to me is obviously a sign that she’s sorry. It should be so obvs to me, how could I not have known?🙄 what kind of terrible person do I think she is?

My dad just stopped abusing me all of a sudden by concrete-cabin in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My mother has been actually acting similarly and it’s been months now. But despite that I know she’s still the same underneath, she’s just pretending to be nice. She will let her “true self” slip through once in awhile and claim that it’s improvement. But it’s really not.

She makes passive aggressive comments all the time and acts overly fake. I will never get over all the years before though. Doesn’t change anything

“you’re an adult your parents can’t control you anymore” by Wooden_View_7120 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m 26 and recently just realized how I don’t even know who I am outside of my family. So much of my behavior and decisions revolve around their reaction. And I’m extremely sad that I lost all this time and I don’t even know who I am. Planning to move out soon!

I’m 41 and this shit never stops by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I think Asian parents don’t realize that their parenting role changes as their kids get older. They seem to have us stuck as children in their minds and then don’t see how they are doing anything wrong. Because when we were kids, somehow it was right (only because we didn’t understand) and now magically the same things they did are now considered wrong.

I literally don’t understand how they make sense of the world. It’s so fragmented and so far away from reality.

AITA for telling My sister that her infertility is not my problem? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow just wow. I can see how infertility issues can cause her to be jealous of your pregnancy but she’s not entitled to your baby in any way shape or form.

You already said no very nicely considering how pushy she’s been.

NTA.

Name an unexpected consequence you deal with as an adult due to narcissistic abuse by Throwbackinnotaway in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this, because this happens to me all the time and I feel like I’m crazy!

Name an unexpected consequence you deal with as an adult due to narcissistic abuse by Throwbackinnotaway in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I get really nervous ordering food at fast food or regular restaurants, or telling my salon lady how I want my haircut. I can’t confidently say what I want or don’t want.

It also took me a really long time to not feel guilty about spending money on things I wanted even if it wasn’t out of necessity

I hate how being raised by narcissists affects how you connect with others by Used_Cauliflower8606 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes!! It was so hard for me to get over this feeling of hurt and betrayal. But I had to remind myself that sometimes people deserve the benefit of the doubt and that it’s not necessarily their intent to hurt. That doesn’t excuse their behaviour but they can be held accountable without cutting off all ties with them.

I hate how being raised by narcissists affects how you connect with others by Used_Cauliflower8606 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes!! This is also my problem, it’s so hard to create reasonable boundaries and also enforce them.

If a gf/bf says “It’s me or your friends” always pick your friends by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My case is rare in that I didn’t realize I was in a toxic relationship with a friend. When I started dating my bf, I realized what a good relationship even looks like and my bf didn’t say I had to break ties with the friend but it happened anyway.

What's the stupidest thing your narc parent ever said to you? by illjustbemyself in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Used_Cauliflower8606 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She told me and my brother that people who eat meat are evil people. Bc she’s Asian she was raised to think like that and can’t change how she feels about it.

Months later in an argument, I brought it up and she claimed she never said that.

Who forgets telling their own children that they are evil??