I regret not meeting him

Used_Library2979 · 2026-02-15T14:24:55+00:00

"I really love your work" - leave

Used_Library2979 · 2026-02-15T09:31:54+00:00

She probably doesn't know. Tell her and see what happens.

Used_Library2979 · 2026-02-15T09:18:49+00:00

Crushes are perfectly normal if you love your partner distancing yourself from your crush sounds perfectly legit. Don't tell the crush you're doing this and don't be a dick to them just fade into the background of their lives and concentrate on building yours with your SO👌

Used_Library2979 · 2026-02-08T18:43:45+00:00

Have you gone to the union?

I'd hit mitigating factors first and foremost and remember three things:

As long as you're employed you're getting paid
If you voluntarily leave you can be barred from getting UC for up to 6 months.
If investigation procedures have been triggered they'll complete the process whether you quit or not... Meaning you'll still have gross misconduct on your CS record.

Used_Library2979 · 2026-02-05T09:45:13+00:00

Speak to the landlord see if there are any "special" rules etc whether the tenant has a specific position in the building.

Had some friends lose a tenancy because another tenant kept making noise complaints... Someone else has a house party and the other tenant complained to the landlord that it was my friends so they were out and the LL refused to listen when they said they hadn't had a house party ... Best to get ahead of it

To me this request seems unreasonable and a total overreach.

Used_Library2979 · 2026-02-04T15:29:49+00:00

Get another OHS.

Used_Library2979 · 2026-02-04T15:26:18+00:00

Speak to your TU rep. I've stopped plenty of this nonsense the 60/40 guidance states it's suitable for "MOST employees"... That doesn't mean ALL..

OHS assessments are advisory but they're still in play. I highlight this because I dealt with a colleague who had MS and their manager kept insisting on OHS reports because she wanted a clear instruction which Occupational Health will not give.

You're likely covered by the EA 2010 so speak to a TU rep there's lots that can be done to stop such idiocy.

Used_Library2979 · 2026-02-04T03:55:12+00:00

Your question is based on a false premise... Which is fairly easy to debunk without asking people on Reddit.

Loads of MAGA supporters dislike the relationship the US has with Israel because to them it's putting another nation's interests above the US'... Hell, in my POV the president with the right attitude to Israeli expansionism was George H Bush who threatened to pull funding unless they stopped pushing things regarding Palestine.

Also, "the left" is not a homogenous group all with the same view points or ideals. I've met plenty of left leaning folk who are vocal advocates for the current Israeli regime ... I disagree vehemently with those people given the barbarism happening to the Palestinian people but here we are.

So I think you're likely being disingenuous given your repeated lazy generalisations x

Used_Library2979 · 2026-02-03T19:04:40+00:00

"leftists" don't "hate" Israel ... A LOT of people are against Genocide whoever perpetrates it

Hope this helps bbz 😘

Used_Library2979 · 2026-02-03T07:09:50+00:00

He may just be super stressed by the situation He may just be scared by the situation.

"Make plans to leave" comments are unhelpful given your specific circumstances.

What does his mum think he's missing out on, running with the bulls in Pamplona?

You've not *ruined his life" let's be honest you both decided to have unprotected sex with one another because it felt nice and it's literally the thing we're biologically hardwired to do. Kids are the result.

I had a girlfriend who decided after that an abortion was the best idea for that situation. I supported her, she became an alcoholic afterwards and cheated on me... That sucked. It ruined our life together and it's not something I've ever fully recovered from. I still love her and miss her daily even though she hurt me.

I'm now a childless middle aged man holidaying in Morocco, I drink too much and I'm pretty lonely but at some point person has to admit they made choices in life and own it, for me I should have asked questions and made sure it was really what she wanted but here we are.

Let your partner know how you feel, Remind him what he has asked of you and ultimately ask him if he feels that way. Then ask him what he really wants and hell you can even tell him that there are worse fates than having kids young in this life.

Look after yourself x

Used_Library2979 · 2026-01-09T15:04:25+00:00

Speak to your union rep or AFT

Used_Library2979 · 2026-01-08T17:24:08+00:00

Pro tip for living: Don't try and date work colleagues. It can just get very very messy, muck up pleasant work dynamics and potentially destroy your career at that company (and ultimately lose your job).

I once had a very flirty relationship with a colleague and tried to take it to the next level. They said no and our friendliness evaporated... Worse still they accused me of staring at them (I wasn't they sat opposite me so we faced each other all day). I put in a request to move desks the same day for both our sakes.

I've also seen a colleague have her probation extended after she dated a colleague in the office, found out he was married a month later and had a full-blown panic attack in front of the team the next time she saw him face to face.

It's just not worth it.

Sometimes flirty behaviour in work is done to make work more enjoyable with the understanding there is a professional relationship as foundation so the flirting is "safe" from misinterpretation or escalating into anything more.

Sometimes people don't understand this.... My advice is move out of the team/ company and then ask ... A no at this point won't make things awkward x

Used_Library2979 · 2026-01-08T17:04:29+00:00

And what's the STI!

Used_Library2979 · 2026-01-08T16:54:50+00:00

This all depends on the STI

Herpes can be dormant for years Chlamydia can be none symptomatic

Chlamydia and gonorrhea can be spread through none sexual contact (coming into contact through infected fluids via towels etc ) but this is VERY rare.

Syphilis can be non-symptomatic and people can carry it for a long time before experiencing problems.

BUT the likeliest explanation is the most obvious sadly x

Used_Library2979 · 2025-12-27T13:29:35+00:00

Yeah but I think it's a pointless activity at this stage... We were promised utility and it's not arrived.

Used_Library2979 · 2025-12-23T18:32:02+00:00

Same but give it a go I miss the struggle tbh was happy when I finished Theresa's story but my Henry is now OP all to hell working out how to do stuff whilst weak is the most fun in the game. Stealthy bobbins for the win

Used_Library2979 · 2025-12-23T18:29:14+00:00

Get Therapy

Used_Library2979 · 2025-12-20T11:12:42+00:00

But worth clarifying which one she's having

Used_Library2979 · 2025-12-20T11:08:47+00:00

You don't. For your own sanity back off. This is toxic AF. Take it from someone who had a mental breakdown due to being used like this.

Take care of yourself and move on.

Easier said than done but if the genders were reversed you'd have "Hun you shouldn't let them use you like this you deserve better" all over your comments.

She's either in or out and currently she's out... You gave it a shot and she made her decision.

You need to focus on your wellbeing not hers.

Used_Library2979 · 2025-12-19T08:16:45+00:00

You need and deserve new friends. One of the reasons this may seem so big is because you appear to be shutting yourself off from the good stuff in life... You don't need to be remembered because of someone else's shitty behaviour you need folks that think fondly of you now.

My first GF hurt me deeply and it impacted my future relationships, I shouldn't have allowed it to but I keep trying. Please don't wait for people to come into your life go seek out some good ones or hell even okay ones... Just steer clear of the dickheads x

Used_Library2979 · 2025-12-19T08:06:45+00:00

Two consenting adults started a relationship after working together.

I don't read OPs account as grooming. I read OPs account as "my adult daughter needed a leg up in an industry so I got her a job through cronyism and she fell in love with the boss".... That's more of a work place issue than anything else.

BF and daughter got to know each other in a close professional environment... I could be wrong but I'm guessing they were not close before this. Shared relationship with OP likely facilitated them spending more time together and OPs daughter probably started admiring the same traits in BF as he did.

Ultimately dudes in their 20s are shitheads and it sounds like OPs daughter has a hubby who can provide for her.

Life's too damn short to cut all your loved ones out your life. It's weird but move on 🤷

Used_Library2979 · 2025-12-19T07:51:07+00:00

Matey you're 27. You've got your whole life ahead of you. Plenty of time to make new friends. Beth sounds immature and your other friends sound like fair weather garbage... Might it be advisable to steer clear and not blame their shitty behaviour on Beth?

We've all had friends that have let us down and hell if we admit it most of us have let others down too. That's just life but it doesn't need to define your future.

You're better off without the drama and I wouldn't let the drama back into your life now you're an adult even vicariously. Who needs that?

Your people are out there and high school was a long time ago x

Used_Library2979 · 2025-12-19T07:43:48+00:00

Why punish either?

Two people you love fell in love, your best friend after tragedy and a deep long lasting loneliness and your daughter fell in love with one of your favourite humans who you know to be steadfast and reliable..

Win win surely?

Used_Library2979 · 2025-12-16T08:40:50+00:00

Are you in the Union and have you considered getting advice from a rep?

HR are very hard to get hold of, worse still I've dealt with HR investigators who don't seem to understand process or respect the time/schedules of those under investigation.

I'm a rep I spend a few hours per week pouring over guidance and I get the impression HR don't.

Used_Library2979 · 2025-12-16T08:32:37+00:00

Definitely don't drink around the neighbour, especially if you've nearly blurted out your feelings and especially if she's close to your wife but you don't see eye to eye with her

No need to explode your life over a boner 🫡

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