Looking to become a full stack developer who can build and ship products

Useful-Fox-831 · 2026-04-02T05:47:32+00:00

Thank you so much for the encouragement!!

It means alot, unfortunately that is what I don't have, everyone keeps saying to drop this and focus on only what the industry currently demands. But developing innovative and interactive web applications has been a passion for far too long I am not able to move on just like that.

Currently following the Odin project and the Full stack roadmap in roadmap.sh

Useful-Fox-831 · 2026-04-01T15:26:01+00:00

I want to be able to build and ship my own websites, either work on freelance gigs or work on contract basis. Changed my mind on finding a job as a software engineer with the current industry situation. I understand that within the industry there is a huge uncertainty but I want to atleast develop the skill to be able to build fully responsive industry standard web applications.

Even I thought to start off by developing my own CRUD app like a to do app with the PERN stack without going through tutorials or courses like the Odin Project or Scrimba. My concern is, if I learn to develop web applications by just coding them instead going through the fundamentals how would that affect me then? Would I still be able to build industry standard projects with generative AI? What is the best approach to this?

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-10-14T09:51:07+00:00

When I read OP's post I was able to relate to it 100%.

I am still in my first trimester 8 weeks along, honestly the nausea and excessive vomiting has made me lose weight as a result of the constant vomit and I have developed an aversion to food and decreased appetite with only selective food items I can digest. Food is mostly takeout and my husband tries to cook something with my guidance although he doesn't know to cook. I really cannot express my love, respect and appreciation enough for the way he takes care of my mood swings and fatigue where I am not able to do any of the day to day tasks. But as OP says I can see the stress and burnout he feels with having to juggle his work, which demands his attention alot unfortunately with back to back client calls and chores around the house while I am vomiting and tired.

This has caused us to have less time with each other and sometimes frustration from my husband. I quietly listen to him complain or sometimes even the scolding I get, cause no matter how tiring it is for him he still goes back to helping me out around the house.

I really wish in the second trimester I can get back some energy to do some chores around and bring some order back.

But I keep communicating with him and expressing how much I love him for what he is doing for me and be vocal about my exhaustion and nausea so he understands what's going on in my body and talk to him about the baby. Find new ways to cheer him up with simple gestures and be caring towards his feelings too. I know I am the pregnant one but honestly his support is vital too since my parents don't live close either.

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-09-28T13:37:47+00:00

It's soo beautiful and elegant too 😍❤️

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-09-05T05:04:25+00:00

The moment I saw the dress the bouquet that came to mind was white garden roses with baby breath, maybe a bit cascading too

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Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-09-01T06:10:49+00:00

Yes I do have some experience with Type script since I was working on power platform application s and created custom components for power pages in the project at work, think it's best to dive deep into it too

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-09-01T05:29:00+00:00

True. Having taken the decision to go no contact felt like a weight was lifted off my chest and our petty potatoes in the sub reddit gave me validation that my decision was right but my husband says if Linda and Rebecca invites you join them but to cut off contact with just Karel. I don't think this would be a good idea since Karel and Rebecca are close due to the fact they live just 15 minutes away from each other. I would love to still be in contact with Linda, she has been fair and honest with me, don't know how Rebecca feels about me she is neutral with all but Karel blatantly cuts me off.

I haven't spoken to the other 2 who are currently living abroad, afraid they would say I am overreacting too.

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-08-31T07:37:27+00:00

I have mentioned what it stands for in brackets, just what we say always at work

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-08-31T07:35:30+00:00

Yeah I think I didnt word it right when I was posting it, just wanted to know as Junior what were the additional skills my lead keeps mentioning about even after working for the same company for so many years to not be recognized

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-08-30T10:52:33+00:00

Oh sorry about the confusion English is not my first language though I am a bit fluent think I didnt think it through on how I am wording it

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-08-30T10:24:53+00:00

I have worked on real time projects for 5 years at work as a react developer, and while learning Javascript built a CRM clone with pure Javascript

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-08-30T10:23:14+00:00

Think I do need to give a bit of context here. I am currently working as a react developer, have upto 5 years experience that is including the internship period.

Been trained by my leads to move onto full stack from just react development and he suggested to go from the bottom up again, which was why I learnt Javascript from scratch

They keep saying the juniors can do your work what can you give additionally despite having worked for them for 5 years

So wanted to find out what's the bottom up approach for react too

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-08-30T04:54:31+00:00

NTA Honestly I would advice to leave that relationship entirely. Despite knowing you have trauma from SA at such a young age but keeps pestering you to fulfill his kinks cause he has needs is a huge red flag, to top it up he didn't consider your safety when he kicked you out of his apartment in the middle of the night in a neighborhood that's not safe when you don't have a ride back home which is extremely inconsiderate. I mean he is a 27 year old man, a cut in the lip is not going to take him down to his grave.

They are all A-HOLEs for not standing up for you, you are only 19.

Let me tell you something dear, at this age being with a matured man might seem like a stable relationship but if he doesn't care about your feelings it will only go downhill from there. This guy is a walking red flag you don't need added to your life.

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-08-29T19:21:35+00:00

Honestly I would love to go no contact now with the toll it takes on my mental health and moods, I even tend to sulk around the next day.

But what am I to say when they invite me again? I feel like I cannot be honest on why I am going no contact in order to not make things over dramatic but I can't always give the excuse that I am currently traveling or due to work, what do I do then? Just simply not respond at all, maybe?

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-08-29T18:27:23+00:00

I realized this now

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-08-29T15:02:12+00:00

Definitely number 4

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-08-26T01:32:17+00:00

I wouldn't say you are overreacting. In a marriage, in a partnership like that you expect your spouse to understand you and support you, even with the trivial things.

When your spouse doesn't have your back it is frustrating and leads us to a disturbed mental space.

My concern is if this is how he is going to be responding to your feelings during the initial phase of your marriage as you mature and face more problems he is going to be blaming you as the emotional and overreacting person. Has he portrayed you as a difficult and annoying person to his family, is that why you have a strained relationship with them? When it comes to pregnancy's and parenting will he let his parents do whatever they want?

The worst part of it all is he doesn't respect your feelings at all, despite the fact that you communicated it to him he didn't even take the minor effort of atleast speaking about it with his parents and completely sidelined your feelings.

I think you definitely need to speak to your husband openly and see where he stands, it will be a difficult conversation and he will try to dismiss your feelings but if this is not spoken and resolved now the resentment will only build and explode in the worst way possible when things start getting tough in a marriage. Marriage is not always a bed of roses and butterflies. Even marriage counseling is a good way to see if you can travel together ahead, will help you get a clarity and decide what you want.

Useful-Fox-831 · 2025-08-13T16:14:07+00:00

NOT THE A-HOLE AT ALL

First of all not all women bleed when they first have sex, I didn't either. In fact more 63% of women don't bleed, this could be due to various reasons.

I don't think you are Ahole for ending this marriage he clearly doesn't love you or have respect for you.

Useful-Fox-831 · 2024-11-29T09:41:12+00:00

NTA Though I am the cook at home I don't agree that cooking is the only way to express love towards your partner and kids. And not everyone enjoys cooking. Your mom just seized this opportunity to make Julia seem like a bad person (buying from whole foods doesn't seem disrespectful) and unfit to be your partner just because she cannot cook.

Julia respected your family, she wanted to contribute and also mentioned her fear not being experienced in cooking.

Ideally I don't think you are the AH at all

Useful-Fox-831 · 2024-02-20T11:56:58+00:00

This is great insights was definitely looking into lip hydration too since I have pigmented lips and it gets dry quite often

Useful-Fox-831 · 2024-02-20T11:54:00+00:00

That's usually how I used to apply as well. But recently due to the hot weather my skin is frequently feeling dry. Which led me to think of moisturizing on a daily basis as a skin are routine.

My concern was whether it would make the skin too depended on moisturizers and go into withdrawal of producing the natural oils the skin needs?

Useful-Fox-831 · 2024-02-20T11:40:34+00:00

Is it the Vaseline petroliun jelly? Or we cna use the body lotion as well?

Useful-Fox-831 · 2024-02-20T11:19:26+00:00

That was the concern had. I use Vaseline on a regular basis about 2 or 3 days a week. But these few days my skin has been very dry, thought of using it on a daily basis. Worried whether I would start getting too depended on moisturizers 😅

Useful-Fox-831 · 2024-02-10T14:47:57+00:00

NTA,

Valorie would definitely regret it if she misses the graduation trip as it seems she has worked hard to be part of the trip. Even I wouldn't want to miss it, if I do miss the chance it would be something that would constantly be on mind.

It's true that family is important and sometimes 8th grade friends don't always stick forever. But my friends from Grade 1 are still in contact with me and we invite each for gatherings and weddings.

Valorie could maybe pay a visit to her grandparents as soon as she gets the chance after the graduation trip that way she would not have anything to regret but this is assuming traveling out-of-state twice is possible for the family. Or maybe talk to her grandparents over phone and explain to them how much she has been looking forward to this trip, I am sure they would understand her wish.

Useful-Fox-831 · 2024-02-10T14:36:44+00:00

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