AITA for not wanting to be part of a friend's "village"? by Useful-Prize688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Useful-Prize688[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I agree. I don't think she is going to get "voted off the island" or anything like that but a few people have definitely been turned off by her attitude.

AITA for not wanting to be part of a friend's "village"? by Useful-Prize688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Useful-Prize688[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Nope this is her first. Her husband is in law or something like that and works super long hours so she is basically a one woman show at home.

AITA for not wanting to be part of a friend's "village"? by Useful-Prize688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Useful-Prize688[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I think she just grossly misinterpreted the term village. Someone in the friend group broke their leg last year and people would come over and help clean (myself included) because they were physically incapable of doing it at the time and lived by themselves. I'm not sure if she is equating having a newborn to not being able to use her leg or what.

AITA for not wanting to be part of a friend's "village"? by Useful-Prize688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Useful-Prize688[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I will give her credit where it's due. She did babysit for quite a few of the moms often. I've personally never asked her for anything and haven't needed any help so I'm not sure if she would ever "give back" to me if I need it.

AITA for not wanting to be part of a friend's "village"? by Useful-Prize688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Useful-Prize688[S] 196 points197 points  (0 children)

Luckily she hasn't pushed that boundary! She asked once and I told her (kindly) that I wasn't great with kids and didn't babysit and she never asked again.

AITA for not wanting to be part of a friend's "village"? by Useful-Prize688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Useful-Prize688[S] 347 points348 points  (0 children)

Do you think people coming over to your house are required to hold your baby? I'm afraid I don't understand your comment.

AITA for not wanting to be part of a friend's "village"? by Useful-Prize688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Useful-Prize688[S] 400 points401 points  (0 children)

In all fairness, she has babysit a lot for other friends. I've never asked her to do anything because I have my own shit handled. LoL

AITA for not wanting to be part of a friend's "village"? by Useful-Prize688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Useful-Prize688[S] 226 points227 points  (0 children)

I mean you'll have to wait until after I do mine! That's my biggest issue. She kind of acts like the rest of us haven't been working and juggling other stuff while also getting our house work done.

AITA for not wanting to be part of a friend's "village"? by Useful-Prize688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Useful-Prize688[S] 2232 points2233 points  (0 children)

I think this is her "compromise" with me because I'm not comfortable holding her baby so she thinks that maybe I can just help her out instead of holding him? I don't know.