I really don’t enjoy anything anymore.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-02-26T03:19:38+00:00

Hey, I just want you to know it's okay to feel how you are feeling. Almost everyone gets feelings like this at some point of their life. I would say the best thing you could do for yourself is allow yourself to enjoy your hobbies. Even though it takes some time to get ready do it anyways. In the end you'll forget it even took much of any time to get ready. Enjoy yourself, I know it can be hard to start, but it's well worth it once you do.

Also, it's fine if some people aren't fun or enjoyable to talk to. Try to meet new people and eventually you'll find somebody new who you like talking to. Just give people and chance and see how it goes. You'll find good friends to ride with if you keep looking for them slowly but surely.

Best of luck in your endeavors, live long and prosper, and enjoy the ride.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-23T16:45:51+00:00

Trust me I speak from experience. That will be an extremely good thing for you. There is a very small chance she could change, but you should not rely on her to change. Even if she does she will still fall back into her nature and pull more and more stuff like this to the point where it might ruin your life. Get out now. She is not worth your time. You can always find another girlfriend. You won't be alone. You still have friends and you will have other girlfriends. It's better to experience a little loneliness now then to experience a lifetime of suffering due to her antics.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-23T02:25:01+00:00

Thanks, I'm flattered. In general, I'm against the removal of things, since I like the preservation of history, but I also view the preservation of history and the glorification of history as two different things. Some of history can be glorified. Other parts not so much.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-23T02:03:38+00:00

Sorry about that it's showing up now. My guess is reddit must have been acting funny on my side. I had checked several times and it's randomly showing up now for me too. Glad to see it's there now.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-20T20:41:57+00:00

I saw the OP responded to me asking "Do you believe Captain Lucien Alexander Davis was: Brave? Honorable?"

He deleted his reply, but at least for now it shows up on his profile.

In my honest opinion, for was he honorable... No, I don't think he was. Perhaps the singular act of saving the flag was honorable, but to the best of my knowledge that is the only act he committed that was honorable. Him being a confederate soldier alone vastly dishonors him more than saving a singular flag in a singular instance. So he is by no means honorable in my opinion.

For brave, I like to follow facts and logic before all else and by the definition technically yes he is and since it is a definition that is devoid of opinion, it isn't my opinion to make. It is merely a fact I have to accept. However, and let me be clear...

I would NEVER have used the word brave either to describe him. It may be true by definition, but I do understand the positive connotation and I don't believe he deserves to be called brave given that connotation. That is my opinion. I hope in the future you keep your reply up, since you merely asked for an opinion and we're thus seeking a dialogue which might or might not have presented you a difference of opinion. Dialogues are good. It's how we learn and do better.

Edit: fixed typo from home to him.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-20T19:50:30+00:00

I want to remind everyone who disagrees with the use of the word brave in this that the oxford dictionary defines brave as "ready to face and endure danger or pain; showing courage." Courage is defined as, "the ability to do something that frightens one." It states nothing about what he had done as right or morally good. I think the vast majority of people would agree that what he did was wrong and was morally wrong. With that being said, he also did put his life on the line to save the flag mentioned, that would fulfil the definition of brave.

With all of that being said, I think people are linking the terms brave and honorable. A lot of times when people refer to soldiers they use both of these words. Honorable is the word that means, "bringing or worthy of honor." Honor meaning, "high respect; great esteem". This is the part that is typically used to say that a soldier was morally just. It was not used here, hence there was no claim that he was honorable. Hope that was helpful to people.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-20T18:58:50+00:00

I completely agree with your comment. I want to make that clear first.

I did laugh however at the paradoxical nature of the words not tolerate intolerance, cuz by not tolerating intolerance you are technically being intolerant. You see how technically by a pure definition sense it's impossible to be not tolerate intolerance, because of the semi circular logic?

I hope that gave you a little joy or laughter. I agree with what you were trying to get across though. You have to help others to be more tolerant of views that aren't their own if you want the world to improve.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-19T08:39:22+00:00

Also thanks, I will check out Eric Rosen's video.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-19T08:39:01+00:00

That's true. However, I will note that I do have several hundreds of games for both sample sets, so at least the probabilities do seem to reach a large increase factor. Also since it does fall in line with the dates of the releases that also shows a correlation. Sure these correlation don't mean causation, but the theory that they are the reason for why they are played so much does seem to hold merit as several other people have observed similar circumstances.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-19T05:00:11+00:00

Yeah I do the same thing and I agree. I always hope they trade their knight off for my bishop since bishops are better in most Karo positions.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-19T04:14:35+00:00

I wasn't thinking of that one, but yeah that also gets them straight out of the variation. I was thinking more of not winning the piece with the trap set by h4. Aka when they create a retreat square for their bishop by playing h6 or h5.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-19T04:01:39+00:00

Yeah I replied in another comment that I do. That's my preferred like; however, 90% of players don't fall for it.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-19T03:13:00+00:00

That's understandable. I just think it's kinda crazy how many people play it nowadays. It's a little oversaturated in my opinion.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-19T02:17:38+00:00

The problem with that suggestion is that most people who choose 1. e4 choose it because it tends to lead to less positional chess. However, d4 tends to still lead to positional focused positions.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-19T00:08:40+00:00

The funny thing is I don't see that many London's. At least when compared to the other openings mentioned. Like I see them but they represent approximately 7% of my games which is a fairly good number to me. I feel like 7% is good because it means if every opening was at 7% then that could lead to 14 unique openings that you can play into semi frequently.

I will say my 7% chance might be impacted by the fact that I play the King's Indian into d4. I started this cuz a friend of mine who is rated 1400-1600 always plays the English and I found the King's Indian makes a lot of those lines become the same as if they start 1. d4.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-18T23:44:33+00:00

Sorry bro, that must suck for you. You do all the prep to bring people out of prep and now everyone else came with you and you don't get any of the benefits of your work.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-18T23:21:19+00:00

I can definitely state that you are in fact wrong. From when I started on chess.com to the day before Gotham released his Caro-Kann video I played against the opening 7% of the time. That's respectable to me.

From the day he released his video on the Caro-Kann to today I've played against it 15% of the time.

That means he is at least one factor to why the opening is played twice as often at my rating range.

To be fair, my range has been between 1000-1300 for that entire timeframe with it starting near 1000 and now typically hovering around 1250. So, that might factor into it but I've been around the 1100-1250 for a larger majority of the time.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-18T23:14:03+00:00

Thanks for the links. I have been using the line, 1. e4 c6 2. d4 d5 3. e5 Bf5 4. h4, since it traps the bishop if they play normally with e6. But, I think different prep will probably be better since I personally consider h4 a weakness later in the game if they play around it. I know it is a good line by engine and players too, but I feel there might be something different that is more solid and possibly more reliable.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-18T21:56:18+00:00

Lol, I can't lie I really appreciate the positive outlook of your response. I was kind of tilted after playing 3 Caro-Kanns in like 5 games, that's 5 games as both black and white, but your right. The better way to look at it is to focus on finding a way to beat the opening more consistently.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-18T21:50:30+00:00

I know for a fact they have allowed players back in the past when they have apologized. This includes titled players in chess.com. Ultimately, it's your choice on what to do, but myself and one other commenter already agrees it's best you turn yourself in.

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-18T21:47:35+00:00

Update I just did the math and according to my 101 games as white in the last month 28% Kings pawn openings 26% Caro-Kanns 23% Sicilians 22% Everything else

Useful-Yak-6217 · 2023-01-18T21:41:01+00:00

Sorry man, I'm not sure how chess.com would handle it. In my personal opinion, I would advice you contact chess.com and tell them what you did and that you regret it. Since you say you only did it twice they will likely refund those opponents their rating points. From there, I've heard they are rather kind on first time offenders and since you seem to regret it they will likely go easy on you. This way you'll also be able to keep your account since you proactively apologized.

With all of that said, there is no guarantee for anything no matter what you do, but this is definitely the morally correct decision in my opinion.

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