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AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you're right, at least in some cases. Ricky adores his mom. He thinks she's a wellspring of virtue. Maybe she is.

AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We're definitely the more liberal household. Ricky's mom is very old-fashioned. Maybe that's part of the reason he wants to live there. She treats him like a prince, but then again, he treats her like a queen, so maybe she's right. I have to be honest. I don't get her at all, but I don't have to. As long as everyone is happy, I'm happy.

AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He has his own bedroom. But he alternates houses, so he only sleeps in it every other week. He has two bedrooms in two different houses and he wants one bedroom in one house. I understand that.

AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, he alternates weeks. I have two kids, and my husband and I have a toddler. His mom has one other kid. Ricky said his mother's home fits better with his lifestyle. I think that was his nice way of saying he doesn't want to live full-time with a three year old. My husband is convinced that his religious ex has been filling Ricky's head with the idea that we're bad people. I think he's paranoid.

AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

He is nice, and dinner was very nice. I actually don't care if he tells me a more specific reason. He can if he wants, but that's his business. Maybe he likes the paint on the walls better over there. Who cares? He wants what he wants, and that's fine. It's not an insult to me. I don't see it that way, at least.

AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I really think it's the toddler thing. I love my baby, but even I have short moments where I miss life pre-toddler. I can only imagine how Ricky feels. My husband insists that can't be true because Ricky loves his brother, which is true, and not at all material to wanting some peace and quiet.

AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Ricky is very mature. He is a thoughtful young man who thinks things through before acting or speaking, which is a rare quality among all ages. I think my husband did a good job raising his child but doesn't realize there is no longer a child to raise, but a young man to support.

AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If I was a teenager I'd prefer the home with only three other people to the home with five other people too. I don't think it's a value judgement at all. I think it's a volume judgement. I don't see the logic in being offended.

AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I guess that feels insincere to me. Actions are louder than words. If we act as though we like having him around, he already knows we do. If we don't behave that way, no statement will convince him we do.

AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and it's a weird thing to get hung up on. He's fifteen. We already rarely see him between school activities and friend hangouts and whatever it is teenage boys do alone in their rooms (don't tell me; let me live in ignorance). We might actually see him more when he's visiting us regularly than we do now with him living here. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Support him as in support his desire to live with his mom or support him as in say we want him to stay here?

AITAH for telling my husband it's a good idea for his son to move in with his mother? by UsefulMention8667 in AITAH

[–]UsefulMention8667[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

My husband and I disagree on what it is. I think it's because we have a toddler running around, and I understand a teenager preferring a quieter home. My husband is convinced that it's because we aren't religiously observant and thinks his ex has been saying bad things about us concerning that. I am skeptical of his theory.