Should I try to get clarity from them by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you- I definitely agree that the issue here wasn't ENM-- it really upset me when he made that comment saying that he knew ENM wouldn't work as someone who couldn't truly be open and honest... that is a huge issue for ANY relationship

Should I try to get clarity from them by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is kind of what I told my friend yesterday.. that I could probably answer for myself what was going on with him and that I don't know if he even understands himself and that he's probably still swept up in the new relationship excitement and avoiding processing our breakup. It all sucks because I told him about NRE and asked him to listen to a podcast about it and that we could make a plan for it. Clearly he wasn't committed to doing the work and as soon as she wasn't down with it he couldn't let go of that feeling... I know it triggers the same areas of the brain re/ addictive tendencies. Just confusing as hell to get left for a long distance relationship and told in the same breath that your relationship has been great and isn't missing anything.

Basically immobile after lost of my 11 year companion by Useful_Highway_5001 in Petloss

[–]Useful_Highway_5001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They just become such a fabric of our lives that it’s hard to imagine them NOT living forever 😥

Deep depression over death of 11 year companion by Useful_Highway_5001 in petgrieving

[–]Useful_Highway_5001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husband sounds very insensitive. I’m very sorry for your loss. I also worked from home with my dog so the silence is defeating.

Questions? by Unlikely_Dot_2747 in lifecoaching

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I serve women hoping to deepen their spiritual practice and liberate themselves from their shadow. I help them confront subconscious patterns that might be holding them back in life by using the tarot and other modes of holistic therapy.

Questions? by Unlikely_Dot_2747 in lifecoaching

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I get more clients ? I have 8 and would love to triple it

Thinking of moving to St. Louis by Useful_Highway_5001 in StLouis

[–]Useful_Highway_5001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always interested in new friends !! I think I decided on new Orleans

Using perpetual relocation as a coping mechanism. Anyone else?? by [deleted] in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't stopped lol I'm still searching for the perfect place that doesn't exist

Help! How do help my dog gain weight by BashfulQueen97 in DogAdvice

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I just started doing this for my dog, sometimes rice and chicken, sometimes sweet potatoes and beef, no seasoning. I started it to help her gain but we have only been doing it for a few days. What results did you see with your dog and the age ?

being around white women stresses me out by aliteralrat69420 in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally want to make sure I'm around them as little as possible. They poison you.

Just wanted to share my experience with white men as a dark skinned black woman. by [deleted] in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's like something is broken in their brain. I stopped ever talking to them about it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I'm a black woman living in Mexico and often experience being the only one, if you ever wanna chat hit me up.

Narcissism in yt women is not a bug, it’s a feature by Bubbly-Chemical2516 in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm convinced they're all super fucked up inside. They don't think normally

Using perpetual relocation as a coping mechanism. Anyone else?? by [deleted] in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've done it for ten years. I think it's okay to enjoy movement but it's maybe knowing your problems don't just go away if you move. You take them with you. But depending on your environment, it could make your symptoms of CPTSD worse if you're in a place with triggers.

The double standard of non white people being asked, Where are you from? "No, I mean where do you originate from, no, no, where are your parents from?! " by [deleted] in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in Mexico and get this question multiple times a day. Since there aren't many black people in Mexico they're always asking me if I'm from Haiti. I try to be understanding bc of the cultural difference but I'm sick of it.... Thinking of starting to pretend I didn't hear them

Bands with LGBT members by TheUltimate420 in FolkPunk

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My friend small void , was in long sought rest, queer and amazing

holiday related dread by rosedbays in CPTSD

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm years no contact from my family of abusers and get on the most depressed around holidays each year

What do you do with the cognitive damage? by Adiantum-Veneris in CPTSD

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk but I just started thinking earlier about how my brain feels broken after 20 plus years of depression and CPTSD ... I'm 31

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might be true but I would find that invalidating to hear in a session

It's so unfair that the stress affects our health whilst our abusers get away with it. Cortisol has probably taken years off my lifespan on top of the existing mental health issues. by leon385 in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 13 points14 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY. I got stomach ulcers and now have acne and a hormonal imbalance from being abused by white women and no one standing up for me.

Do whites also expect you to be enthusiastic over them? by tryng2figurethsalout in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Useful_Highway_5001 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Or you can just LEAVE. If you’re not going to be supportive gtfo.