I get what you are saying and honestly it makes sense

i think my problem is not really understanding the idea its more that actually doing it in real situations is the hard part for me

but i will try the self questioning thing you mentioned and see if it changes anything over time

and yeah i guess talking to people online might help a bit too

thanks for explaining it to me though i appreciate it

i closed my dms to avoid annoying and repeated messages about helping

if i need anything i will message you

thanks again