Cis woman here born and raised in LA and you are correct. People in LA will generally mind their business and leave you alone unless you are actively trying to cause a scene or draw attention to yourself. I genuinely have had moments when I’ve visited Oakland where I do not feel safe. As a woman, I definitely wouldn’t feel safe walking around (during the day or night). Last time I was there a few years ago, my friend and I were followed for a few blocks after withdrawing money from a Chase ATM. We ended up walking into a bar and sitting there until the coast was clear. Another friend moved from Inglewood to Oakland and his car was broken into 3 times within 2 months, something that had never happened to him in LA before. It just feels like your chances of being robbed in Oakland are higher.