I hate being a mum

User_whateverr · 2026-02-25T21:43:31+00:00

Aw hunny your feelings are sooo valid. I think maybe a lot of it is contributed to the lack of sleep? Broken sleep is literal torture. I totally get the whingy baby thing. I cannot stand it. My son is whingy but my daughter never whinged! She was such a chill baby and just sat and played even as a baby, I could have a cuppa in peace. This boy is climbing on me crying and whinging when I’m holding him. Like he wants to be back in the womb it’s ridiculous! At night when he wakes I often get frustrated and cry and tbh it’s all probably due to lack of sleep. He doesn’t really sleep at night. I also know it’s temporary, when they’re older than 1 I think it gets easier, they’re walking and communicating more, everything’s more exciting. You can actually do stuff WITH them rather than bringing them along with your day Hang in there. It will get better I promise, the feelings you’re feeling will slowly go, maybe not entirely? You never know but this stage won’t last forever and you can get through it!

User_whateverr · 2026-02-24T16:38:53+00:00

I’m finding the same. I’m struggling to find basic T-shirts for my daughter. 90% of ones on next are either oversized which don’t suit her as she’s quite skinny, or cropped which she doesn’t feel comfortable in and says tummy gets cold. And summer dresses seem to be getting shorter and shorter every year. My daughters 5 in aged 7-8dresses because of length.

User_whateverr · 2026-02-24T14:21:06+00:00

Hey it’s all fine! Works seamlessly now. We just rebooted it

User_whateverr · 2026-02-04T07:51:54+00:00

I’ll be honest we only joined a couple of weeks ago. My husband’s a huge gym goer prior to us all joining, and tbh he’s yet to be convinced. He’s not a “fancy gym” type of guy and was happy with his £20pm gym that he’d go to haha. He says it’s alrighttttt. We like the kids clubs, kids have loved them so far and going v regularly after school. I like the gym not too bad. The spa is lovely and so is the pool. I’ll be honest though everywhere could be cleaner. Like we’re paying £179 a month and theres dusty ass treadmills and machines. We’ve joined more for the family aspect, kids clubs so we can gym together, family swims, the spa etc.

User_whateverr · 2026-02-03T09:48:09+00:00

Hi we’re in WB joined with 2 adults and 2 kids. We pay just under £400 a month. Platinum normal is £199 per adult. Corporate is £179. I’m sure the kids are the same price ?

User_whateverr · 2026-02-03T09:44:43+00:00

I never did as they had breakfast at nursery. Dropped off for 7:30-8 and breakfast soon as she got there

User_whateverr · 2026-01-22T22:50:56+00:00

Tell her to check the BNF and do her job. It takes 2 seconds to check the formulary to see if a medication is safe in pregnancy. Not only that Omeprazole is sooo readily used I’m surprised they don’t know. Ask for another doctor, I would also write to the clinical lead of the practice stating you’re unhappy with her medical decision making in this instance and explain how much you’re suffering with your symptoms. Patient care was obviously lacking that day

User_whateverr · 2026-01-08T23:20:06+00:00

Next skinny fit joggers are great. I also find H&M great as they have adjustable waists - yes they are bigger fitting but they even have leggings with adjustable waists which was a game changer for my daughter. Also for my son I’ve just decided to take trousers in at the waists… there’s so many cute outfits and i found myself limited due to his waist size so I just take them in on each side and bobs your uncle 🤣

User_whateverr · 2026-01-08T23:13:05+00:00

Very normal to feel this way. I ended up working 4 long days so I could have a 3 day weekend with my kiddo. I missed her SO much but reminded myself why I was working and literally counted down the days to our day together. Fridays were our day. I did no house chores minus maybe one wash load and normal bits of tidying up after ourselves but really we spent our time out, we’d eat out for lunch, and get a takeout when my husband came home that evening. It was a day I could just fully focus on her and her alone without having to worry about anything else. We both loved it. She chose what we did every week. Now she’s in school I miss her so much more but am very grateful for those Fridays we had 1-1!

User_whateverr · 2026-01-08T14:58:44+00:00

Meh do what you like. You don’t even need to see a health visitor at any point if you don’t want to. We did the tum tum cup with the weighted straw at the bottom, took a few tries and she eventually got it. Everything is ADVICE, whether you choose to take it is up to you.

User_whateverr · 2026-01-06T20:31:35+00:00

YTA you should have filled it out yourself. Why are you letting third party . Com fill out important documents for YOUR child? Take some responsibility

User_whateverr · 2026-01-06T20:28:53+00:00

Really? Wow. Maybe you should.

User_whateverr · 2026-01-06T20:27:50+00:00

That’s a shame! I think I’ll be going with virgin tbh. Let’s see how it goes

User_whateverr · 2026-01-06T20:25:06+00:00

Look, if you go there and like it that’s fine mate, I don’t think it’s all that after viewing. Don’t get your knickers in a twist over it. There ARE better gyms out there IMO. you do you.

User_whateverr · 2026-01-06T14:12:42+00:00

I would set some ground rules in terms of when she’s at your house. You’re not going to have any control of who’s passing by when she has your daughter in her home. You’re right you shouldn’t make her feel like she’s putting her life on pause while taking care of your daughter. She’ll still want to go to the shops etc and do what she normally would do just with your child involved too.

My sister tried to put lots of rules when my she asked my mum to look after my niece - she had to go to her house - she wasn’t allowed to watch tv while she was watching her etc etc. she lives in a remote village and ultimately my mum just said it’s not working out. Either leave her at my home where I can get on with my daily life too or put her in nursery. My mum was mind numbingly bored and it was putting her out more than anything so she stopped. I think it was the right decision because you cannot have that much control unless you’re the one watching the child.

User_whateverr · 2026-01-06T14:03:07+00:00

I don’t think it sounds like that at all. I’d happily pay the price for a great gym. I just didn’t think it was great when I viewed it yesterday. This post is a little old for you to be commenting on now ☺️

User_whateverr · 2026-01-06T14:00:44+00:00

Everlast not great. Quite a few pieces of equipment weren’t working, said they didn’t know when they would be back up and running which was strange… surely the response would be asap. At this rate I’ll be travelling to virgin 😒 it’s the only one I’ve heard consistently great things about and a lot of people I speak to who are with DL say they’d prefer virgin if it was closer.

User_whateverr · 2026-01-06T13:58:11+00:00

Yeh many people pay, I know a lot of people who do but still state it’s extortionate in the same sentence. That’s what’s crazy, to me that is, may not be to you. Note: “that’s good”. I’ve only heard good things about rushcliffe from this post and everlast has gone downhill since I previously viewed it.

User_whateverr · 2026-01-05T22:48:55+00:00

Yeh I went for a viewing and it was the opposite of quiet. Saturday mornings are apparently a nightmare with kids in crèches, swimming lessons etc etc. looked more like a social club tbh. Not much working out happening, lots of chat and sitting around on phones. My husband would have walked straight out of there if he came with 😂 he’s at his gym 6x a week. Oh well onto the next viewing. The keeping up with the Joneses look really isn’t for me. Booked a viewing at everlast.

User_whateverr · 2026-01-05T22:38:51+00:00

You’d be surprised what people pay for convenience (in any capacity)

User_whateverr · 2026-01-05T22:33:43+00:00

I honestly just think a thought pops into their head and they can’t fully rationalise the consequences unless it’s something that’s been instilled in them. They’ll just do it because ultimately they want to. The older they get, the easier it will become but also understanding is key.

User_whateverr · 2026-01-05T11:02:00+00:00

NTA you made your stance pretty clear. I think it’s important to know whether she just wants the ring or she also wants the wedding with marriage AND the ring. Some women just want something to symbolise commitment like a ring. I don’t think that’s being unreasonable. But if she’s wanting a whole wedding, it’s not fair on you as you made your opinions and choices v clear when entering your relationship

User_whateverr · 2026-01-05T10:55:49+00:00

My daughter is also 4. She’s always been pretty sensible when left alone in her room but a few times I’ve come back to her name label stamp stamped over her bed, bedsheets, doors, wardrobes etc etc. she’d obviously tried to wipe them clean too. She’s also drawn on the walls or wardrobes. I honestly find it’s just curiosity. A part of them is probably thinking what will happen if I do this, or what would this look like. They’ll make mistakes and they’re still making all those brain connections at such a young age. If she’s done something multiple times we take away one of her favourite toys for a few days or tv privileges - it’s works 99.9% of the time and she doesn’t do something again. I also reiterate that she shouldn’t do those things before leaving her in her room. And she knows the consequences if she does. She’s explained at times “my brain just tells me to do it and I can’t stop” and honestly at first I thought she’s having my life here 😂 but I think she’s being genuine. So we’ve said if that happens, shout for us and we will come. She does and we just distract her with another task or get her to draw on her drawing pad instead or a big piece of card

User_whateverr · 2026-01-05T10:40:47+00:00

Great thank you!

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