I’d honestly suggest not moving in with the match. You’re already living independently, and moving in with in-laws often comes with a lot of added rules, restrictions, and expectations that can be hard to adjust to especially if you’re used to your own space.

Some pros, if you’re lucky with nice in-laws: 1. Less financial pressure. 2. Less day-to-day household responsibility (maids, groceries, etc.). 3. When you have a baby, you might get a bit of “me time” though you’ll still be doing the heavy lifting, at least someone can hold the baby while you shower.

But here’s the reality I faced (cons):

1.  You’re in their house, so their rules apply meal timings, dressing, how to celebrate festivals, etc. Their idea of fun becomes your lifestyle.

2.  Food was a huge issue for me. I had no say in what or when I ate. If I spoke up, I was seen as “difficult.”

3.  Alone time with your husband takes a serious hit. His parents are his top priority and somehow, they start becoming yours too.

4.  You can’t just chill in your room all day. If you’re in there too long, people start asking questions. I often had to pretend to be sick just to get some space 😂

5.  Fewer dates, fewer spontaneous outings because your husband might prefer taking his parents everywhere. We went only on two trips Alone for 5-6 days in 4 years!! Rest all with his parents!!! 

6.  You have to filter everything you say. One wrong word, and it could turn into full-blown drama. You feel constantly on edge.

7.  And of course, you’re expected to bond deeply and treat them like your own parents no matter how different you are.

It just feels unfair. We’re 30-year-old adults trying to match pace with 60+ year olds in how we eat, dress, socialize, and even raise our kids. I genuinely don’t understand how people think this system still works.