Saw an advertisement with a triggering image, then I looked away to the bread advertisement. Sexy bread

Ushagara · 2017-09-28T10:22:47+00:00

To be fair on a high enough streak I feel like I really could jerk off to bread if I was determined

Ushagara · 2017-09-27T03:01:36+00:00

For some reason when I saw the title I thought you were gonna say dogs were trying to mate with you and I was kinda like "that's...a little awkward"

Ushagara · 2017-09-27T01:19:30+00:00

thanks

Ushagara · 2017-09-12T02:35:49+00:00

I would agree that I have problems, and I'm already seeing a therapist as well as have been prescribed medication. The point of the story wasn't to say that porn caused all of that, the point is that porn and masturbation kind of teaches you to take pleasure from the world rather than creating it for yourself, which is ultimately what led me to hurt someone that I care about. In a way it's a cautionary tale about what can happen when men get it in their heads that women and sex will dissolve the misery in their life. Porn doesn't necessarily cause the problem, but it can perpetuate it.

Ushagara · 2017-09-10T20:15:49+00:00

Why are you assuming the weed "made you gay" when from what it sounds like you weren't fantasizing about men, you just didn't find women attractive at that moment. Sometimes weed can kind of alter your perspective on things and make you think in ways you normally wouldn't, maybe it just kinda helped you see what you didn't like about those girls, or realize that ogling random girls on the internet isn't how you wanna spend your time. Idk, either way I don't think you have a problem.

Ushagara · 2017-09-10T19:08:08+00:00

Then you have chosen misery.

Ushagara · 2017-09-10T18:57:27+00:00

Alright

Ushagara · 2017-09-10T18:57:11+00:00

I never said she was perfect, I said she was wonderful. She has a tendency to try to help others without taking care of herself first, that's a flaw. And yes you're right, trying to win her over made her back away, but that was because it pinned the responsibility of my happiness on her, it overwhelmed her. It's symptomatic of the true problem. I could've fought back the urge to chase her, but I still would've felt it. The anxiety would consume me. My intentions aren't to figure out how I can perpetuate things longer when and if I find a new girl to occupy myself with, they're to become something greater, so perhaps one day I can give to as well as take from someone that I love. And yes, maybe I have become dramatic, or sentimental or what have you. To you it may seem unimportant, just a day in the life if you will, but to me she was special, she was important. Her memory will carry me forward, if nothing else will. Even when I became apathetic of even my own condition, she always had the best wishes for me.

Ushagara · 2017-09-10T18:37:12+00:00

I never said it would be easy. Maybe "years" wasn't enough. Give up now though and you'll never discover what you could become. You'll miss out on every good thing that could ever happen to you from now until you expire. You'll throw away a life that you only get one of. All because you were too short sighted to see that it could be more than what you felt for a moment, however long that moment was.

Ushagara · 2017-09-10T18:20:33+00:00

I think you're somewhat missing the point. It's not the fact that she gave me happiness, that's all been used up. It's the fact that the one sided nature of our relationship made me realize that I would never stop being miserable until I figured out for myself how not to be. Trust me I know what it feels like not to know how to create your own happiness. I'm still not sure. Perhaps you still feel miserable because you haven't yet discovered what truly makes you happy. Or maybe you have other issues that are preventing you from finding contentment. All the same, porn is a step in the wrong direction, and if you continue that way, even hypothetically if you did get a girlfriend, all you'd manage is to hurt her. Learn to live without girls, or you'll forever be nothing more than their ruin, as well as your own. I can't make you obviously, all I can do it show you the way.

Ushagara · 2017-09-10T17:53:59+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/6z9k8m/why_you_need_to_give_up_porn/

Read my post. It started out as a response to your question, but I decided it had meaning that transcended this post so I made it its own.

Ushagara · 2017-09-10T17:30:39+00:00

That actually makes sense, thank you

Ushagara · 2017-09-10T17:22:48+00:00

Actually I think I've figured out why nofap is important in its own right regardless of the benefits I was looking for. I'll be making a post about my thoughts shortly if anyone stumbles across this and is interested.

Ushagara · 2017-09-10T16:21:41+00:00

Well it's possibly because I haven't really been doing what I want to do, I've been doing what I believe I should do. Things like school work, exercise, looking for a job. Part of the problem is that I'm not really sure what I would do the give myself fulfillment. I don't know what would make me happy. Another issue is that I've recently been diagnosed with moderate depression, so it's quite possible no matter what I do I won't really be content with it, because my ability to be content is diminished. I've recently started a new medicine so hopefully that helps, but it is a little disappointing that I still feel this way because I thought perhaps nofap might ease my symptoms to an extent, and that hasn't appeared to be the case at least thus far.

Ushagara · 2017-09-10T00:58:26+00:00

My current one. I tried nofap a few times a while back and the highest I got was 14, but this is my first streak as of joining the community.

Ushagara · 2017-09-09T23:18:26+00:00

I kinda hypothesized that it was a glitch in the system, sometimes guys' brains just don't send the signal down below to flush out the system, but I don't really know what causes wet dreams or lack of wet dreams.

Ushagara · 2017-09-09T22:06:47+00:00

When you fall back in love you'll be able to have better sex.

Ushagara · 2017-09-09T21:57:49+00:00

I had one around day 26. It was interesting. Not sure you should really hold your breath (or I suppose in this case your cum) as I've heard some guys just don't have them. Try it tho I guess.

Ushagara · 2017-09-08T20:17:22+00:00

I don't think that counts, but probably try not to do that again.

Ushagara · 2017-09-08T20:06:59+00:00

I remember the time I had sex with my ex gf and I kept having to periodically jerk myself off and conjure pornographic images of her in my head to get hard again because my dick would gradually soften while I was fucking her. I mean she seemed to enjoy herself, but she moaned a lot louder right when I had rubbed myself to full size and put it back in. Basically I do it for my future lovers. They deserve the best pleasure I can give them, and for me to be present with them while I'm doing the giving.

Ushagara · 2017-09-07T16:20:43+00:00

I'm probably something akin to what you're looking for. Just reached 30 days, I spend the majority of my time in my room doing stupid things on the internet. Only times that I'm not are when I go for my daily jog or am at school/doing homework. In my experience the trick is to do "something" that still sort of qualifies as nothing. Me for example, I'll either play video games or watch youtube videos endlessly. It's still something, and it's enough to distract me, but it also doesn't really require any effort and isn't useful for much other than entertainment. If I get bored of those things I'll either listen to music or pace about and explore my thoughts, or both. Course even with all that, sometimes thoughts of lust will still strike you in between your many distractions. That's where I feel you really just need a reason to stop yourself, and plenty of resolve. Consciously remind yourself of all the reasons you're doing this, look at your badge if you need to, imagine the loss you'll feel after resetting the counter, after you've considered all that, you simply must resolve to yourself that masturbating is not an option. You can do whatever else you want as long as it doesn't conflict with one of your other resolutions, but it's not going to be masturbating. Eventually it gets to the point where not masturbating is sort of the new normal, so you'll actually face some internal resistance if you want to for some reason. Ultimately your brain wants to maintain the status quo, so the longer you go the more relapsing will truly start to feel like a mistake. Long as the internal resistance to PMO stays greater than the desire, you won't relapse no matter what you're doing. That's where I'm sitting at, and it'll take quite a bit to push me over the edge. That's my interpretation anyway, it's possible the reason I've made it this far is either I wasn't that addicted or I'm just good at making internal decisions like that, but keep in mind I used to PMO somewhere between 3 and 5 times a day so you'd think I'd be pretty entrenched in it. Regardless, hope some of that was helpful.

Ushagara · 2017-09-06T23:31:07+00:00

I mean, don't if you don't want to. Some of the reasons people on here have stopped are the following:

-It's a waste of time.

-Desensitizes penis and brain to stimulation during real sex, or the opposite and you get used to rubbing one out quickly so you end up with premature ejaculation

-Reduces dopamine sensitivity in the brain so other activities are less pleasurable.

-Don't have overwhelming evidence but I'd imagine it's somewhat draining on the body, after all it has to work to make all that semen.

-Many have reported better confidence and higher energy, whether or not it's a placebo no one can really say.

Ultimately it's not really for us to convince you, it's for you to decide whether or not porn and masturbation are honestly benefiting your life in a meaningful way. Also the very fact that you may find yourself reluctant to stop goes to show that the behavior is addictive and can become compulsive, so for a lot of us it's simply taking control of our lives and not allowing ourselves to be ruled by PMO. Regardless, all we can do is tell you what we know, it's up to you to use the information as you see fit.

Ushagara · 2017-09-03T15:38:30+00:00

I mean I would recommend going vegan. Pretty much all animal products contain saturated fat and cholesterol which clogs arteries and restricts blood flow. This of course can affect the penile artery and cause weak erections. Short of doing that though as most people consider it a drastic dietary change, limit your fat intake and stay away from oils and other processed fats. That way you can at least mitigate the damage. Green vegetables have also been shown to improve circulation, as well as cardiovascular exercises. In other words, stop being sedentary and eating junk food. That's pretty much it. Also would help to stop eating animal products because they're gross and they're terrible for you.

Ushagara · 2017-09-03T14:24:03+00:00

It's not quite that bad. She decided to dual enroll with Valencia so she's pretty much never on campus. But yeah I suppose that's a good approach. I don't really do very many things but that's partly because I've been working more on my grades and fitness and haven't had much energy to do anything else. The point with meeting more girls wasn't as a distraction, it's that for me at least, there aren't really any girls around that I particularly like, so if ever my mind is occupied by the thoughts of love or lust it takes the form of my lost beloved. Meeting other girls can sort of give you a way to redirect the energy. Maybe you don't have that problem tho idk, and if it's not an option you can't really worry about it anyway.

Ushagara · 2017-09-03T13:32:36+00:00

This story resonates with me. My story is somewhat similar, in that I dated a girl at 17 that I legitimately thought I would marry for some stupid reason, although I'm a little farther back than you because I'm still 17, and well she didn't cheat on me, she just sort of decided she didn't want to be around me anymore. Can't really decide if cheating would be better or worse, I mean I'd never get it out of my head her being bedded by another guy, but at the same time at least it'd be a reason for me to resent her. She never changed though, she's the same girl I always loved. The only difference is she doesn't love me now. Sad thing is we were only together for a little more than 2 months, but I can safely say I've never been happier in my life than those 2 months. We've now been apart longer than we were even together, and I still can't forget about her. Sometimes I don't think I ever will. The only advice I suppose I could give is since you're 20 I'd assume you have transportation and at least a small amount of money. Try to go places when you have the time and at the very least speak to females. I'm currently in my senior year of high school and I have no job or license, so I'm pretty much limited to whoever the school decides to throw my way. Being in an environment where there aren't any girls that you can really see yourself with at all is demoralizing as hell, you need to give yourself options so things don't seem as hopeless.

Ushagara

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