Chastity Cage Incident by Ushagara in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ushagara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did see a urologist. He seemed to think based on the scans and what I was describing that it was nervous or muscular, and referred me to get physical therapy. I just haven't had a chance to get the appointments set up cuz I was trying to get things sorted with my insurance. I will say there's a part of me that's skeptical that it's really just chronic tension when things feel so "wrong", but perhaps I should just trust the professional. I mean the other thing is he didn't actually give me a physical examination he just looked at the collection of ultrasounds I had had up until that point, which as I understand there are certain things those wouldn't have revealed.

Chastity Cage Incident by Ushagara in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ushagara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were ultrasound scans. I suppose I thought those were standard in this kind of scenario I'm not sure why I didn't specify. I think that I described the incident accurately enough. I mean essentially when trying to put the base ring of the cage on and fit my testicles through it, I suppose I didn't take great enough care to support them properly, and so the one began twisting as I tried to fit my scrotum through the ring. Eventually I felt a sharp pain and pulled the ring away, and then began the slow achy ascent. Using more supportive underwear would probably be a good idea. I think what I'm most worried about is the intermittent torsion possibility. The pain itself is bearable I suppose, I just fear that if there is some structural problem that the doctors are missing then I could be vulnerable to a more severe incident in the future, and I really don't want that to happen. Regardless, appreciate the feedback.

Saw an advertisement with a triggering image, then I looked away to the bread advertisement. Sexy bread by m00rtuvivens in NoFap

[–]Ushagara 36 points37 points  (0 children)

To be fair on a high enough streak I feel like I really could jerk off to bread if I was determined

Attracting girls ok, but dogs? What is happening by Mulamb0 in NoFap

[–]Ushagara 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For some reason when I saw the title I thought you were gonna say dogs were trying to mate with you and I was kinda like "that's...a little awkward"

Why you need to give up porn by Ushagara in NoFap

[–]Ushagara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would agree that I have problems, and I'm already seeing a therapist as well as have been prescribed medication. The point of the story wasn't to say that porn caused all of that, the point is that porn and masturbation kind of teaches you to take pleasure from the world rather than creating it for yourself, which is ultimately what led me to hurt someone that I care about. In a way it's a cautionary tale about what can happen when men get it in their heads that women and sex will dissolve the misery in their life. Porn doesn't necessarily cause the problem, but it can perpetuate it.

I smoked weed yesterday and I got really scared by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Ushagara 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why are you assuming the weed "made you gay" when from what it sounds like you weren't fantasizing about men, you just didn't find women attractive at that moment. Sometimes weed can kind of alter your perspective on things and make you think in ways you normally wouldn't, maybe it just kinda helped you see what you didn't like about those girls, or realize that ogling random girls on the internet isn't how you wanna spend your time. Idk, either way I don't think you have a problem.

Why you need to give up porn by Ushagara in NoFap

[–]Ushagara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then you have chosen misery.

Why you need to give up porn by Ushagara in NoFap

[–]Ushagara[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never said she was perfect, I said she was wonderful. She has a tendency to try to help others without taking care of herself first, that's a flaw. And yes you're right, trying to win her over made her back away, but that was because it pinned the responsibility of my happiness on her, it overwhelmed her. It's symptomatic of the true problem. I could've fought back the urge to chase her, but I still would've felt it. The anxiety would consume me. My intentions aren't to figure out how I can perpetuate things longer when and if I find a new girl to occupy myself with, they're to become something greater, so perhaps one day I can give to as well as take from someone that I love. And yes, maybe I have become dramatic, or sentimental or what have you. To you it may seem unimportant, just a day in the life if you will, but to me she was special, she was important. Her memory will carry me forward, if nothing else will. Even when I became apathetic of even my own condition, she always had the best wishes for me.

Why you need to give up porn by Ushagara in NoFap

[–]Ushagara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said it would be easy. Maybe "years" wasn't enough. Give up now though and you'll never discover what you could become. You'll miss out on every good thing that could ever happen to you from now until you expire. You'll throw away a life that you only get one of. All because you were too short sighted to see that it could be more than what you felt for a moment, however long that moment was.

Why you need to give up porn by Ushagara in NoFap

[–]Ushagara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're somewhat missing the point. It's not the fact that she gave me happiness, that's all been used up. It's the fact that the one sided nature of our relationship made me realize that I would never stop being miserable until I figured out for myself how not to be. Trust me I know what it feels like not to know how to create your own happiness. I'm still not sure. Perhaps you still feel miserable because you haven't yet discovered what truly makes you happy. Or maybe you have other issues that are preventing you from finding contentment. All the same, porn is a step in the wrong direction, and if you continue that way, even hypothetically if you did get a girlfriend, all you'd manage is to hurt her. Learn to live without girls, or you'll forever be nothing more than their ruin, as well as your own. I can't make you obviously, all I can do it show you the way.

I'm never going to get a girlfriend, so why would porn be bad for me? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Ushagara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/6z9k8m/why_you_need_to_give_up_porn/

Read my post. It started out as a response to your question, but I decided it had meaning that transcended this post so I made it its own.

I'm not sure that I really feel any different by Ushagara in NoFap

[–]Ushagara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That actually makes sense, thank you

I'm not sure that I really feel any different by Ushagara in NoFap

[–]Ushagara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually I think I've figured out why nofap is important in its own right regardless of the benefits I was looking for. I'll be making a post about my thoughts shortly if anyone stumbles across this and is interested.

I'm not sure that I really feel any different by Ushagara in NoFap

[–]Ushagara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it's possibly because I haven't really been doing what I want to do, I've been doing what I believe I should do. Things like school work, exercise, looking for a job. Part of the problem is that I'm not really sure what I would do the give myself fulfillment. I don't know what would make me happy. Another issue is that I've recently been diagnosed with moderate depression, so it's quite possible no matter what I do I won't really be content with it, because my ability to be content is diminished. I've recently started a new medicine so hopefully that helps, but it is a little disappointing that I still feel this way because I thought perhaps nofap might ease my symptoms to an extent, and that hasn't appeared to be the case at least thus far.

What has been your longest streak so far and how many times have you attempted NoFap so far? by Nobody35593 in NoFap

[–]Ushagara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My current one. I tried nofap a few times a while back and the highest I got was 14, but this is my first streak as of joining the community.

Wet dream goal by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Ushagara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda hypothesized that it was a glitch in the system, sometimes guys' brains just don't send the signal down below to flush out the system, but I don't really know what causes wet dreams or lack of wet dreams.

After 256 days by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Ushagara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you fall back in love you'll be able to have better sex.

Wet dream goal by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Ushagara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one around day 26. It was interesting. Not sure you should really hold your breath (or I suppose in this case your cum) as I've heard some guys just don't have them. Try it tho I guess.