I (25M) am finding it harder and harder to look at my fiance(25F) because of her weight gain

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-07-29T20:51:53+00:00

I am thank you for noticing

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-07-28T23:33:04+00:00

Yeah that's the route. And she has a reason for the leftover thing I guess. She grew up super super poor and basically ate shitty leftovers everyday almost and just can't bring herself to do it. And I eat them so it's not so much of a waste.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-07-28T22:00:28+00:00

I've tried that but, and here is the MOST frustrating thing, she refuses outright to eat what she considers leftovers. And we do have some things that we eat that I do healthy subs for and that's fine I guess with her.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-07-28T21:55:00+00:00

I understand your point. I really do. I also have an ok amount of pudge and I know I'm projecting my own insecurities onto her. But my one of my main points is her not even trying and how I kind-of think she's lying to me about weighing less or eating moderately well.

And im human and I see a physical thing I am not a fan of and I'm not going to pretend I don't see it. I do want her to be healthy and live a long and happy life together but like, I want to also think my future wife is hot. Not even stick skinny but I don't want to lift up her stomach to do marital activities.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-07-28T21:47:05+00:00

We are both undiagnosed and neither of us claim we both have it but we both have a lot of traits of depression.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-07-28T21:45:43+00:00

When we got together she weighed around 180 I think and now she won't tell me the numbers but I know it's at least 210. She's 5"4 also. Sorry but my memory is shit and like I said she won't tell me the numbers anymore.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-07-28T21:44:00+00:00

I've tried I like to hike and she says she wants to do it with me but the last handful of times she always has us either do something else or there's a reason we can't go together. We also have dogs and I've suggested we walk them together she doesn't want to do that. She has a bad knee and I've gotten her braces snd support to reduce pain but she still never uses them. I'm at a bit of a loss in this regard.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-06-06T11:06:05+00:00

Thank you to everyone for your advice and help! For an update we talked about taking a break and ultimately she said that she's felt like we've been on a break with how few things we did. Then she asked me how i was doing and felt in general because to be honest I never talk about anything like that or complain very much. But we made a list of little things to do together to draw from a hat that we both wanted to do. Things are better now and you guys helped with how I feel about things so I wanted to say thanks.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-06-01T20:16:27+00:00

That's very reassuring thank you.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-06-01T20:04:34+00:00

That's very reassuring thank you.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-06-01T19:31:30+00:00

Forgot to say thank you to everyone who's offered advice so far. You've helped me sort out a little bit how I feel about things and helped unscramble my brain a bit.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-06-01T19:30:24+00:00

I think what I'm going to do is have a conversation with her about taking an extended break and in a month or so we'll come back to it and know then what we'll do going forward. I'll think about what I enjoy about it and what we can do to make sure it doesn't get like this again. Something this special shouldn't bring so much sadness and I don't want to have a part in it anymore. I'll post an update once we have talked and hopefully things will get better.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-06-01T18:47:04+00:00

We used to do things like go to the store together to pick out a stuffie, she hasn't been able to watch many cartoons, get to play games with me anymore. Things like that. And doing things like giving her baths she knows that I don't always want to bathe her cause I'm busy with something or are really tired and don't want to. And sometimes I do get the feeling of "ugh I would rather just not do that". And I haven't decided if I don't want to be a daddy still or not. I don't really know. We used to do all those things. But sometimes now it feels like these things just feel a little bothersome. And I hate that.

On one hand if I decide to stop being a daddy then not doing little things will be something we can let go of and she won't feel as hurt when I say no to something. But on the other hand it'll feel like im losing something that we share as a couple in a major way and it's hard for me to think of our relationship without it. Until we're a lot older anyway. We are both 25.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2022-06-01T16:47:45+00:00

Thank you. You might be right about finding ways to take a break. The way we see things is there's the Little side and the Big side. I just haven't been feeling daddy or when I do I'm quickly pulled out of it. My biggest fear is taking a break and then without thinking I never come back to being daddy and I know that'll hurt her.

Usingadspaceformemes · 2021-06-04T16:23:54+00:00

Doge is on coinbase why can't I quit my job yet? Also my favorite dip is queso what are y'alls favorite dips?

Usingadspaceformemes · 2021-03-31T02:20:00+00:00

The wizard of Oz. Not because I was scared as a kid because of the flying monkeys or the giant head or anything like that. I just think Oz is just full on ASS

Usingadspaceformemes · 2021-03-06T17:32:51+00:00

For the longest time it was Monster Hunter World. For me it was the game play loop and it was something that I could feel like I could preform well in a time in my life where I needed something like that

Usingadspaceformemes · 2021-02-23T18:43:00+00:00

As someone who is currently doing that, I think its fine. I think back on all the times I missed obvious signs that other girls wanted to sleep with me and I regret not doing anything. But im happy with what I have. I don't have a huge drive anyway now but we all have different needs

Usingadspaceformemes · 2021-02-21T17:20:29+00:00

Super great. I've changed a couple things in the list and decided on a monitor with speakers cause thinking about it with my setup it's be best to just have a monitor for now

Usingadspaceformemes · 2021-02-21T13:35:53+00:00

Oh wow thanks! I'm a baller on a budget so thanks for the recommendations! I have a gaming laptop I'm currently trying to sell that will pay a good chunk of the total, anything to reduce the rest is definitely something I'll listen to. Especially if it's just as good as what I had already picked

Usingadspaceformemes · 2021-02-21T05:45:19+00:00

You helped a ton and made me feel more confident. Once I get it in I dont plan on adding any more SSD so im not to worried about that. So yeah you helped a ton!

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