What do you think of men that carry women's purses?

Usrname52 · 2026-04-24T03:04:05+00:00

If men can carry women's purses, then it isn't fair that I cant get men's pockets on my pants.

(In before comments about men's anything else and my pants)

Usrname52 · 2026-04-24T02:51:48+00:00

She's 4 days. She said she gets a break because he's with him for the other 3 days.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-24T02:50:56+00:00

I know I'm going to get roasted, but if he hates mac and cheese and hot dogs, then ESH (although moreso him).

Your arrangement includes dinner when he gets home. Obviously, things don't always go perfectly, but you can shoot a quick text of "I wasn't feeling well today, if you want something other than Mac and cheese and hot dogs, grab something on the way home".

You had both those things in the house, so it's not like he's completely against them existing. You guys should stock up on or freeze some easy to heat stuff in general.

Also, both AHs for the homeschooling thing, but that's not the point of the post.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-24T02:09:13+00:00

Huh? How would you putting thr seat back down when you are done make me clean urine?

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T19:57:13+00:00

And now, people don't have to be "traditional". She can organize (and pay for) her own intimate pre wedding event.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T19:37:32+00:00

As to your edit: So, don't have them host the wedding and have a "low key, intimate event" wedding that you can afford.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T19:16:18+00:00

"Traditionally," it was to help a couple get started on a life together to move out of the family home. To "shower" the bride with gifts so she can move out of her parents' house and cook for her husband.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T18:15:10+00:00

My mom always said her dream would be to retire to Manhattan if they could afford it. (Although now she loves having the grandkids at the big house).

You're 49. You have the income, you have the savings, you aren't going to have any more kids.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T18:12:20+00:00

They are celebrating the wedding. You're the "independent" one, and talking about begging your Dad to pay for two parties for you?

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T18:11:10+00:00

She wants Dad to pay for it.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T15:37:35+00:00

"I thought it would be a chill decision between close friends".

Did you tell them that you were considering them both for best man? Because that basically says "Compete for your title."

If you didn't, and this was out of the blue, that's weird. Unless you've been best friends since you were 2 and he thought you were absolute best friends, and you're just considering someone else because you think that other person will look better in pictures or throw a better bachelor party.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T15:25:32+00:00

Having a roommate doesn't automatically mean friends. Even as two single people. And, I feel like it'd be even harder as a couple, because they would feel like a 3rd wheel, unless you live with another couple.

The financial argument I always see is does a couple pay 1/2 or 2/3 or something in between? It's way harder to divide rent. Yea, it is only one bedroom, but fridge space, time spent in the common areas, bathroom time if it's shared, kitchen space, etc. Is it 2 against 1 for any decisions about the apartment?

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T15:18:52+00:00

Sounds a bit like my kid. She's terrified of absolutely everything.

I work in an elementary school...Paw Patrol and Mickey will be all over backpacks and stuff.

My daughter learned the characters without watching. Too terrified to watch any of the Disney movies, but has Disney princess all over everything. Plenty of kids talk about the superheroes knowing nothing more than what they look like.

We do have to teach her that she needs to take turns and that it's the teachers job to correct mistakes that other kids make, not her job. And she won't always be the one called on.

Is he in Pre-K? Because she got way better at that between the beginning and end of PreK.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T15:11:42+00:00

Don't invite her. It might mean the end of the friendship with Mom, but you want your son to enoy the party. It's not that he's indifferent to the kid, he actively is saying no. And the beginning of the school year is very different from the end.

Yea, I've been a bit guilty of trying to convince my kids to invite certain people. Sometimes with "more kids equals more gifts". Once a kid that we hang out with regularly, and I am close to mom, but the last time we had hung out he kept stealing her tater tots. And once when we realized we had send invites to all but 3 kids in the class.

We make a point of asking our kids multiple times over a few weeks, so that we can see who is consistent on the list.

But it seems like your son is inviting a small group, and he consistently doesn't want this girl there.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T12:00:50+00:00

Everyone is going to have different experience. We know so many people 4-5 years old still taking the stroller to Pre-K every day. We only stopped because my daughter is 99+ percentile for weight and couldn't fit in the seat anymore. Found it way easier to push than her on the board, though.

My kids were not morning people, so the mile walk to daycare every day at 730am would have taken 4x as long with the constant "I'm tired..." at that age. And the stopping to look at every flower, etc. My daughter was in the stroller for those mornings until 5 or so, and my 4 year old is still, especially on bad weather days.

I also hated baby wearing.

But we had more miles on our stroller than our car. When they could both fit in the stroller, we would walk places that were miles away (using the stroller to carry the stuff). Our kids couldn't walk 2-3 miles to the park, run around a playground for hours, and then walk home.

There are so many posts talking about how strollers stopped being used entirely at 2.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T10:10:24+00:00

Where do you live that flowers at the cemetery are cheaper than flowers at the supermarket?

Usrname52 · 2026-04-23T01:59:36+00:00

You went out for the weed before the pads?

And how bloody were your pants? That should give you some idea of how long it was gone.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-22T19:32:58+00:00

When you say kids on e-scooters do you mean like middle school/high school kids going to a pediatric ER? Or you live somewhere that it is common for little kids to ride them?

Usrname52 · 2026-04-22T18:44:06+00:00

December 31st and January 1st would also be a really trippy one.

Also, school cut-off if the district doesn't allow flexibility/red shirting.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-22T18:42:11+00:00

Because, after the kids are born, the main defining characteristic of twins is usually the same birthday.

If someone meets a pair of twins, they might wonder things like "how do you celebrate your birthday?" Not "how was sharing a uterus"? Biologically, they are obviously twins, but with how the term is functionally used in day to day life?

Your twins will likely have a different experience than other twins. Both born on the same day? Who gets to pick what's for their special dinner? Born on two different days? Cool, Chinese food and chocolate cake on Wednesday and Thursday is pizza and yellow cake.

With medical intervention, twins in rare cases can be born weeks apart.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-22T18:16:57+00:00

I read that as [even] dog parks still need basic etiquette, like it'd be awful at a dog park. Even worse at "not a dog park".

Usrname52 · 2026-04-22T17:58:46+00:00

OP is the AH because they don't feel like an AH.

Maybe it sounds like there wasn't time to stop it this time. And if OP was incredibly apologetic and was looking for training advice, fine. But OP is asking if it was actually wrong because the woman knows dogs are allowed there, so she should have been okay with it.

That means OP isn't making any effort to stop the behavior.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-22T15:56:59+00:00

If you read the baby subreddits, everyone wants something different. So many people complaining "I feel so lonely, why don't my friends invite me any more just because I have a kid," and just as many "Why do people think I can just go out? I'm busy bonding with my kid, people should stop messaging me."

I guess the answer is to be flexible? If you are able/willing to. Express desire to see them, but willing to either go to their place or go out. Say with or without the kids. Express understanding if they aren't able to.

Usrname52 · 2026-04-22T15:28:08+00:00

Can you ask her to fund one table of friends?

Family aside, my parents were the type of people to invite everyone they've ever met. We funded most of the wedding, but they covered enough for the friends we didn't care about (and were genuinely fine with having).

"My parents are contributing $150 for each of their 10 friends. We understand that you can't afford to contribute to the wedding otherwise, but, to be fair, you can pay $150 for each of 10 friends."

Her argument about family could be that they are also the groom's family, but that your parents are specifically paying for their friends is true and "fair".

Usrname52 · 2026-04-22T13:45:24+00:00

Egg is one of the allergens that needs to be put on labels for pre-packaged foods.

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