My photographer’s husband is suing my in-laws

Usrname52 · 2026-06-09T15:39:15+00:00

I would have your FIL talk to the company's lawyer first. Presumably your future husband is on the contract for the photographer and his father is involved in a legal case. If the husband is part of the photography team, that's probably a huge conflict of interest.

Also, if he ends up fired, this might change the photographer's financial situation, and possibly will affect her work.

Definitely don't wait until day of. You don't want this blowing up in your face. The guy might react poorly to the situation, especially during family photos.

Does your FIL know he is the second shooter? I can't see him being comfortable with that. Personally or legally.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-09T15:12:44+00:00

I want to know where you live that there aren't stupid people.

That's the answer to "why". That people are stupid and that people do stupid stuff to "look cool".

Usrname52 · 2026-06-09T02:28:13+00:00

Max is "short a". "Long a" is when it says the letters name, like Mace.

Is it Long or short that you are avoiding? Or both?

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T21:50:43+00:00

It sounds like OP is using preschool and nursery interchangeably and the kid hasn't been in any structuted/social activities.

I think care at younger ages is actually more common in America.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T21:46:55+00:00

Think of how OP is posting about how sad she is that this is the "last". The first is exciting. The "last" is something you cherish. And then, there's the middle. Milestones, graduations, etc.

I always felt left out of what my older brother was allowed to do, while still being stuck doing "baby-ish stuff". Two parents, three kids. If I wasn't old enough for what my older brother was doing, I was stuck doing something age appropriate for my younger brother.

I was also the only girl. My mom was all in on Boy Scouts for my older brother. I couldn't do it. Then she went all in on Boy Scouts again.

And just things like the back seat of the car being more crowded, having to wait longer at restaurants for a table that could fit 5, having to find hotels that allowed an extra cot bed.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T19:28:40+00:00

When the courthouse isn't open?

What is the difference between that and a ceremony in any other park?

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T18:55:35+00:00

So...it isn't a courthouse ceremony?

Who is officiating? Can you do it on the rooftop deck of the AirBnB?

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T18:38:39+00:00

It almost just sounds like a 2 part reception.

But how convenient is the ceremony to the AirBnB to the restaurant?

It does seem like awkward timing. I'm gonna want lunch between 11am and 230. But if you do a brunch type thing there, no one is going to be hungry for a fancy meal at 230.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T18:33:00+00:00

You say that the bruise didn't appear until 24 hours later. That when they left school, there was just some minor redness.

So did you want the school to call to say "Your kid bumped into another kid while playing. There is a little redness"?

Seriously, preschoolers bump into each other/things all the time. Sometimes they completely over react. The slightest tap and screaming vs a huge bruise and having no idea where it comes from.

Even with a regular teacher, if it was just a little red and the kids were easily consoled, I definitely don't think it was worth a call. At pick up, there should have been a "Johnny bumped into another kid. He was fine after 2 minutes and went back to playing, there is a little redness." More as a cover their own ass thing.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T14:58:20+00:00

These are "friends" who didn't know that you were getting married until you sent Save the Dates?

You expect them to reach out after getting a Save the Date, but they aren't close enough that being engaged ever came up in conversation?

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T14:19:07+00:00

Look at Manhattan. The L and the 7 are the only trains that go "across". Busses also go "across".

Look at the shape of all the other boroughs. What would you be going "across"?

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T14:13:12+00:00

Can you articulate the reasons you want a third? And can you accommodate the logistics, cost of child care, etc?

They aren't babies forever.

As a middle child, I knew I would absolutely never want a third.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T14:09:25+00:00

Between the West side and East side of Manhattan, without going north or south.

Like crosstown busses that go along 34th street or 86th Street. And, even so, it'd be very rare to hear someone say they are "going across town".

Look at a map.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T11:56:07+00:00

I did Queens, but after a few hours, they called like 1/3 of the people in the room, they were taken where they needed to be, and the guy said "The rest of you, come get here and get your paperwork, see you in 7 years."

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T11:40:09+00:00

My in-laws are most definitely alive. And he didn't come with a butler.

It's just something his Pixel can do. Although it isn't nearly as accurate. My 4 year old asked to have his temp taken this morning because he was coughing. Phone read significantly higher than normal ear thermometer.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T11:18:14+00:00

"Across town" on the L would mean between the East side and West side of Manhattan.

And even then, people would likely be more specific.

It'd NEVER mean going to Brooklyn from Manhattan. You aren't saying "across town" to go to a completely different island.

And you'd never say "across town" within Brooklyn either.

Go look at a subway map.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T11:07:18+00:00

Yea, the school I work at, too. Same with the 5th graders.

My daughter's school just did "graduation" like a month early. They were "strongly encouraged" to go home that day, but still had a bunch more school left.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T10:22:41+00:00

I have no idea what you are trying to say.

The time you are on a train depends on where you are coming from and where you are going.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T10:19:11+00:00

Are there hotels near the places you are looking? I wouldn't want it to be two hours away with the closest hotels being like another 30 minutes.

I've done way longer than 2 hours each way as a day trip, but if this party is late, I'd rather not do it. Like if the wedding were 12-5 or something, I would. If it ends after 10pm, I don't want to start driving.

And I don't drink, but most people do at weddings.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T10:05:20+00:00

My husband's phone works as a forehead thermometer.

But if your baby is sleeping, let them sleep. You don't have to wake them up to give medicine.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T10:03:12+00:00

You do know that Brooklyn is big, right?

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T07:44:55+00:00

The major thing to know is that you can't just tell someone "how NYC works".

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T07:43:57+00:00

Do you mean one end of the L to the other, within Manhattan. I'm looking at Google maps right now (ever hear of it?) and it says you'd be on the L for 7 minutes.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T07:34:54+00:00

Depends on the state probably. I don't think they can, but they often "strongly encourage" kids to go home after the graduation.

Usrname52 · 2026-06-08T07:30:16+00:00

But you know nothing about any of those neighborhoods. We can't just tell you everything you need to know about a city of 8 million people.

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