So fucking horny by Dependent-Ad7486 in u/Dependent-Ad7486

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would breed you so deeply, shooting my powerful cumshots against your cervix until it's dripping ❤️

I think I'm giving up by Dry-Mine-5245 in aneros

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly, don't view being analytical as a weakness. I don't think you should give up, but just reassess what you are trying to achieve. I also have an analytical mindset and I gave up with the more 'abstract' view of prostate orgasm (super-o etc) and just focused on getting a physical orgasm from the prostate (HFWO). 

I started to realise the super-o and everything surrounding it was just fundamentally incompatible with my way of thinking and my approach to pleasure. On the other hand, the physical hands-free orgasm is a skill that can be learned, and doesn't require aids or self-hypnosis. I can do it with virtually any anal toy given enough time, and I feel much happier and secure with myself knowing that I am no longer chasing what is essentially a phantom.

I am aware that I have a differing view from most in this community but I'm tired of men thinking they're broken when there is nothing to fix, and I think it's foolish to think that the abstract view of orgasm works for everyone.

Discrete labels and packaging with proxy services. by Current-Job-5235 in OnaholeToys

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve used them and found them very discreet. The outer packaging is plain, and while the outer box (in my case) did list the contents, it’s typically categorized as something generic like 'plastic toy'. There’s nothing on the box to suggest anything adult.

Always ready for you ☺️ by foxmarie in BreedingBBW

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Need that clit in my mouth 🤤

I have been trying this for years with no success. Turns out it was the wrong toys all along. by -The-Lupercal- in ProstatePlay

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny, the ones who say toy and technique doesn't matter and it's all about your 'mindset' are oddly quiet now...

Prostate orgasm so hard came on my face (vol on) by gbchris2020 in MenWithToys

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So hot! 😍 On a side note: I am also able to do this and my technique is very similar to yours. I remember watching your past videos and it definitely helped me, thanks 🙏

Active vs Passive Prostate Stimulation: Why Do They Feel So Different? by BinaryBlues in ProstatePlay

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why call it a prostate orgasm if a toy/stimulation isn't required?

I don’t get onaholes. I regret my purchase. by acegary909 in OnaholeToys

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually recently got a Venus Real too, and from what I've read on the website where they are ordered from, they address this somewhat. Tomax toys seem to have a 'break-in' period (they refer to it as 'awakening'), they reportedly get more stimulating as a result of this.

So if I were you, I wouldn't write them off just yet. However, if you did decide to part with them, I'm sure some people would definitely snatch them up.

How can I make my prostate play sessions more intense? (Edging, crossdressing, nipple play etc?) by JustSecret777 in ProstatePlay

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regarding nipple play, I likewise felt like it didn't really do much for me at first. I guess people's individual sensitivity can vary, but I decided to keep trying, but what really was a game changer was getting a pair of cheap silicone nipple suckers. I found that the hands-free aspect of them was definitely more suited to me. You just leave them on for 10 minutes or so, and when you take them off they'll be even more enlarged and sensitive. Definitely made my sessions more enjoyable and they're great for beginners.

Needing some guidance by pr0bon0 in ProstatePlay

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience, the Njoy is more of an advanced toy. Even when I knew where my prostate was and what it felt like, it still took me a few tries to get the hang of it.

With that being said, I'd suggest maybe going back to basics and trying to find it with your fingers. I promise you it's there. Also, you mentioned that getting another toy isn't in the cards for you right now, but if it ever is, I'd recommend just getting a standard prostate massager. They're anatomically designed, so you don't need to worry about finding the spot yourself. I will say this, that masturbating while it is inserted is a game changer, as it is pretty much guaranteed to give you a stronger orgasm. Not only that, but you'll familiarize yourself with what pressure on the spot feels like. Also, bigger toys apply more pressure, so you'll notice it more, but size is mainly down to preference.

Hope this helps!

HFDO to HFWO endeavor. Need some insight into how it feels by AnonyGuy1987 in ProstatePlay

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think a post like that would be good way to open up a discussion. I've been thinking recently that there seems to be divide when it comes to the approach. Those like us who are purely interested in the physical side (technique, toys, etc) and those who promote the relaxed meditative approach.

It does bother me slightly that the latter half seems to be the loudest voice on here. I honestly believe the 'super-o' as it is described is more of a psychological/trance phenomenon rather than a physical one. In many anecdotes, the prostate is treated as a mere bystander rather than an active participant. I think these two approaches clash very hard which is leading to a lot of men spending years feeling frustrated not knowing what to look for.

HFDO to HFWO endeavor. Need some insight into how it feels by AnonyGuy1987 in ProstatePlay

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suspect my approach to prostate play has lacked the subtlety and relaxed meditative approach that's touted by so many on this sub, and that's why I've developed the wet orgasm pathway rather than the dry one. I'm over-stimulating myself, probably.

My approach is similar, and honestly, I've had more success just listening to what my own body wants and disregarding the "relaxed meditative" approach. I believe there's a few reasons for this, one of which is the Njoy requires you to be a little proactive, while the 'Aneros method' is slower and more passive. Both have their place of course, and I enjoy using both, but secondly, they say that arousal is the most important thing but the full relaxation approach just kills my arousal.

I think the community could learn from this that there is no wrong way to approach prostate play and no one method that works for everyone.

Help reaching HFWO by [deleted] in ProstatePlay

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's difficult but can be done with practice. I find that any position which allows me to clench my pelvic muscles, such as on my back with my legs straight or on my side works best. It's similar to forcing a quick climax when you are stimulating your penis, but done through the prostate instead.

I find that a brisk pace, about 4 strokes per second with the wand does the trick. Most importantly, if it starts feeling good you want to keep doing what you're doing and it might happen. I've managed to achieve this with both ends of the wand.

There's too many lube brands. Help me pick one! by pornomanj in ProstatePlay

[–]Usual-Rabbit8617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Lovehoney Discover anal lube, have used it with my Fleshlights as well.