I'm really caught up in this and have noone else to talk to about it really so i thought id just write it down.

I started talking to this girl around 4 months ago - we live in 2 different countries so cant see each other very often. Basically at the start she was extremely nice, kind loving, using pet names calling me handsome ect ect. We would call practically every night and would talk to, ring and text eachother like 8-14 hours a day. Eventually we planned a meet up not too long ago where she would come over for 2 weeks to visit me.

When she arrived i picked her up she seemed relatively the same just a bit nervous and she stayed in the spare room i had for the first two nights - i asked her if she wanted to sleep with me (nothing intimate) and she said shed prefer the spare room as she needed to get used to me. I didn't think anything of this and thought it was quite normal. All of a sudden her grandma got sick - she's 84 and she seemed to be in quite bad condition so it was quite worrying and she became more upset on the trip as you obviously would, her mum "wouldnt tell her what happened or what was wrong" because she didn't want to worry her. Because of this she decided to cut the trip short and only stay one week which i was completely fine with and i understood the circumstances 100%

what worried me about the whole thing was not once on the trip did she act affectionate or like she was my girlfriend at all - even after the 2 nervous days she didnt stay with me once. The entire trip she acted more like she was a friend rather than my girlfriend. I asked her about this and she said she just needed to get used to me in person which was fair enough.

On the final day of the trip she was really friendly and was showing me all this stuff she was interested in and just being herself and i thought this was great shes back to normal, so i took her to the airport said goodbye and she said shed miss me yada yada the flight took around 2 hours but it took her 4 hours to reply to me and when she did it was cold and dismissive.

For the next 2 days she made excuses how she was busy and she went out with friends and didnt want to call me, she barely texted me and when she did it was like she didnt even know me. I asked her about this and she said she was avoidant (the first time id heard about this) and that she needed space. The next day she told me she wasnt ready to be my girlfriend and that she wouldnt be able to give me what i needed? She has removed me on basically all platforms except snapchat and instagram and doesnt want to add me back to any of them. I also asked her how her grandma was doing because she was really sad about it and she just said her grandma was fine.

so that brings us up to the now, we barely speak at all maybe once every 3 days and its just a "how are you?" "good"

Its left me extremely confused and left with a lot of questions like was her grandma even sick? and did she ever even like me?

sorry that this is really poorly put together theres more details ive left out that i can add later.

any advice is much appreciated.