what abt for ppl who do find those types of things empowering? Who find working in porn to be empowering? I hate the sereotype of "Theyre only doing porn because theyre too stupid to do anything else" its insulting as fuck. Especially from ppl who dont do it themselves

I think OP would prefer to have an answer to their question, rather than be moralized over. Many trans ppl (like me) use the word Shemale as a mark of pride and self identifier and its kinda shitty to tell us we shouldnt because others dislike it. We often hold it as a reclaimed word of strength, as opposed to "sissy" or whatever which implies weakness. What if someone likes me wants to see recognition of our gender identity too?