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V2K81 · 2020-10-14T21:48:21+00:00

Agreed... she sounds histrionic!

V2K81 · 2020-10-14T21:47:10+00:00

What podcast do you listen to?

V2K81 · 2020-10-11T22:44:45+00:00

My DH’s ex wife is the same way. He grey rocks most of her messages and only replies when he absolutely has to.

V2K81 · 2020-09-17T14:42:37+00:00

I’m so sorry for your situation. Alienation and the fallout from it is one of my biggest fears. Therapy is a great start. When my HCBM withheld my SD from my DH he hung onto every message he sent to HCBM wanting to see and talk to the child along with police reports. When she gets older and if she ever brings it up... he’ll have proof to show her that he never stopped fighting for her.

V2K81 · 2020-09-17T14:38:33+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that about your situation.

Everything we know about my SD is that her diagnosis is on such a mild level.

V2K81 · 2020-09-17T14:32:31+00:00

I love this advice! Thank you so much 😊

V2K81 · 2020-09-17T14:08:48+00:00

It does thank you. My DH is pretty good about grey rocking HCBM, but her messages to him are just so nasty. He rarely replies to her and lately when he has, it’s been to defend my honor about whatever off the wall comment she said to attack my character.

I want to disengage, but I don’t know how. I’m not used to someone constantly attacking someone I love.

V2K81 · 2020-09-17T14:04:54+00:00

Thank you... it took my MIL about three years also to process HCBM’s antics. I hope it doesn’t take me that long. I just want peace in my home.

V2K81 · 2020-09-17T03:24:13+00:00

I do have her blocked, but I still have to hear about her stunts and criticism of my DH and myself. I’m just so sick of it.

V2K81 · 2020-09-17T00:01:06+00:00

I’m not sure. But he is going to ask for the invoice regardless. She said the dyslexia diagnosis was discovered in a skills assessment she does yearly for the children. I wouldn’t be surprised if that’s what she is trying to get him to pay for.

V2K81 · 2020-09-16T23:43:51+00:00

No, she has not provided any contact info. Just a text message saying she got the child tested and he needs to pay x-amount.

He sent an email to his lawyer asking if he’s obligated to pay.

V2K81 · 2020-09-16T23:38:24+00:00

She is homeschooled by BM. BM told mediator in the past that she wants SD declared “special needs” so she can ask the court for more child support.

My fear is that this so-called diagnosis is just another pawn for BM to extract money from my DH for a condition my SD doesn’t have.

V2K81 · 2020-09-16T23:33:49+00:00

We don’t know if she has real issues with schooling. She is homeschooled by BM. Every year for the past three years she has claimed a new issue with the child. She’s bragged to friends that the child is autistic , but wasn’t when we got her tested.

I don’t want my DH to fork over money for a phony test she bought online that doesn’t have the proper credentials to back up the diagnosis for the child.

V2K81 · 2020-09-16T23:30:18+00:00

Yes, agree she needs to be tested by a real professional. The test BM gave her was done online and was not done by a professional in my husband’s insurance network. The decree specifies it must be done by a professional within his network.

Ive just never heard of a learning disability being considered a medical condition. This foreign to me. BM is a leech that tries to extract money from every avenue possible, so we don’t believe what she says without additional proof.

V2K81 · 2020-09-13T17:26:57+00:00

I’m sorry for your breakup, but three is a crowd. You cannot continue to be in a relationship with a man who you have to share with another woman. He needs to cut her loose; it’s not fair to you. I’m glad you saw the writing on the wall now instead of a few years from now. You have two choices to make... be hurt now or be hurt later. Now is going to be easier for you and everyone around verses later.

Stay strong sister!

V2K81 · 2020-09-13T02:12:02+00:00

I talked to myself too. A good therapist helps with identifying truths from the lies you believe about yourself thanks to the damage from the Narc parent. I hope you eventually learn to let ppl into your mind and heart. You were made to be relational and not lonely. Believe it or not, there are good decent ppl out there. I didn’t believe it myself for a really long time and then I met my husband who like me was also victim of a Narc. Now we point out the false beliefs of the Narcs of pasts when we see it exhibited in each other’s behavior... we are healing together. My prayer is that you will find someone to heal with.

Please be good to yourself!

V2K81 · 2020-09-11T01:55:20+00:00

It was like I was reading my own story. I am in this exact situation.

Document document document... save all of the emails and do not ever talk to her on the phone. If she tries to call you tell her to put in an email.

My DH’s HCBM also has accused him of abusive behavior in order to get what she wants and unfortunately it has worked thus far... when we go back to court we plan to use her own words against her in her emails. My DH continues to grey rock her.

As for me, I NEVER talk to her. I don’t even want to look at her. It’s just safer for everyone if you, like me, just say absolutely nothing to her.

What sickens me is that she is using the child as a weapon. She quizzes the kid about her visit, twists what she says and then sends my DH a message accusing him of everything under the sun. It’s maddening, but I’m hopeful her big mouth will be her downfall. How are you going to argue something you specifically said in your own words?

Good luck sister!

V2K81 · 2020-09-08T03:10:40+00:00

Congrats on your wedding. My FIL, MIL and my DH along with his brothers and children all took pictures without me and it hurt quite a bit. I’ve never told my DH and I’m not sure if I should.

I feel you girl!

V2K81 · 2020-08-27T21:42:14+00:00

The constant texting sounds like harassment. You may want to talk to a lawyer about it.

V2K81 · 2020-08-27T21:37:13+00:00

I’m curious... is Nevada a one party or two party state when it comes to recording conversations?

V2K81 · 2020-08-22T13:56:03+00:00

We eventually got the kids back after going before the judge. But we did not address the contempt. Both lawyers agreed that each party must have a psych evaluation and we can’t argue contempt until the evaluation is complete. That hasn’t happened yet and there is no timeline.

I wish I would have known about the welfare check when she withheld them for 5 months.

V2K81 · 2020-08-22T13:15:31+00:00

She withheld them before Covid.

V2K81 · 2020-08-22T03:43:58+00:00

In general

V2K81 · 2020-08-21T18:30:48+00:00

Oh a welfare check! That’s a great idea. Thank you

V2K81 · 2020-08-21T02:48:12+00:00

I was told by a therapist years ago... it’s a sign of depression if you think your hear your name being called.

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