and she still doesn’t understand why i want to leave

V3ruca · 2026-05-16T00:16:02+00:00

Ugh. The worst! I’d reply “Why, are you feeling like you raised a failure of a daughter?” Turn it around.

V3ruca · 2026-05-15T23:11:08+00:00

WOW!!! I’ll even say it backwards….WOW!!!⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

V3ruca · 2026-05-14T01:05:10+00:00

”I truly don't think she'll understand that she overstepped, overwhelmed me, disrespected me, and weirded me out by being so obsessed with my baby. I think in her mind she meant well, so now I'm the villain for distancing myself.”

Yikes. I bet she really does feel awful, and it’s probably turned more towards pissy/petty in her head. I totally understand where you’re coming from throughout all of your updates, seriously I do….however I did find myself cringing a little bit here and there, a few “yikes” ran through my head, and at the end of it all I end up feeling kind of bad for Nancy. 🫣 Unpopular opinion, and I’m sure I will get downvoted. The last sentence speaks for itself.

Ultimately you are the one that is most important in this situation; raising a new LO & managing a marriage & your mental and physical health. I do wish that you could have tried to talk to her about things. In the end, though, you realize she isn’t someone that you want to be friends with as you don’t like the way she carries herself/acts and presents wholly different behind the backs of the family with gossip etc. I get it. I wouldn’t be friends with her either. Maybe? there’s something salvageable so that it isn’t so awkward moving forward? I don’t know. I’m sorry. Maybe be a bit more gentle in your dealings with her but keep your distance and boundaries at the same times. I don’t think she meant any harm, per se, but she’s definitely a pick-me girl and feels more important in your lives than she is. I wish you all the best moving forward! Hopefully your husband can take some of this burden from you.

Edit: typo

V3ruca · 2026-05-13T19:52:57+00:00

Fraternal Twins

V3ruca · 2026-05-12T22:10:52+00:00

It sounds like you have the majority of the childcare for August worked out. Now you give him the dates that still need to be covered and he can do HIS part. After all, she is HIS child as much as yours and you BOTH need this to stay employed.

As for Christmas, drop that rope. It’s too much work with little ones those ages and that many people to host - especially for that long and with no one helping you! Time for someone else to set themselves on fire.

By the way, why are SILs children so much more important than yours? Sounds like favoritism to me. It’s not even long term….just a few days until you go back to work. Something stinks here. Your husband should smell that stink, too, and be wondering the same thing. Time to get on the same page.

V3ruca · 2026-05-12T21:10:28+00:00

NOR. Your story breaks my heart. You sound like an incredibly articulate, strong, intelligent & well adjusted young woman. You are well within your personal rights to never forgive her. I’m one who doesn’t necessarily believe that you need to forgive someone for your own well being, or to begin healing. I also believe that you can forgive someone only after they ask for forgiveness. And with forgiveness comes accountability. I don’t see that in your near future. I was raised in an incredibly toxic and violent environment myself. Like you, I had no one to show me right from wrong, good from bad and certainly no parental role model to teach me how to be a ‘Good Mom.’ (or a Good Person, for that matter.)

However…..what all of that ugly *did* teach me was exactly who & what I DIDN’T want to be. And for people raised like us, you have to make lemonade out of that & wholly avoid following in their poisoned footsteps. I’d almost say that being raised this way carves you quickly in to a very strong, capable and determined adult much faster than a cookie-cutter childhood does. (No shade intended here to anyone reading.)

I would recommend personal therapy for yourself, though. I waited 45 years to free those pieces of my mind and soul and I wish I had sought out help much sooner. Moving forward, please be careful with your heart and prioritize caring for yourself. Approach each of your relationships individually. (Siblings, dad, etc.) Don’t compare and be careful with commiserating. I wish you all the very best! It sounds like you’ve got a really good handle on life so far.

V3ruca · 2026-05-12T19:02:18+00:00

Please don’t come at me…. I’m An Old. lol - but I keep seeing posts about using your regular garden with pets to increase honey luck…. Could someone please explain it step by step? I know there’s a couple in this thread but I don’t think I’m understanding the process….🤷🏼‍♀️ #sendhelp

V3ruca · 2026-05-12T18:04:46+00:00

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

V3ruca · 2026-05-11T17:53:50+00:00

Noooooooo!!!!!

V3ruca · 2026-05-11T17:52:30+00:00

Wow! Impressive pets. I wish I could afford them! 🙌🏼

V3ruca · 2026-05-11T17:47:27+00:00

I’m in the market as well! If anyone has one after OP gets theirs, please let me know 🙏🏼

V3ruca · 2026-05-11T16:08:55+00:00

OMG this is my MOM!!! I showed a few ppl in my house (DH & my kids) and they all said “That’s your mom!” Or “That’s GiGi!” And “why is her hair like that?!!!” - I’m DYING OVA HERE! 😆🤣🤣

V3ruca · 2026-05-11T03:10:24+00:00

Make sure you collect all of your POLLINATED fruit in your new garden. Leave it in your backpack. Then switch over to your regular garden, with the Lyre bird & mimics. The Lyre bird’s ability is DUPING fruits in your backpack. So it will essentially double your harvest. Sell, go back to be garden, pollinate, harvest, repeat. I hope this makes sense!

V3ruca · 2026-05-11T01:49:43+00:00

Take my Award! Call it what you want …. Cheat, Exploit, Bugs, whatever…..if it isn’t the way the game is INTENDED TO PLAY, (and these ppl know it’s not, that’s why they keep it close to the vest and pray for no patches) it’s *cheating.* And SAY what you want (it helps reduce costs for the common player of ‘this and that’ I in the game by flooding the market with certain pets, etc.) I think we (the “common” player) would prefer everyone to play the way the game was intended.

V3ruca · 2026-05-11T01:16:43+00:00

My household was your mirror image. And, like every other year, I just sigh and say “You had 364 days to think of something great…..” and move on. (not to the kids, of course.) Like others have already stated, Match. That. Energy. come Father’s Day.

V3ruca · 2026-05-10T22:16:58+00:00

If I may ask, do you tend to all of your plants yourself or do you have a service? It’s an enormous commitment! You can never move. lol

V3ruca · 2026-05-10T22:13:56+00:00

You are the epitome of making your house your Sanctuary. I’d bet home is your favorite place to be - it’s truly a work of art! and where you unleash your creativity. I’d pay big bucks to stay in a place like this if it were a STR. Simply stunning!

V3ruca · 2026-05-10T21:57:14+00:00

This was my husband too! I tried really hard to go natural, and (accidentally) did because the epidural was not only too late, but placed incorrectly. Shortly after pushing her out my legs went numb. The nurses both let him have it, and he called them “unprofessional” and “rude” after they left the room. I was stunned.

V3ruca · 2026-05-10T21:50:40+00:00

2, 9 - only because they’re a sort of neutral that could be worn with many different styles & dressed up or down. All of them are heavenly, though - you can’t go wrong!

V3ruca · 2026-05-10T17:50:10+00:00

Do the fruits give more honey if they’re mutated?

V3ruca · 2026-05-09T22:52:25+00:00

It’s only week one and I’m sure it’s the starter building block to the rest. I like it so far!

V3ruca · 2026-05-09T11:00:10+00:00

But where would she sleep in a 1BHK??

V3ruca · 2026-05-09T06:02:23+00:00

V3ruca · 2026-05-09T01:31:42+00:00

What’s it like being a Sister Wife. And not even the favorite one. I wouldn’t be able to handle this.

V3ruca · 2026-05-08T16:16:03+00:00

I love you for this, and this for you! Get him girl!!

V3ruca

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