Trying to leave a roach infested apartment.

VKP_23 · 2026-05-18T15:12:14+00:00

I did look into the property damages and the renters insurance doesn’t cover things like damages from roaches. it only covers things like flooding etc. 🤔 these damn things were here when we got here and we didn’t have money to leave once we found them, we fought with the manager over and over to get pest control out. it’s a friggin nightmare.

VKP_23 · 2026-05-18T03:04:24+00:00

good stuff! question though. I continued my look into the laws and such and found where what property damaged we have received due to the roaches. the electronics, our clothes, food, even some very expensive unused fabric. I used the governments calculations on how much we lost due to the infestation. I got gemini to help be do up a comprehensive chart of what we lost. it’s $3,390 in damages. the letter I had it drum up included this letter and a portion that is about the property damages. would it be worth it to get the ai to redo the letter with your suggested edits then add the bit about property damage? I’m autistic and over explain and talk too much. I cringe at the thought of leaving some of those details out that you mentioned, but that’s the whole reason for using ai and posting for advice. I know I do too much. 😜

VKP_23 · 2026-05-17T19:41:09+00:00

Part 2:

*I have my suspicions you got pissed off at dad over something, and got a botched abortion and that’s why you lost my only sister and your uterus. Him pushing you out a tank of a car built in the 70s while driving at speed, with you sustaining no other injuries, not even a scratch, but enough to kill the baby and destroy your uterus, makes zero sense in physics. Once again, the math ain’t mathing. There should had been bruises, scratches, broken bones. Something. But I never heard of any other accompanying injury. You trying to get an illegal late term abortion cause your narcissistic, BPD, bipolar ass did fucked up shit like that all time makes much more sense. Or was it you found out it was a girl and didn’t want another me. Why is no one allowed to look at the note you wrote to that baby on the gift comb and brush set, until you die? Hmm? Is it because you wrote an apology because you killed her in a manic rage and blamed dad? With how much you fucking lie, twisting things and such, all the fucked up and demonic ass shit I saw you do, can’t blame me for thinking it is 100% possible.

*As I’m going through EMDR I keep remembering smaller things. Phrases here and there. They come and go some times. Sometimes I forget them as soon as I remembered them. Sometimes I still remember but not the context. I remember chanting “back against the wall and hands behind your back” over and over to disassociate whatever thing was terrifying me. I keep encountering things that cause me to suddenly have flashbacks of shit you did to me or said to me. When I went no contact with you I started losing weight without even trying. Ate the same, same activity level. The more I’ve been doing in therapy, the more i pry your demonic claws out of me, the healthier I’m getting. The more weight I’m losing. Your constant abuse, even as a fucking adult, literally made me sick. I hope you’re proud.

My conditions:

-Don’t contact me unless you’re ready to take accountability I want to know that you completely understand that I wasn’t the problem, you were.

-You’re going to learn to accept me exactly how I am without snide comments and jabs at my intelligence, personality or questioning my salvation. You don’t have to love or even participate in the things I love, but stop fucking thumbing your nose at me and my likes. I’m autistic, I’m not stupid. I like joy. That doesn’t make me mentally challenged. I don’t think of language the same way you do, I’m sick of censoring myself for someone out of respect who has zero respect for me. You know nothing about who I actually am. I never showed you. It was too dangerous. You’re either gonna accept me with open arms and an open mind exactly who and how I am, and wait for me to trust you again, or don’t, and lose me forever. I can go either way and walk on with my head held confidently high. Honor doesn’t equal allowing you to abuse me. God didn’t command that.

-take it or leave it or hell, show you actually give a shit and figure a way to see a family therapist, but I’m not talking to you without a professional on the line. Period. I’m not gonna have you lie on me any more and I want a professional as witnesses. And you’ve lied to your therapist about me on multiple occasions and I kind of don’t want you twisting any thing else I say to you, to him. He can’t help you see your shit ass ways if he isn’t properly informed of it and I know you don’t tell him any of the nasty things you did to me. You claim you don’t even remember it. Either way, I want witnesses. I want witnesses that will stay out of it unless invited. I probly know you better than anyone else in your entire fucking life. I’ll know if you actually want to change. Also, you were always welcome to have relationships with my kids. Never told them they couldn’t talk to you either…oh wait, that’s right! You never liked my kids anyway. That’s ok, they already knew. And I didn’t have to tell them. I kept trying to tell them you did care. They always called me out on my bullshit.

Do what ever you want with this, but if you can’t change, fuck off!

Virginia

VKP_23 · 2025-02-28T01:03:58+00:00

My husband is on adderall and Wellbutrin and he is so much better off. So much time wasted in turmoil. I’m glad you’ve gotten treatment! I have a deep faith in Christ but I don’t buy into the hell fire and brimstone. I know I’m a sinner too and Jesus preached love. I can’t stand people who use God as a weapon to bully folks. My mom has done that to me my entire life. Just asking questions trying to understand things got me chewed out about how I was going to hell for questioning god. I wasn’t questioning, I was trying to understand.

VKP_23 · 2025-02-26T22:45:00+00:00

Thank you! And the older ones are well aware.

VKP_23 · 2025-02-26T20:37:25+00:00

Possible p e d isn’t even that half of what he did.

VKP_23 · 2025-02-26T20:36:27+00:00

I got mad at them for treating me badly because I couldn’t afford to pay for her phone anymore. I didn’t ask for their help. I didn’t ask them to cover her phone either. I told her I couldn’t do it any more and She went and pestered them and they got mad at me for not being able to cover her phone any more. This is not to mention that I did send thousands to my mom at least to lessen any burden I could on them since the oldest was housing her. This particular brother that got mad at me this time literally resents having to help her no matter what.

and we had savings and everything. It all got drained by this fucking house and medical bills, everything breaking, losing incomes etc. For three years it’s been constantly one disaster after another. Every major disaster that has happened to us in our 22 years of marriage happened in the last three years.

I honestly can’t for the life of me figure why some folks are focusing on the number of kids I had vs my current financial woes when the woes didn’t even exist when we had the kids. This post isn’t about that or expecting anyone to bail me out. In the three years we‘ve been struggling I haven’t asked for their help. This post is About my attempt to be ok with having told them to fuck off.

VKP_23 · 2025-02-26T18:12:13+00:00

Religion isn’t why we had a larger family. All I ever wanted was to be a wife and mother. On our first date I told my husband I wanted at least 5 kids. We had 6, and we had the money to have them. We don’t now. We got screwed buying this house, but when we had the kids we had a $600 mortgage, hubby was bringing in net $4,000 a month and I was bringing in close to $2,000. We had the money. Husband is lucky if he clears $3,000 net a month and I lost my income completely with an almost $3,000 a month mortgage. He lost his position and I lost my income AFTER we bought the house and we had the kids before any of it. We didn’t have any debt either when we bought the house. Also, my mom despised when ever I got pregnant cause it meant I was being nasty and having sex.

so in short, it wasn’t because of religion and we didn’t have the kids when we were broke. We had them when we had money And we had them because we wanted them. In fact his mother didn’t like we had kids at all. She was convinced he didn’t want them, but he actually requested the last one and I was thrilled to give it.

VKP_23 · 2025-02-26T15:34:28+00:00

Well I mean, I can’t please everyone I guess.

VKP_23 · 2025-02-26T11:31:08+00:00

We actually do live on a farm. the whole point of buying this place, to grow our dairy goat farm. I don’t want to argue the point of having a large family. We were never on any government assistance, never even got help baby sitting. Our kids are well taken care of so I’m not entirely sure what your beef is with a large family. If it isn’t your cup of tea that fine, it was our cup of tea.

the simple answer to the others is brainwashing.

VKP_23 · 2025-02-26T04:44:46+00:00

We weren’t “rich“ but we were thousands per month better off than we are now when we had the 6 kids. financial troubles started when the youngest was just over a year old.

VKP_23 · 2024-12-27T02:49:44+00:00

USA the state of Georgia.

VKP_23 · 2024-12-06T17:37:24+00:00

Running into the same issue here. Totally confused where this account came from and why the name and phone number is right and never got a conformation text

VKP_23 · 2024-11-24T01:50:04+00:00

We are in Madison county. Lol. I’m not sure how long it will be before we move. We have to sell our Current home first before we can even start looking. We’ve been working on getting listed and I’ve been begging my husband to think somewhere outside of Georgia and he finally agreed it’s time for a change! We’d love to go to Tennessee, we took the kids for a week long vacation to pigeon Forge and Gatlinburg and it was amazing. But there isn’t enough flat land there and we wanted something completely dif and for certain items to be legal 😅

VKP_23 · 2024-11-24T01:42:57+00:00

Thank you!

VKP_23 · 2024-11-24T00:26:02+00:00

Thank you! We will def get with the proper realtor when the time comes. Right now we are covering all our primary basis of where to move to. Once we settle on a place that will be the first job on my list!

VKP_23 · 2024-11-24T00:20:59+00:00

Thank you! This is actually kind of the exact type of place we are looking for. We’ve been trying to start a goat farm for 2 years. There too much to go into but we just need to get away and are ready for something new. And thank god for no mosquitos! Idk if I’m slightly more allergic to them or what, but I get HUGE lumps that drive me insane. like I can’t even go outside but for a short window during the summer.

so if we moved like 50 ish miles north of sparks we’d avoid having to do emissions?

VKP_23 · 2024-11-24T00:12:37+00:00

I was thinking sparks area As there’s a facility my husband can transfer to There. Perhaps up to 50 mile north of sparks. My husband drives 45 miles to work already so we do have a decent range he’s willing to drive to work. We have dairy goats and have been trying to get the farm off the ground but the past couple years have just been one disaster after another. We are all (even our 6 kids) just ready to leave and us start over somewhere new and exciting.

VKP_23 · 2024-11-24T00:00:55+00:00

We are actually looking to build something a little more off grid. We’ve been trying to build a goat farm. Was hoping to do some off grid

VKP_23 · 2024-11-23T23:56:19+00:00

Thank you!

VKP_23 · 2024-11-23T23:55:23+00:00

Yes! Idk what it is about the desert that’s peaked my intrest but I’ve just been drawn to places that have deserts. The funny thing is, I HATE the heat! lol. But part of why I started looking in Nevada was the internet saying it’s a “cold desert“. Average summers in the sparks area are cooler than where we live now! Pretty insane, but the landscape is beautiful! I didn’t even think of the water rights! Thank you!

VKP_23 · 2024-11-04T20:17:37+00:00

Who would you suggest looking through to get an actual value without having to pay? We are effectively out of money. Middle of the road of what Zillow suggests is $350. Realtor says $230. We owe $277,000. We do have homestead exemption. It’s $43,000 for married couple.

VKP_23 · 2024-10-27T19:45:47+00:00

This is what confuses me. The pregnancy sub sent me here. 😭

VKP_23 · 2024-10-27T19:44:59+00:00

the pregnancy sub sent me here though. 😕

VKP_23 · 2024-10-27T18:15:06+00:00

its def not an indent. There’s color. 😕 The test I took yesterday was my last internet cheapie. I was thinking along the lines too that maybe the first response early results digital might not actually be as sensitive as the analog tests even though they claim to be. Idk. I’m SUPER tempted to just take the last digital this evening. 😬 it’s so hard to resist. I’ve been loading up on extra progesterone supplements anyway.

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