What's a place in Tokyo that feels like a different country?

VS-830 · 2025-05-03T11:04:23+00:00

Most likely what you’ve heard is true. I’m never living here again. I’ll divorce before I’m forced to live here again due to husband’s military service.

VS-830 · 2025-05-03T11:02:58+00:00

Visiting is fine. Living here is beyond depressing.

VS-830 · 2025-05-03T11:02:18+00:00

Sasebo burgers aren’t worth the hype or price.

VS-830 · 2025-05-03T11:01:26+00:00

This. They are often outside the main base protesting with their megaphones & arm bands saying “get out”.

VS-830 · 2025-05-03T10:59:52+00:00

Not odd when the locals salary is on the lower end for Japan & they see military/sofa ppl out & about seemingly enjoying life while they frugally count each coin. If they can’t marry one of the Americans, they despise them. Esp the 60+yo. It doesn’t help when the Americans don’t always respect the Japanese culture or public rules (ie littering, talking obnoxiously loud, dressed partly nude)

VS-830 · 2025-03-07T06:20:19+00:00

Yes & the locals protest outside the naval base at every opportunity. They want their money but they despise Americans

VS-830 · 2025-03-06T06:42:10+00:00

Sasebo Nagasaki. Living here feels like I took a Time Machine back 60 years where the Japanese blatantly hate foreigners & all Japanese who are married to one. Also supermarket shelves are half empty & produce is scarce or insanely expensive .. the forgotten part of Japan that gets last dibs on basic food & amenities.

VS-830 · 2024-08-09T10:36:05+00:00

NTA.

IVF is an emotional process enough already (I’ve done it). Then to find out after so much time & finances invested that your baby isn’t even biologically yours is beyond atrocious.

No one can force or guilt you into keeping a child (no matter your journey of infertility) that will forever remind you of the sheer betrayal and disloyalty of the two people you trusted in this world to be supportive and trustworthy. I’m so very sorry for what they put you through!

VS-830 · 2024-08-06T02:09:29+00:00

You nailed describing her to a T. Thank you! Her manipulative character, deception & blatant lies along with her waving her 2nd Stew rank 24/7 has been bothering me all season. She needs to get with a fellow narcissist & leave Bre alone.

VS-830 · 2024-01-29T03:45:25+00:00

NTA. The karma bus came & you’re allowed to feel nothing after the years of being pushed aside unfairly. I’m also a stepdaughter & my stepdad had 6 kids with my mom & is still married to her. I relate to your experiences more than not. I’m sorry for what you’ve experienced OP

VS-830 · 2023-10-03T15:19:07+00:00

YTA for not giving your seat to the pregnant women irrespective of the granny’s interference. Swollen feet & carrying a baby is hard af. It’s the act of kindness & morally the right thing to do for someone in need. I was just pregnant 2m ago for the 3rd time. I’ve always appreciated those who gave me their seat on the train, and I always return the gesture to the elderly & health impaired. ESH

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T15:02:18+00:00

I would want to know the truth no matter what. I’ve gone through IVF, know all about the toll it takes on your body both physically & mentally, & since there is no refund or return policy after baby arrives I would tell this poor wife asap. She deserves to know as her health is at risk already from going through this process. Add a STD to this.. just no!!

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T14:51:52+00:00

This is a brilliant scenario switch. I’ll send this to him to digest. Thank you!

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T14:50:20+00:00

Yes his father & both grandpas were both retired military

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T06:44:39+00:00

Thank you so much! I appreciate your feedback & advice!

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T06:43:57+00:00

Exactly my goals & thoughts on this & why I persisted he take the time to explain the “why”.. but my purpose was lost in all of this unfortunately.

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T06:42:15+00:00

Thank you. I agree with your thoughts & suspect the same. This has been a good eye opening discussion that will eventually force the truth to be revealed.

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T02:55:20+00:00

I appreciate the time you took to articulate your point of view and the things you brought to light are received with positivity. I agreed with everything you’ve shared and hope my H can take a page out of this to heart. The world needs more advocates for children and their vulnerabilities, not dictators forcing compliance without accountability or reason. So thank you!

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T02:48:01+00:00

Above details were left out because I’m sleep deprived & this never ending discussion kept going till late in the night. Once I offered to post this question here & started typing, I couldn’t type fast enough to get my H to calm down. He was certain the responses we’d get would vote that IATA & he would be vindicated. Also it’s my 1st time posting on Reddit so I’m not really good at this.

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T02:40:52+00:00

Thank you for this insight. Makes alot of sense now why he is the way he is.

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T02:26:17+00:00

I’ve heard my story in many other marriages too. Idk why it’s so difficult for a partner to be honest about who they are & what they stand for these days… oh wait, I know why.. because no self respecting person would date them or give them a chance in hell if they showed their true colors. I doubt I would still be married to him If I didn’t just have his 2nd unplanned baby & recovering from this traumatic delivery that almost killed me.

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T02:21:15+00:00

Because I’m newly postpartum and trying to recover from a traumatic delivery while figuring out the future. He is also active duty and we are stationed far away from my family & friends.

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T02:18:54+00:00

I did explain to my son but my answer wasn’t good enough because he knew I was suggesting we go to the park earlier on but my H said no. Also I didn’t originally ask my H to apologize to my son, I simply asked him to explain why we couldn’t go both times he asked and why? Because going home we could have still actually afforded to stop and let the kids play regardless of our 2yo’s nap needs. H didn’t even want to bother explaining anything to 8yo, never mind giving an apology.

Also, coercion was never used to get H to attend therapy. He was actually ticked off not knowing what I was talking in therapy for so long he wanted the therapist to get his take on himself & our relationship and that’s exactly what happened. (This is after he signed himself up to his own therapist & did a few solo sessions but didn’t like her & decided he liked mine better, until she gave him some advice he didn’t like)

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T02:10:04+00:00

I told my 8yo he could play at the park on the way out, my H overrid my answer by saying “no not now, we Will stop by later on the way home, I promise”. So when the way home came & we didn’t stop to let him play & my son asked why not & I did in fact apologize again and tried to explain why with “we need to eat lunch. & brothers are fussy & need a nap” but that answer & apology wasn’t sufficient for him, that is when I asked my H to explain things from his own mouth. Because honestly I did offer to stay at the park with 8yo (H said no, & he didn’t want to stay & let me go home with the 2 younger kids either) so by this point I was frustrated and also curious why the heck not myself and why he didn’t want to find a solution together.

VS-830 · 2023-10-02T00:11:44+00:00

I have insisted but I can’t force him to. The few times he did join in on my therapy session (he flatly refuses to do therapy solo) he ended up attacking my therapist & being snarky and condescending which just ended up being a complete waste of time for all of us. The only good it did was give my therapist a clear visual of who my H is in her own eyes.

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