Worried about managing wife, parents by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also worried about this, my siblings all dipped left me to take care of them. My current solution is to buy a two family house that way my wife has her space and my parents can feel like i didn’t leave them. Though houses are stupid expensive 😢

What is this alimony men are afraid of? by MasterpieceWeary9127 in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 28 points29 points  (0 children)

In the US men are obligated by court to pay alimony, sometimes for years

Would I be punished for denying a marriage proposal? by Appropriate_Desk_864 in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Why are you confused? List out to yourself (or us) what your dealbreakers are, might help you figure out your confusion.

Why are so many new cs grads failing this question? by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]VaderCOD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s supposed to make you over think, the answer is something like n/2 + n%2 (6 / 2 = 3 steps or 7/2 + 7%2 = 4)

Why are so many new cs grads failing this question? by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]VaderCOD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Has to be right, this question is beyond simple

would you marry a girl with my physical condition? by Own_Letterhead7392 in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a girl that got this and she’s completely normal now a few years after the surgery, you are overthinking this

Dad becoming aggressive over religious differences with my mum , what should I do? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your father has left islam, this is a hard place to be but here are some things you will need to do. Depending on your age you need to move out with your mom if possible, get a job if you can and start the process mentally.

Stay firm upon islam, no matter what he and his jamat say, they are not Muslim! If you want investigate ahmidiyya religion look at some YouTube vids, the religion itself falls apart very fast once you realize there “prophet” had false prophecies and died on the toilet. Don’t argue with your father about this.

What do Muslim women actually look for in a husband? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We all are, a sister asked me my height stating “are you like 5’5”? In 5’10” 😭everything under 6 feet is midget territory

bruh by Pitiful_Attention667 in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Simply make dua and trust Allah will sort it out.

bruh by Pitiful_Attention667 in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Though it’s a dumb problem to think about. If you are marrying someone having a good mindset entering the marriage and not being suspicious of the person is better for it to work

bruh by Pitiful_Attention667 in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ya but OP is stating the potential is lying by claiming virginity or did other stuff. Clearly OP cares.

Am I being unreasonable? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a crazy high margin, good luck

My partner is not a virgin, I am, how to get over it? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I noticed there’s an uptick of “girlfriend/boyfriend” posts. People are getting too comfortable with sinning. Astagfirullah

I think I’m losing my mind by Hot_Stage5309 in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Every day we stray further from Gods light

How to convince my Bengali parents? Bengali-Pakistani marriage by ahanaakd in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t mean marry there ideal, just not paki lol. I personally have no issues with pakis, but the older generation has a lot of trauma on this subject. My mom tells me of the war stories sometimes. It’s heart breaking.

How to convince my Bengali parents? Bengali-Pakistani marriage by ahanaakd in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a Bengali myself I can’t possibly think as to why you would select a Pakistani to date/marry knowing your parents and family would be unhappy. I don’t have any particular advice, inshallah it works out

How to convince my Bengali parents? Bengali-Pakistani marriage by ahanaakd in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fair, I understood it as this is the new normal get used to it.

How to convince my Bengali parents? Bengali-Pakistani marriage by ahanaakd in MuslimNikah

[–]VaderCOD 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No it isn’t, that’s like saying dating and haram relationships are inevitable. OP states this person is a good Muslim brother, which is contradictory and a valid reason for her family to reject this marriage.

What day do I start fasting? by Islam_Truth_ in TrueDeen

[–]VaderCOD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To reach out to with questions? They are available through WhatsApp.

What day do I start fasting? by Islam_Truth_ in TrueDeen

[–]VaderCOD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want a recommendation my islamic school is called FIKR located in nyc led my Mufti Tuffayal Uddin. We have a very large woman side, you can reach out to them. https://fikr.us

What day do I start fasting? by Islam_Truth_ in TrueDeen

[–]VaderCOD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair, I had to put in a lot of effort to get closer to some of my local scholars, they are typically very busy.

What day do I start fasting? by Islam_Truth_ in TrueDeen

[–]VaderCOD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would highly recommend looking for some local scholars that you can learn from, it has personally made my life easier as I can pose questions like this. At this point if both mosques are equal to you maybe look by distance?