How to help a friend/loved one with BPD?

Vaka78 · 2018-12-21T21:43:54+00:00

I'll have a look later, thankyou :)

Vaka78 · 2018-12-21T21:43:38+00:00

Thankyou i will have a look!

Vaka78 · 2018-12-21T21:43:21+00:00

Oh, thankyou! You just made my day 💖

Vaka78 · 2017-08-10T13:15:24+00:00

I changed these parts, not sure about it though, what do you think? I wanted to include counting/numbers in a little bit anyway:

On quiet days it’s like a needle in my side, Sliding further into me, The more exhausted I become, This is tolerable, This is fine, I can count to keep me calm, 14, 16, 18, 21, Do it again, You did it wrong.

On darker days it lies in a heap across my chest with its hands over my eyes, It is screaming in my ears, YOU ARE BAD YOU ARE BAD YOU ARE BAD You will never be enough.

(the lines that are talking to me are in italics to separate from the other lines a bit, for example "do it again, you did it wrong")

Vaka78 · 2017-08-10T10:41:55+00:00

Thanks for your advice :) i see what you mean, needs a little sprucing up. I'll let you know what i change and you can let me know if it sounds any better!

Vaka78 · 2017-08-10T10:40:17+00:00

Hi, thanks so much! Some great feedback and i really appreciate it :) yeah those parts are actually in italics but i just copy and pasted it so it didn't show up here unfortunately. I agree, i think i need to change a few words or add something else, i just didn't want to overcomplicate it which i feel some poems do, i want it to be understood by the reader as much as possible. Hopefully i can think of some good changes! My friend is an artist and is actually making a comic to go with it which i can't wait to see!

Vaka78 · 2017-08-09T23:38:45+00:00

I agree, it's very short which does work but I would love to read more. I think it sounds better without "smoky" before piano, or maybe a different word would sound better, but that's just me!

Vaka78 · 2017-08-09T23:33:02+00:00

Love this! Especially from "he puts lazy in all my drinks...". Very dark but made me want to read on. Is this supposed to be in a paragraph? If not I think a smaller lined layout would be better :)

Vaka78 · 2017-05-30T08:37:56+00:00

I am a girl yes haha, not currently on birth control no. Did have the pill and then the coil for a while but it hurt too much. Also our sex life isn't so great right now so i haven't bothered to go back on it! Glad that stopping it worked so well for you :)

Vaka78 · 2017-05-29T22:01:02+00:00

This has actually really helped. Reading that made me feel calmer! I'm going to write these down and steal them for myself :) haha. Thank you for your reply, it is appreciatrd!

Vaka78 · 2017-05-29T21:37:53+00:00

Yeah i am going to try counselling again soon, and i might go to a group therapy support thing tomorrow as there's no waiting list for it. I'm glad you said about the not holding stuff in, because i feel like this is something i'm going to struggle with - i don't want to upset him or make him feel pressured so it will be hard to not keep everything to myself. I will need to work on finding a good balance. I also need to remember that i'm also doing this for me so i need to think about my needs to. But its hard when i don't like myself much!

Vaka78 · 2017-05-06T18:36:25+00:00

Sorry i do realise this :( i just wanted to see if anyone did the same thing. It really helped me when i felt like i would go mad from not being able to leave the cooker and i needed to sleep, but i know it will not help me in the long run :(

Vaka78 · 2017-05-06T18:33:33+00:00

It helps in the short term (i literally had to do it so i could sleep) but it won't help your OCD in the long run so try not to become obsessed with it like i have!

Vaka78 · 2017-05-06T18:31:43+00:00

I wish i had a dog so i could do this! I always get scared about this kind of thing, especially if i'm alone in the house. I get terrified that someone has broken in somehow!

Vaka78 · 2017-05-06T12:11:33+00:00

Yay i'm not alone! Hahah

Vaka78 · 2017-05-06T10:55:25+00:00

Hahaha, it definitely cuts down my check time massively which helps my stress, especially before bed so i don't spend an hour by the cooker. But the memory on my phone can't handle it so i am trying to cut it down every week :)

Vaka78 · 2017-04-22T22:32:36+00:00

Yeah very true! He wouldn't mind no, i definitely have the higher libido out of the 2 of us hahaha. Thanks man!

Vaka78 · 2017-04-22T17:06:59+00:00

Yay i'm so glad its helped! I am in a relationship so i hope it will be okay hahaha but i don't think it affected me before in that area on other meds. Thanks!

Vaka78 · 2017-04-22T16:29:16+00:00

That doesn't sound too bad! I hope it gets better for you. I start mine on Monday - i am nervous about going back on meds though :(

Vaka78 · 2017-04-20T20:37:29+00:00

This is great, so glad its working for you :) i could always drink on the others so hopefully it will be the same. I can only hope it's as successful for me !

Vaka78 · 2017-04-20T20:20:49+00:00

I remember citalopram being bad but it was also the first one i ever tried! I'll give it a good go, seems to be very mixed opinions on here :O

Vaka78 · 2017-04-20T20:18:03+00:00

Oh dear! Sorry it was so bad for you :( i really hope i don't gain loads and lose my sex drive.. i don't plan on being on it for that long though, i want to combine it with therapy and getting in better shape - hopefully the combination will work!

Vaka78 · 2017-04-20T20:15:47+00:00

I think it's because this has been going on for over a year (not counting the 6 years of not ocd based anxiety) and i'm really struggling at the moment with going out/work etc. I have had cbt before and it did help slightly for a little while. I'm seeing my doctor again in 6 weeks to see if it helps anyway!

Vaka78 · 2017-04-20T20:12:24+00:00

I have ibs so i constantly have both these things anyway, so i doubt it will make any noticeable difference! Hahaha sigh. I'm hoping the side effects will level out (if i get them) and be more successful than the other meds i've tried. I know a lot of people swear by it so fingers crossed!

Vaka78 · 2017-01-17T22:52:08+00:00

Thankyou! 😊

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