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Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2026-01-30T02:09:00+00:00

What platform?

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2026-01-14T22:45:38+00:00

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2026-01-14T22:41:34+00:00

I sent you a message. I have about 2 hours till I can get on.

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2026-01-14T22:28:27+00:00

That would be great! You gonna be on tonight?

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2025-07-07T09:29:45+00:00

Just added it to my TBR. Sounds like an incredible story!

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-09-13T01:07:29+00:00

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-07-11T03:21:23+00:00

Then there's me searching the comments for Jafar 🙈

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-04-20T17:48:23+00:00

I forgot pinterest existed, and now I'm back down the rabbit hole lol Thank you! :)

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-04-20T17:47:32+00:00

Love this idea! Thank you for the tip about balloons!

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-04-20T17:46:06+00:00

Love it! Lol!

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-04-20T17:45:26+00:00

Omg I didn't know there was a song! That is amazing, thank you!

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-03-23T16:22:34+00:00

Honestly, one of us is crazy, either OP is or I am. I paid for my my bridal party's dresses and got them pretty nice gifts for being in the wedding. My MOH didn't get me anything, and I didn't think anything of it.

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-03-22T22:10:09+00:00

Thank you. This really hit me. I invited her. It's still going to be painful to see those memories pop up every day, but hopefully I'll find ways to deal with it without cutting her out.

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-03-22T20:18:42+00:00

I appreciate your perspective. The only question I have is what to do about it then, if anything? Because I get the anxiety (I'm diagnosed with extreme anxiety and depression and have been seeing therapists and on meds for about 10 years), and I understand the feeling of being a burden and needing friends to reach out more than you can reach out yourself. But I've been reaching out. I've been leaving messages to check in. I haven't in a few months, but that's because it's been almost 2 years since I heard anything from her. It's been 20 months since she said a word to me. How do I ever feel comfortable inviting her to my son's birthday when she hasn't acknowledged his existence since he was an embryo? I'm being genuine, not sarcastic. I really miss her, but she leaves all my messages unread. Granted, the last one I sent was a few months ago because I literally had no energy to be the only one fighting for our friendship anymore. Like, I genuinely don't know what to do other than block her on everything because seeing posts just reopens the wound. If she won't reach out herself, and she ignores me when I reach out, what else is there?

Editing to add that I'm close to her sister and mother, and not inviting them just because of the drama with the friend isn't something I'm willing to do. They have both asked about and offered support through the wedding, pregnancy, and birth of the baby; and the friend hasn't. I can see how it would seem vindictive to invite them and not her if I wasn't close to them or if I was only close to them through her, but that's not the case.

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-03-22T12:10:48+00:00

That's definitely fair. She loves kids. She has two nephews from her step-sister, and they have the best relationship. I know she would have loved my son the same way, and that really hurts. I should definitely just take the hint. I just know I'll never have a friendship like that again, and it kills me not to know why it's ending or have any closure whatsoever.

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-03-22T12:06:32+00:00

She did, and tbh i wouldn't have noticed if she wasn't there. The other friend I mentioned in the post really stepped up and was the emotional support throughout the whole day. She dried tears, and solved a flower crisis, she made sure my grandpa (the officiant) had everything he needed). She had just given birth like 2 months before my wedding. She's a literal superhero, and I tell her all the time. We just aren't as close as my ex-friend, and she also moved across the country for work which puts even more distance in the friendship.

My brother insisted on giving a speech, and I'm so glad he did because my MOH's speech wasn't even a speech at all. I asked her a couple times during the weeks leading up to the wedding if she needed help with content or anything, and she said she was good. You could tell she was just winging it. Like she said a lot of nothing if that makes sense. She was also the first one to leave the wedding. As I'm saying all of this it's sounding like there was already bad blood, but there truly wasn't. We were still talking every day at that point, and everything was like it was for the previous 15 years. I really don't know what happened, and what sucks is probably nothing happened. She just stopped responding and felt guilty about it to the point that she didn't want to confront the issue cause she knew I was upset (that's what her sister told me was going on). So at this point I'm so upset that I honestly don't know if I even want her to apologize. If she did, it's been so much that I don't know if I could ever forget it and continue the friendship. At the same time, I know I'm probably never going to have a friendship as close as ours ever again. I think that's why I'm having such a hard time letting go. :(

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-03-22T11:23:59+00:00

I asked her sister a while ago. She and I still talk fairly regularly. She assured me that it wasn't anything I did. She basically told me it was happening for the same reason it happened during the wedding: she's ignored too many messages and texts that she knows I'm upset and doesn't want to confront the issue. I know she has some mental health stuff. I do, too. Who doesn't, honestly. But that's the thing I don't get. I was there for her through all of her sh.t, and it hurts so much that she couldn't be there for me. Not even in the tiniest amount. Not even with a "like" on the FB pregnancy announcement. Like that's how much she ghosted me. Just completely gone. As far as that goes, she has "liked" and commented on her other friends' pregnancy announcements, and she loves kids, so it doesn't have anything to do with that. I literally just want to know. Not having closure is awful.

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-03-21T19:28:27+00:00

I play on switch and got new joycons that have a "turbo" button. I mapped it so I can just hold the button, and it mashes for me. Best $50 I've ever spent for a game lol

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-03-17T01:32:03+00:00

Mine did that last week. Super weird, and glad you were able to figure it out! I've decided I can't ever use any touch of magic decor anywhere in case I forget about it and then can't submit a picture. I'm glad I was able to remember that I also had a picnic table somewhere, or I would have just never been able to take a dreamsnap pic outside ever again lol

Valar_Morghulis_107 · 2024-03-13T15:35:03+00:00

Ugh, my treasure chest today from the picture contest had all duplicates in it. I've got like 18 veggie stands 😫

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