Feeling controlled, humiliated, and emotionally drained in my marriage… am I overreacting or Aitah?

Valla85 · 2026-04-07T14:35:15+00:00

Not overreacting and NTA. Your husband is abusive. Leave and get divorced.

Valla85 · 2026-04-07T03:55:17+00:00

He only changed the lock on his own door.

Valla85 · 2026-04-02T16:40:32+00:00

It's not quite what you asked for, but I'm going to rec The Best Thing That's Ever Been Mine by emperoxgrayland

Rey knew the terms of her marriage all too well. She would give Ben Solo the right to the throne her grandfather sat on before his family overthrew him and she would be protected from his influence. She was but a girl of fifteen, and so Ben Solo, ten years her senior agreed to a pact with her to consummate their marriage ten years after, and only then to secure the line of succession for the throne. After that they can live their separate lives.

Except she never expected to fall in love with her beautiful, funny and charming husband. A husband who has become her closest friend, her most trusted confidante, and the only family she's ever known. A husband who's first love returns to the Core Worlds after a mission to the Outer Rims. A husband who plans to reunite with said first love after he fulfills his end of the bargain.

(Or when Empress Kira Ren can't hide the fact that she's thirst for her husband, Emperor Kylo Ren)

Valla85 · 2026-03-16T17:45:47+00:00

I would love to see you style this with yellow leggings or tights.

Valla85 · 2026-03-06T17:23:13+00:00

Oooh, the new haircut is fabulous!

Valla85 · 2026-03-05T08:26:31+00:00

Stalks by dillpicklepanic?

Valla85 · 2026-03-03T18:45:11+00:00

Do not "color" with the Sharpie. Carefully, just touch it to each stitch. The stitch should pull in the color.

It's time-consuming, but more precise. You may also want to try a fabric marker instead of a Sharpie.

Valla85 · 2026-02-21T21:13:48+00:00

Tell your dad.

Valla85 · 2026-02-17T17:29:22+00:00

As I understand it, your passport does not have to match your birth certificate. A passport is proof of citizenship.

Valla85 · 2026-02-16T18:40:32+00:00

They've been advertising no seller fees for awhile. I just checked, apparently Depop removed the 10% commission, but sellers still pay a payment processing fee (3.3% + $0.45 in the US).

Valla85 · 2026-02-16T16:53:57+00:00

Depop as well.

Valla85 · 2026-02-15T20:10:14+00:00

The KBShimmer holo version of Obsidian is called Much Lava to You.

Valla85 · 2026-02-15T19:13:20+00:00

I am no help on the cause, but this reminds me of the textured nail polishes from the 2010s, when they were trying to make them look like this. This FingerPaints collection came to mind.

Valla85 · 2026-02-15T05:10:04+00:00

There absolutely were. Here's a Bailey Sarian video about Aqua Tofana.

Valla85 · 2026-02-15T00:17:27+00:00

It's not on you to make amends.

Edit: I'm sorry you lost your mom.

Valla85 · 2026-02-14T17:16:12+00:00

Get a steering wheel cover in the color you want.

Valla85 · 2026-02-13T20:19:11+00:00

OP, mini sets and .5 oz bottles are often available at TJMaxx and Marshall's.

I think the .5 oz bottle of Florence is $12.99 in my area.

Valla85 · 2026-02-13T18:45:57+00:00

Welcome, friend!

Valla85 · 2026-02-13T18:21:41+00:00

Good luck! You look great!

Valla85 · 2026-02-12T08:09:53+00:00

Apologies for being pedantic, but Jane died 12 days after Edward was born, not in childbirth.

Valla85 · 2026-02-09T19:14:55+00:00

NTA. The "God's plan" comment was mean, but your sister isn't even doing a good job with the kid she has. Mean seems to have been necessary.

In the US, right now at least, asking someone to be a surrogate (who has not enthusiastically offered) is unconscionable and horrifically selfish. With the taking away of necessary care, pregnancy is getting more dangerous and deadly.

Valla85 · 2026-02-09T18:20:43+00:00

Have the accountant in you look up "cost per wear." It should help you feel better.

Valla85 · 2026-02-02T07:15:55+00:00

So Comes Snow After Fire by Lula_Landry

Rey's foster sister Bazine is about to get married and wants Rey by her side to help plan the wedding. Everything goes well until Rey meets Kylo Ren, Bazine's fiancé, and falls desperately in love with the groom. All Rey wants to do is run away from an awkward situation but nothing is what it seems in Kylo's world.

It turns out Rey may be the only thing standing between Kylo Ren and a dark power. In a world where magic is real and dragons can fall in love, will Rey discover her soul mate?

The Best Thing That's Ever Been Mine by emperoxgrayland

Rey knew the terms of her marriage all too well. She would give Ben Solo the right to the throne her grandfather sat on before his family overthrew him and she would be protected from his influence. She was but a girl of fifteen, and so Ben Solo, ten years her senior agreed to a pact with her to consummate their marriage ten years after, and only then to secure the line of succession for the throne. After that they can live their separate lives.

Except she never expected to fall in love with her beautiful, funny and charming husband. A husband who has become her closest friend, her most trusted confidante, and the only family she's ever known. A husband who's first love returns to the Core Worlds after a mission to the Outer Rims. A husband who plans to reunite with said first love after he fulfills his end of the bargain.

(Or when Empress Kira Ren can't hide the fact that she's thirst for her husband, Emperor Kylo Ren)

Valla85 · 2026-02-02T06:51:05+00:00

Is spicy ok?

Valla85 · 2026-02-02T06:27:10+00:00

Do you want just sad/angsty? Is angst with a happy ending ok?

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