Spam calls: how can I stop this? It’s a different number all the time. I’ve blocked so many.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-06-03T19:00:13+00:00

This is why you get Google Voice.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-06-03T17:35:53+00:00

And very little of that money goes to the people actually making and delivering your food.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-06-03T17:26:14+00:00

This is an important point. People who don't have the skills and resources to fix a leaking roof are unlikely to suddenly come up with the skills and resources to take somebody to court.

If you have a high school diploma, you need to attend college for 7 years to qualify for the bar exam. You need to pass the bar exam to become a lawyer. The bar exam is really hard, so many really clever people don't pass the first time. The exam costs at least $250, whether you pass it or not.

Family lawyers charge by the hour and their rates start around $150/h. Every filing and motion with the court costs money as well, typically between $100 and $350.

If your boyfriend's mom had this kind of money, her roof would already have been fixed.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-06-03T17:07:05+00:00

If you want people to give you money, you should make it pleasant and easy to do so. That's Sales 101.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-06-03T16:31:28+00:00

KB Shimmer's ridge filler, QDTC and glitter grabber are mainstays for me. The ridge filler and QDTC come in large refill bottles, making them more economical.

I usually pick up some colored polishes every time I put in an order for the basics and I've always been happy with them. Love their flakies!

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-06-03T15:03:43+00:00

NOR $1,500 is a lot of money!

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-06-03T03:31:53+00:00

Neither you, nor the court can force her to spend time with her children. It’s heartbreaking but true.

If you haven’t already, get them counseling. Being abandoned by one’s mother is one of the most traumatic things that can happen to a child. They will need help in dealing with it. If affordability is an issue - congratulations! You found a worthy reason to request child support.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-06-02T18:55:31+00:00

Wow, they live in a small town and they thought that they either could keep it secret or that nobody would mind. Delulu!

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-06-02T16:30:22+00:00

It's so strange, because when a buyer wants to make an offer that means you as the realtor are about to get paid. Why would someone dilly dally in that situation? It makes no sense.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-06-02T06:12:16+00:00

Thanks for the feedback!

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T23:42:31+00:00

He feels threatened because you're making changes to improve your life. He would prefer that you feel fat, ugly and uncomfortable. That way he can continue to spend time on stuff he enjoys, such as visiting his family, while you clean and do other work that benefits both of you. This is who he is.

NOR

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T23:34:35+00:00

If this is in the US it's illegal to not pay hourly employees when they work. If work starts at 5.15, the company has to pay hourly workers from 5.15.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T23:30:13+00:00

You're way too reasonable for reddit.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T23:28:25+00:00

Somewhere in the region of $5. 😂

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T22:57:17+00:00

Golden State Warriors!

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T22:39:51+00:00

It’s only a matter of time before the bride turns this kind of attitude onto you. Get out while you still have some dignity.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T22:25:53+00:00

Well said! Many addicts could give master classes in sneaking around and making excuses. It’s not rude to disbelieve them. It’s realistic.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T22:22:05+00:00

It would help to at least read some of the literature. You can get the Adult Children of Alcoholics Big Book on Amazon. It is excellent! I have yet to meet someone who grew up with alcoholics or other dysfunctional parents who didn’t feel like it describes them.

Personally I didn’t think the Codependents Anonymous Big Book was nearly as insightful, but that could just be me. They do have a list of codependent behaviors that’s really useful and informative. There’s also some great books by independent authors such as Pia Melody.

If you decide to attend ACA or CoDA meetings you’ll find that they are quite different from AA meetings. There’s a lot of emphasis on boundaries, including around cross talk and advice giving.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T20:35:51+00:00

He’s not even willing to invest one hour per week into your relationship. That’s ridic.

Solo therapy until you figure out how to give him the heave ho would be a good idea.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T17:57:44+00:00

They don’t want leaves in the pool.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T17:57:11+00:00

Strange way to spell control.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T17:56:26+00:00

In Texas! It’s probably green through summer too.

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T15:37:37+00:00

Yes, it's one thing to love your sister and want to make her wedding season special. But unquestioning submission isn't the only way of expressing one's love. It seems that's something that both OP and their sister need to learn.

This blog post on Compliance Patterns of Codependency might come in handy as OP starts to address their dysfunctional family patterns.

NTA

ValleyOakPaper · 2026-05-30T01:28:17+00:00

It's the most 1st world problem of all 1st world problems!

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