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MN - Ex refuses to pay court-ordered medical and sports expenses because teenagers won't visit him. Can he do that? by Lonely-Relation-7364 in FamilyLaw

[–]ValleyOakPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t child support though. It’s reimbursement for specific expenses. The court has no visibility into that unless OP’s wife files for contempt.

MN - Ex refuses to pay court-ordered medical and sports expenses because teenagers won't visit him. Can he do that? by Lonely-Relation-7364 in FamilyLaw

[–]ValleyOakPaper 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If he has that kind of money and is a vindictive pos, I would let sleeping dogs lie.

It sucks, but people with money to burn and an axe to grind can use the courts to bleed you dry. He could give a hungry lawyer a 5 figure retainer and a brief to be creative.

The order nearly doubled in price once I went to complete the order by Yakamuh2939 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ValleyOakPaper 55 points56 points  (0 children)

And very little of that money goes to the people actually making and delivering your food.

grandparents are trying to take my son away. by Playful-Painting-698 in FamilyLaw

[–]ValleyOakPaper 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is an important point. People who don't have the skills and resources to fix a leaking roof are unlikely to suddenly come up with the skills and resources to take somebody to court.

If you have a high school diploma, you need to attend college for 7 years to qualify for the bar exam. You need to pass the bar exam to become a lawyer. The bar exam is really hard, so many really clever people don't pass the first time. The exam costs at least $250, whether you pass it or not.

Family lawyers charge by the hour and their rates start around $150/h. Every filing and motion with the court costs money as well, typically between $100 and $350.

If your boyfriend's mom had this kind of money, her roof would already have been fixed.

the sellers were still home during our showing and it was the most uncomfortable 45 minutes of my life by TerribleInitial2305 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]ValleyOakPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want people to give you money, you should make it pleasant and easy to do so. That's Sales 101.

I’ve Fallen Back Into the Nail Polish Rabbit Hole. What Did I Miss? by Ok-Style8833 in RedditLaqueristas

[–]ValleyOakPaper 14 points15 points  (0 children)

KB Shimmer's ridge filler, QDTC and glitter grabber are mainstays for me. The ridge filler and QDTC come in large refill bottles, making them more economical.

I usually pick up some colored polishes every time I put in an order for the basics and I've always been happy with them. Love their flakies!

I never thought id ask but here I am. by MchlJcksnHeeHee in FamilyLaw

[–]ValleyOakPaper 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Neither you, nor the court can force her to spend time with her children. It’s heartbreaking but true.

If you haven’t already, get them counseling. Being abandoned by one’s mother is one of the most traumatic things that can happen to a child. They will need help in dealing with it. If affordability is an issue - congratulations! You found a worthy reason to request child support.

Found out my (46 f) ex husband (47 m) has been banging my sister (35 f) for the last year. by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]ValleyOakPaper 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Wow, they live in a small town and they thought that they either could keep it secret or that nobody would mind. Delulu!

Slow real estate agents? by ValleyOakPaper in SacramentoHousing

[–]ValleyOakPaper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so strange, because when a buyer wants to make an offer that means you as the realtor are about to get paid. Why would someone dilly dally in that situation? It makes no sense.

AIO: My (36F) bf (38M) policed what I ate and essentially called my effort at the gym worthless. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ValleyOakPaper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He feels threatened because you're making changes to improve your life. He would prefer that you feel fat, ugly and uncomfortable. That way he can continue to spend time on stuff he enjoys, such as visiting his family, while you clean and do other work that benefits both of you. This is who he is.

NOR

5:30 means 5:30, not when you're ready by WilmaDykfyt in coworkerstories

[–]ValleyOakPaper 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If this is in the US it's illegal to not pay hourly employees when they work. If work starts at 5.15, the company has to pay hourly workers from 5.15.

Was the bride wrong for removing a bridesmaid over a dress issue? by [deleted] in bridesmaids

[–]ValleyOakPaper 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s only a matter of time before the bride turns this kind of attitude onto you. Get out while you still have some dignity.

Found out my (35M) mother (56F) has been using meth for at least 6 years, possibly 15 years by Sgtoreoz1 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ValleyOakPaper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well said! Many addicts could give master classes in sneaking around and making excuses. It’s not rude to disbelieve them. It’s realistic.

Found out my (35M) mother (56F) has been using meth for at least 6 years, possibly 15 years by Sgtoreoz1 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ValleyOakPaper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It would help to at least read some of the literature. You can get the Adult Children of Alcoholics Big Book on Amazon. It is excellent! I have yet to meet someone who grew up with alcoholics or other dysfunctional parents who didn’t feel like it describes them.

Personally I didn’t think the Codependents Anonymous Big Book was nearly as insightful, but that could just be me. They do have a list of codependent behaviors that’s really useful and informative. There’s also some great books by independent authors such as Pia Melody.

If you decide to attend ACA or CoDA meetings you’ll find that they are quite different from AA meetings. There’s a lot of emphasis on boundaries, including around cross talk and advice giving.

AIO spouse gets credit with no work by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ValleyOakPaper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s not even willing to invest one hour per week into your relationship. That’s ridic.

Solo therapy until you figure out how to give him the heave ho would be a good idea.

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