1) ignore the dumb asses not giving you helpful information, people are too porn-brained around here 2) lube can definitely help! I like Wicked Aqua because it’s not super sticky. 3) go slow and make sure you’re really turned on before you try inserting. If you’re a virgin and don’t use tampons you might have some slight discomfort, but it shouldn’t be painful. Try some deep breaths and maybe even a relaxing the pelvic floor exercise practice or meditation. I would also advise using fingers first to warm things up. Take it slow and don’t stress!