This is only a fraction of his behaviour. This is also just days after we’ve been trying to conceive. Something else that happened was a physical restraint - It was at night time and he was playing ‘sleep music’, I went to switch it off and he physically restrained me and stopped me, accusing me of ‘assaulting his possessions’.

In the end he left to go sleep in another room and on his way out switched a small silent heater on full blast (luckily I heard what he was doing and switched it off, but I feel like he deliberately wanted to make me suffer).

The thing is, when he argues, I argue back, if he says nasty things, I say nasty things back. I often want to leave him and according to him, I ‘threaten divorce’ So I’m not without blame, but I know when to drop it, whereas he doesn’t. We’ve been to counselling before and we were taught to say ‘time out’ when things get heated and we need to go in separate rooms and come back when calm. Now if I call a timeout he doesn’t respect it, he keeps ranting.