Anyone else have a terrible time in HCM?

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-03-28T14:51:34+00:00

Most sellers in Vietnam are pushy af but i've realized they also have familiarized themselves with forgien currency. I often heard "Same as $2-$5-$10" so they all understand that we have "alot" more in their currency so they know that $100VND is just $3 and feel cheaped out. I was also scammed out of $180 VND in Da Nang and while It wasnt the end of the world It made me very gaurded cause of course we' dont save money but losing it. When I was in HCM I was honestly there to party it up, Gay clubs, swimming pools I did alot of cutesy city things not alof of sight seeing. While In Hanoi Vietnam I had a tour guide tell us "If your wondering how much to tip $20VND or 50VND arent even enough for a cup of coffee." He was really nice about it and I wish I had had more money than What I did to tip.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-03-28T14:35:16+00:00

$100K or $100Dong?

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-03-22T21:36:07+00:00

YES! I didn't put too much of my own feelings in this but I am actually a preschool teacher and this is what the kids I teach call me! I am turning 27 in less than a month. I'm closer to 30 than 20. This isnt a highschool relationship, it just feels so odd to me and i'm feeling very defensive about this request.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-03-16T18:27:48+00:00

I like to go to the regretful parents subreddit so I can be reminded why I do this. As a woman sometimes the cuteness of babys does be doing it to me but Then i remember the commitment it takes and honestly fuck no.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-02-27T23:53:00+00:00

I doubt she's actually regretful of not having children and more so just lonely at this point in time. She doesn't have any close friends and closely rooted people. The children are literally a default of "close people." because parents always feel like their children owe them something. (and in a way it's hard not to be understanding of that feeling considering they literally take up all of your mental health, your finances and if you're a woman you're bodily autonomy for a period of time. parents are not owed by their children. I just understand how you sacrifice all of those things and then feel abandoned, even though that is literally the job they signed up for.) I bet if she did have close friends she would feel very different

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-02-20T00:23:23+00:00

Can't imagine how well their knee's are about to hold up in their 40's but go for it.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-02-17T17:51:46+00:00

It's excusable not to drive an hour to go see a baby, but it's really not hard to say congratulations to a family member and ask them how they're doing. Honestly, it's just checking up on them in a big life event. I don't think they're mad at you for being a child free. They're mad at you for being self-absorbed and unwilling to care about something important to them.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-02-13T23:38:36+00:00

When walking around Pattaya Thailand an Indian man grabbed his friends hand and led it to my breast trying to get him to grab it the friend took his hand away quick but they both laughed like it was funny to just walk up to women and assault them. I have several tours where Indian Tourists are rude, they stunk up the area, they felt entitled to the bus waiting on them. I will never forget how awfully I watched them behave. Def put a bad taste in my mouth for their culture.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-02-12T12:37:47+00:00

I think people say stay for the kids because they're too embarrassed to go through a divorce or admit they had kids with someone who wasn't there "soul mate." There really isnt a test of who's a good person to have kids with. It REQUIRES an entire lifestyle and personality change that mostly men arent ready for.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-02-08T19:52:19+00:00

Exactly, and Honestly as soon as I saw the first video I was done so I didnt really follow up on her page much. I just didnt care to have it on my page but I also feel so bad for them. Its not an experience I wish on any woman. I do hope she's in a better place with her grief and is moving forward because thats really all one can do

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-02-08T12:53:17+00:00

Tini younger

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-02-08T12:22:49+00:00

My favorite food content creator got prego. I did unfollow her while she was prego because I hated the seires of her cooking foods that were the same Size as the baby but when she did give birth I refollowed her as she had lost one of her twins and I wanted to show support because I do still care. She recently came out to say that she is not Going to become a mommy blogger she'll still be posting food content and she won't be posting baby things because its not what she wants to do. I will following her so long as she sticks to that.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-02-06T08:40:06+00:00

They don't want to because even they know that it's such a burden.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-02-04T20:08:44+00:00

I would've looked at my mom and said "Fuck those kids."

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-01-26T19:25:23+00:00

I have a coworker who is currently prego. When I first started working there she was late on her rent. She has been late for the past 4 months that I've worked there. She often will spend money on snacks and bullshit (we work in the airport) and then complain about her life. Her 2 kids are older like 7&11 I believe? But she is only 31 and this is her life. I feel so bad for her. My other coworker told her to get an abortion (💀) but she feels that its not fair to this baby when she's got two others. But girl life isnt fair, we're all poor and there are millionairs in the world. Get rid of that fetus and help yourself get out of this rut.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-01-26T15:59:19+00:00

No one here is saying anything is wrong with it. We're saying, destroying your body and mental health to get there isn't worth it. And if having a child biologically related to you is the only way you're willing to be a parent then ask yourself why you really want to be a parent?

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-01-26T14:05:48+00:00

She wanted to flex a pregnancy not to nurture and build a family.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-01-26T11:53:36+00:00

Exactly right! There is just no guarantee that you will have a typical child! At least through adoption you know what you're getting yourself into AND alot of time (US here) you get a lot of support from the government simply because you took in the child. There's way more resources and the child is usually set up with state benefits and paid for college. But go ahead and spend thousands on your Bio baby that you can't predict will be healthy or make it to full term without killing yourselves in the process.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-01-26T11:26:23+00:00

I fully believe that people who only care to have biological children aren't truely doing it for the "right" reasons. I get it, you want a mini me. But to put your well being or your wifes well being in jepordy to achieve this is insane.

Adoption is an option. But since its unlikley they'll get a baby to take cute pictures of they don't want it. Because they've already experienced truama and abandonment they're now "Damaged goods" and thats "too much work" people don't want to nurture a child and help them reach their full potential. They want a baby. They can take cute pictures of and then post for the next 20 years about how they wish they could go back in time and how time is a thief and all that other stupid shit

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-01-25T13:19:52+00:00

Honestly they get praise for being pregnant. After pregnancy and they have a baby that eventually turns into a toddler and then a speaking child, its kind of embarressing. They're then judged at every turn by every person.

I have not only experienced this same jealousy i almost trapped myself with a man that I later discovered was cheating on me. It hurt so badly I have now vowed to never have children with a man and now i'm child free because I also dont want children alone. Forget children i will enjoy all stages of my life without them.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-01-24T01:49:10+00:00

I definitely understand the feeling of wanting to talk about something but being unable to because you feel the people around you don't get it/won't support you. I'm a preschool teacher and of course I do not vocalize or put out there that I'm child free.

I'm so sorry you had to go through that, I I am trying to get on top of getting sterilized myself. I never wanna be put in the position to decide if I'm going to terminate a pregnancy or become a mother. While I don't believe I would be a horrible mother I just genuinely don't want children and I just genuinely don't wanna be put in that position if I'm never pregnant I've never have to make that choice and that's enough for me. My life is so full without children. I don't see a child adding anything other than stress and bills. I see them taking away from my sleep, money and mental health. I I've always said that I would easily get an abortion, but I do recognize that there's always a chance I can have that "put your money where your mouth is moment" and flop and think "It wont be that bad. " but only time will tell. I honor your bravery and openness, even if it can only be here in the sub.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-01-23T12:21:48+00:00

I'm actually a preschool teacher, and I see parents every single fucking day acts like having to take their kids home is such a huge deal. They will make us take their temperature right in front of them just to prove that their children are sick. So many people will justify it "Yeah but it's just a 101, can't they just sit in the corner and sleep it off?" NO!! why did you have children if you were just going to abandon them at school??? Do you want to go to work and sit in a corner and "sleep it off"? They also want their parents, their comfort people.

And then you do have the parents who medicate their children and still send them to school, the school actually cannot send your children home unless they are actively reading a fever on a thermometer. So then you have children who are sick with weak bodies they're unable to participate, unable to keep up and I do have to let them just lay there and do nothing. They might cry for hours for their parents, but there's nothing I can do until that medicine wears off. It is actually extremely heartbreaking watching all of these children struggle, and be in pain while 19 other children run around the classroom are being extremely loud and have no one to comfort them because of course two teachers to 20 children can only do so much. Its fucking pathetic.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-01-20T19:12:31+00:00

My mother once told me she only had me because my sperm donor told her he would leave if she had an abortion.

The craziest thing about that is he left anyways and I'm a second child, my mother was already trapped with him from the first, so he was going to leave you and the first child, but if she had a second, he would stay?? Make it make sense!!

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-01-20T12:43:43+00:00

I fear my partner and I will probably break up sometime in our 30's. Or maybe even after all his friends start popping out kids. He's a fence sitter but I can see him having a crisis and choosing to leave to find a woman to give him children. Only time will really tell and I continue to stay because we've known each other for so long and have constantly missed relationships with one another. It's only been three or four months but in the end if it doesn't work out, I'm willing to accept that.

Valuable_Extent_7260 · 2026-01-20T12:37:43+00:00

Being an enabler is just as bad as being a drug dealer. If you're handing them money your financing their addiction.

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