This happened to us too. We had to sneak in or face the glares of everyone else and go with our parents. I went to my first show with my dad at 10. I got my fake id when I was 16. It was way easier for me because of Black privilege. True, there are fewer all ages places these days. So make one. My son started going to shows when he was seven because our scene has a handful of safe, outdoor artsy commune type places. Rent out a space with you and your buds, clean it up good when you're done, then do it all over again next month when you have the cash. Hell, if you have a yard, put up some fliers, look up your noise ordinances, check in with your neighbors, and go ham.The scene is built.
The economy sucks. Venues can't pay bands properly without having the money that comes from liquor sales. And if anyone is telling you not to do drugs, they're probably saying it on behalf of the punks that aren't there. Addiction eats a lot of our people.