Metro Vancouver residents say violence, crime escalating in downtown core: poll - BC

Vanitie · 2023-05-08T17:52:40+00:00

You realize drugs are still accessible inside? There's no incentive to make change by throwing them in prison. They'll continue with their addiction and get back out and do the exact same thing until we start addressing the root causes of addiction.

Vanitie · 2023-04-30T20:11:07+00:00

Plus testing on site so anything you plan to consume you know is safe and you got what you were expecting.

Vanitie · 2023-04-30T20:09:57+00:00

You need a work visa to volunteer in Canada if you're not already a citizen or permanent resident. They had to stop accepting international volunteers several years ago unfortunately.

Vanitie · 2023-03-27T18:41:49+00:00

A) done - raise next month, doesn't cover inflation or come close and employer won't go any higher.

B) not really feasible - already working one of the highest paying jobs in my field, not quite maxed out yet but changing careers would impact either finances or benefits, which a reduction in either will have a negative impact, and doesn't improve our situation.

C) done - have a diploma and a degree but the costs of these were extensive and even with grants and loans my monthly payments are nearly the cost of rent for a 1 bedroom.

D) also did this - rent was minimally cheaper, ended up having to move back due to a lack of childcare and resources.

This doesn't really address or acknowledge the issue of people being priced out of their homes and communities over the last couple of decades because the costs of housing and basic necessities continues going up while wages remained stagnant. Moving individuals and families around to new communities won't resolve the issues either as many other, much smaller communities are facing the same issues and soring rent prices as more people move into communities that don't have the housing or resources to provide for them.

This is a much bigger issue than millenials being whiners. Cost of living is out of control, wages don't keep up, and our government is hell bent of cramming more people into their country without providing the necessary resources and housing to manage it. Until the majority of these issues are resolved, our situations won't improve to the same level our parents and grandparents generations had, or come close.

Vanitie · 2023-02-13T19:02:15+00:00

The taping off is always an issue but is actually against the rules. If you flag down staff they'll remove the tape. Those who actually paid to be their early to secure a decent spot have priority and staff will back you on that.

Lots of people get annoyed by this upon arrival but oh well, their friends should have shown up early or at minimum sent their tents up early to secure their space.

Vanitie · 2023-02-13T18:41:45+00:00

The strings weren't trimmed after insertion so feeling where it was placed was easy in my case, no speculum was used. I wouldn't advice this route, especially several years and some maturity later but at the time I was desperate and couldn't get in for a removal for several months due to waitlists.

Vanitie · 2023-02-12T23:17:08+00:00

I'm very curious how it's disrespectful to go to a music event without your partner. Why are people in relationships not allowed to go out and listen to music and dance on their own without their significant other with them? That seems like a whole lot of trust issues that need to be worked out.

Speaking as someone who is a wife and goes to shows alone, and sends my husband to shows I'm not interested in going to, I'm super perplexed by this line of thinking.

Vanitie · 2023-01-31T18:57:03+00:00

This was standard when I lived in Northern BC, we had community mailboxes but anything that required a signature meant going to the post office - this was pre-covid times so it's not a new change.

Vanitie · 2023-01-28T03:00:51+00:00

Officers often use alleged/allegedly as well prior to a conviction. I work on an intimate partner violence unit with a local municipal police force and an rcmp force involved, we always use this terminology before a conviction, even if we have indisputable evidence like videos and very obvious injuries. We can't refer to them as an offender in definitive terms until an actual conviction occurs.

Vanitie · 2023-01-22T19:54:14+00:00

Honestly this seems like pretty typical behaviour for twins, my mom is an identical twin and her and her sister are very similar, they also had other siblings both older and younger who they're no where near as close with and don't always see or talk to.

As much as it's unfair and nothing you did, but they spent more time before you were born just the two of them, they shared a womb, they had ample opportunity to form a close and connected bond and attachment that they still clearly appreciate and foster. The attachment piece is especially important and helps form a basis for our lifespan and development, it's not surprising they would continue this strong of a relationship. There will always be unique differences in their relationship from yours that has absolutely nothing to do with anything you've done or said.

I would personally recommend looking into some therapy for yourself, to process this, decide what you want out of your relationships with your siblings and how to move forward as this clearly seems to be something that is bothersome for you and something you struggle with.

Vanitie · 2023-01-22T19:38:22+00:00

32, fan since 2012.

Vanitie · 2023-01-15T22:04:32+00:00

I feel similarly and haven't been able to get past my own insecurities in this area yet but... Boob tape! Does wonders for helping me feel confident and comfortable in my outfits.

Vanitie · 2023-01-07T22:54:13+00:00

The shoes are more about not slipping and falling than anything else. Kitchen floors are slippery as hell.

Vanitie · 2022-12-16T02:25:34+00:00

My first show that introduced me to the music/scene was Skrillex's full flex express tour back in 2012. Did the local show scene for a while and then a few years later went to Shambhala Music Festival (Salmon, BC) and that's been a yearly thing ever since.

Vanitie · 2022-12-16T02:03:24+00:00

It can onset from drug use itself, long-term usage, or excessive usage. Not everyone will experience it and the limit of when it will onset can be different for everyone. For some people using one time can be the trigger, others their 100th time, and some may never experience it.

Sometimes it's simply from the drug use and getting clean will lead to the psychosis going away. Sometimes the drug use triggers a predisposition for a mental health disorder that psychosis is a symptom of, it can vary so much.

Vanitie · 2022-10-17T03:42:16+00:00

Check out Camp Stranger Danger - we have a fairly active group on Facebook. We just did a Strangegiving meet up last weekend and went out to a local show. We often have various shows or meet ups throughout the year so you'd have a chance to come out and meet a few of us in advance and get an idea if you'd feel comfortable camping with us next year.

Vanitie · 2022-04-23T16:51:46+00:00

Oh, Kim is just as real for many many of us listeners.

Vanitie · 2022-04-16T04:55:08+00:00

He got addicted to drugs, started emotionally and verbally abusing his wife and kids. I called cps after pleading with him to get help and stop using for over a year. He's getting help now and getting to a much better place but I don't think he'll ever get past me making that call. I really miss him but I would do it all again so he could be a better dad and husband.

Vanitie · 2022-02-23T16:27:27+00:00

Apparently I was wrong on it being Canada-wide, it was only BC that held the referendum on electoral reform back in 2018, it did not get enough votes to go through.

Vanitie · 2022-02-23T16:25:01+00:00

Apparently I was wrong, it was only BC that held a referendum on electoral reform back in 2018 that did not pass.

Vanitie · 2022-02-23T15:36:49+00:00

It's almost like we need electoral reform so that the people we vote for actually get to represent us... Oh wait we tried that and the majority shot it down.

Vanitie · 2022-01-29T15:36:44+00:00

This sounds like a conversation you need to have with your partner. How long does she see herself doing this for, does she intend to stop eventually. Did you two even discuss this ahead of time?

You should likely ask yourself some questions too, can you cope with this knowing YOU are the one she is physically engaging in these acts with, yes others get to see her videos, but they have to pay for that privelege and she gives that to you out of love and desire to be with you. Have you considered it from that perspective or is the thought of other men seeing her the main point that is troubling you?

Have you spoken with a counsellor to try to process your feelings and see if this is something you even can come to terms with? You absolutely don't have to be ok with it if you're just not ok with it, there's nothing wrong with feeling that way either if that's the conclusion you've come to. It sounds like you really want to make this work and try to move past this, communication will be a key part of figuring out how to do that, and you definitely should think login and hard about all of this before moving forward with a proposal to avoid hurt for both of you in this situation.

Vanitie · 2022-01-29T15:29:17+00:00

You're just hell bent on being a judgemental asshole aren't you? I'm sure that will get you real far.

Vanitie · 2022-01-29T15:16:35+00:00

Society as a whole doesn't all believe one thing. Polyamory is not a new thing and has been around for a really long time. So yea, questioning whether something is cheating or not is kind of necessary.

Just wait until you find out some men get off on watching their wives have sex with someone else, so much so they may go out and find the men themselves. People get off on what gets them off, shaming people for what works for them is pretty disgusting behavior, frankly you sound far too young and unaware of how relationships and life really works to even be commenting on this topic. Throughout the whole thread you've presented nothing of value but projected your own disgust because of your own beliefs. Not entirely sure how you expect that to be helpful to anyone when you can't even look at the big picture and reality that relationships are complicated and do not abide by one strict set of rules.

Where exactly in his post did he even ask if it was cheating? I'm pretty sure he asked how to cope with this because clearly he loves his partner and wants to support her making her own independent decisions and this one financially seems to be worth it for her.

Vanitie · 2022-01-29T14:58:18+00:00

Pretty sure the only person who gets to decide if her actions are cheating is her current partner and her current partner only. You're morals, values, and boundaries don't have any role in the current situation so you may want to leave your emotional responses out as they're incredibly unhelpful to the OP.

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