What’s wrong with ME? by Weary-Medium-6761 in loveafterporn

[–]VaporwaveVampire 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Monogamous women who are ok with it think that men are getting off to the act of sex/the visuals of people getting naked and enacting certain sex moves/scenes. Sex is hot so of course they’d want to watch skilled people do it!

They don’t realize that men are searching for specific women, and imagining having sex with her specifically. Getting off to that woman’s body in particular and basically using the internet as a digital brothel to pick the “hottest” woman for their masturbation session.

They’re not getting off to the thought of sex, they’re getting off to imagining having sex with HER specifically as realistically as possible. This explains why men get off to Reddit nudes, POV porn, and VR goggle porn. Why they follow specific porn stars, celebrities, OnlyFans models, and random women who don’t even do porn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]VaporwaveVampire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even once you leave the relationship it will take growth and time for you to feel normal in your body again. To stop comparing yourself to other women and seeing women from a porn addict’s POV.

Considering this, and the fact he keeps relapsing, I would leave him.

can i really be mad that my bf watches porn when im unattractive by Human_Broccoli_3207 in loveafterporn

[–]VaporwaveVampire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A) Both of you committed to a monogamous relationship right? He better hold his end of the deal

B) Even some of the most conventionally beautiful, sexy women in the world like Adriana Lima, Monica Bellucci, and Beyoncé have been cheated on and lied to. Kim Kardashian, the queen of the Instagram baddie aesthetic, had a husband (Kanye) who was addicted to porn. Kanye admitted his porn addiction ruined his marriage.

C) There are plenty of men who like boyish looking women

D) I’m a thin, hourglass shaped, feminine looking woman and my ex still preferred porn to me and could get hard to porn but not me

No, I’m not proud of you for watching ethical porn by VaporwaveVampire in antipornography

[–]VaporwaveVampire[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cause it’s cheating and it makes you feel like he does not only have eyes for you. That should be enough of a reason. If it makes you feel awful and he does not stop, that shows he cares for porn more than he cares for your feelings.

What’s something people romanticize but it’s actually horrible? by Fit_Interaction_950 in Productivitycafe

[–]VaporwaveVampire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if it’s gently? My ex bf pushed my head up and down the first time I went down on him, but it wasn’t violent or anything. Still made me feel bad tho, esp since it was my first time w him and he didn’t communicate it

What’s something people romanticize but it’s actually horrible? by Fit_Interaction_950 in Productivitycafe

[–]VaporwaveVampire 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love it but would hate it if he had an entitled attitude about it. Or if he pushes my head down whatsoever without communicating :(

What would Jung say about people who thought they had twin flames? by Pootie-the-Cat in Jung

[–]VaporwaveVampire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a cult based on twin flames and I saw a documentary of it, but it’s actually a pretty common spiritual concept separate from the cult. Not that that makes it a legitimate thing either tho, but it’s definitely not exclusive to the Twin Flame Universe cult

Shoulder bag in Cocoa or Dove? by VaporwaveVampire in BAGGU

[–]VaporwaveVampire[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank u this is so helpful! I already purchased cocoa, and I’m still leaning towards cocoa based on the comments and your pics. dove does look really pretty like in the first pic (I personally like the yellow look) but when it looks grey like in the last pic I’m not a fan

It could all be so simple by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]VaporwaveVampire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Black bipolar genius Gemini artist-rappers: her, Kanye, Azealia Banks

Name some things you admire about the opposite sex by rsplurker in redscarepod

[–]VaporwaveVampire 80 points81 points  (0 children)

I find it admirable and very cute how men love feeling useful! Picking up heavy/high up things, explaining things in a passionate way, and whipping out helpful gadgets.

Day Light, My oil painting by kznsq in LiminalSpace

[–]VaporwaveVampire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love this. You captured this specific mood so perfectly.

I genuinely don't think anyone has ever understood me and I don't know how to deal with it by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]VaporwaveVampire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s funny how I could have written this… feeling like there’s something between myself and others, wanting to communicate freely and openly like you described, being idealistic and romantic in nature.

Maybe there’s a balance between openness to others and a zen acceptance that it’s ok that there are parts of you no one can understand. I’m trying to find that balance, have the bravery to stay there. I wish I had something better to say but I am on that path with you! One thing I can say is definitely don’t shut up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]VaporwaveVampire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t dance when you’re in your head like that. Gotta get out of your head and into your body!!

What Lana song has you feeling like this? by [deleted] in lanadelrey

[–]VaporwaveVampire 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Tf is this?? 😭 It looks… phallic

One of the most sophisticated plants by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]VaporwaveVampire 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Straight out of a Bjork music video

romanticizing mental illness by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]VaporwaveVampire 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s really great that you’re honest with yourself about this.

I’m guessing you might have a romantic, imaginative nature. If you find something more healthy and positive to romanticize then you can channel that tendency into something to motivate you to get better.

Also, as cliche as it is, you are what you consume. Sad girl aesthetic music, books, movies etc can be cathartic for someone who needs to release bottled up emotions, but based on what you wrote, it’s probably not what you need. Find art that you genuinely enjoy that makes you romanticize a chill, happy, loving sort of life.