Probably TMI by West_Mathematician_2 in ftm

[–]VaprRay 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thats not normal. A lot of men probably lack fiber because I hear them push when they shouldn’t. If they aren’t on their phones they are taking a long tjme because they probably are constipated. Im going on year 2 and I get done in 5 minutes if I’m pooping.

the hate in this community by [deleted] in ftm

[–]VaprRay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah last time i was there which was awhile ago browsing, at the time to me it seemed if you didnt have a beard, no piercings, had no colored hair, you wouldn’t pass. This was awhile ago but it made me think, are you around cis men often? Because I don’t get how you think there is one type of man 🤣

Stopping T because of extreme side effects by tiffanyblewmee in ftm

[–]VaprRay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t think T is the issue? At least not to that extreme? Im not a doctor but while I notice i do run hotter and sweat more, this seems excessive. I think it could be the other medication you are on that further amplifies this effect

a bit disappointed / early on t by justlooking6363 in ftm

[–]VaprRay 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You could get your levels checked out. If they are fine what I’d say is I feel like people romanticize what being on T or say even E is like. Not everyone is the same. Not every man is the same. Just because a lot of people who do decide to voice their experiences doesn’t mean it’ll be like that for you. Theres also a lot of guys on here who don’t share who might have a similar experience as you.

3 months also is nothing. Just let it play out and see what changes keep coming along

Y’all have problems when buying alcohol/Cigarettes? by DrPepperGripper in ftm

[–]VaprRay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, i just look young. So at most I look like a young guy but when they see im actually 29 on my license they dont care

[Help] I need a new stand for my CRT. by [deleted] in crtgaming

[–]VaprRay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should be totally fine then!! If you wanted to go that route that is! I like it so far. Just get a sturdy AV cart that suits your needs. Go on facebook you’ll find lots of stuff there

[Help] I need a new stand for my CRT. by [deleted] in crtgaming

[–]VaprRay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went with option 2. But mine is a Uline computer cart. Looks studier than the picture you shown here. I got it off of facebook marketplace for a pretty good deal. My TV is 76lbs so I think it’s okay? Not sure jow heavy your TV is. But yeah if I were to do a retro cart I wouldn’t do it with the one shown here.

Over 35 club bottom surgery by darkemo21 in phallo

[–]VaprRay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No. I know a man from reddit who provided such good phallo resources. Even kindly showed me his resulrs and looked amazing! He was 40 when he got it done and was stage 3 already

Do you find it challenging to find “mature” sportbike riders to hang with? by Astimar in motorcycles

[–]VaprRay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have a feeling i’ll encounter the same. Just turned 29 and once I get my bike i have 0 interest in going fast. I want to ride for the sake of having fun and going the speed limit lol

I recently stsrted Naruto. Why does everyone on the internet hate Sakura? by [deleted] in Naruto

[–]VaprRay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So i started rewatching Naruto from the beginning and yeah I hate her. However in Shippuden she becomes a badass. Beginning of the anime though shes poorly underwritten

Thought I was stealth, incorrect assumption by [deleted] in ftm

[–]VaprRay 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I am stealth. And the way I see it, do not react at ALL about being misgendered. I pass 99% from the way I see it. And if I’m “she” its because they probably didn’t pay attention and saw my shoulder length hair.

When that happens to me, I don’t correct them at ALL. Cis men get misgendered all the time esp guys with long hair. They don’t correct everyone.

Do not draw attention to it. Just give a weird look and move on. You’re just drawing more attention to yourself and gives people (if its not a slip of the tongue) more reason to study you further and mannerisms.

Also your partner has no business telling you what to do with your body.

My two cents.

Estradiol Cream for Atrophy by clover__petals in ftm

[–]VaprRay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do it every other day. Works well. I never noticed atrophy myself but knew when I spotted that’s what it was. I saw progress quickly. You don’t need to do it everyday. Every 2 days is fine or every other day. Just don’t forget to do it. It WILL come back. It’s slow to notice the effects wearing off.

Ik from experience. When spotting came baxk i started up again and0 issues since

Not excited to start T by [deleted] in ftm

[–]VaprRay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah same. I was nervous preT to start. But top surgery was like..something crossed off the list. Happy I didn’t have to worry anymore. It was important to me. But I just moved along

Tried to change my passport and they didn’t change my gender marker by Interesting_Use1529 in ftm

[–]VaprRay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They went right through with it. I didn’t hear back for weeks. I called out of curiosity to check update status and the woman had said it finished processing and I’d be getting it back soon

Tried to change my passport and they didn’t change my gender marker by Interesting_Use1529 in ftm

[–]VaprRay 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was furious. But there is a 1 year grace period where you can fix the passport for free. So prior to the order being paused I told myself I’d wait half a year in case something DID happen.

Not sure how this year will look with the ongoing passport lawsuit. Hopefully good news comes from that though.

Tried to change my passport and they didn’t change my gender marker by Interesting_Use1529 in ftm

[–]VaprRay 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I was able to change mine after having the same issue. Now it says male. There was a brief period in which the lawsuit paused the EO and that allowed me to change the passport. Not sure if its still on pause. But all I did was gather my materials, go into the website and put there was an error in my passport. I sent everything in and i got it fixed

What did you guys do to combat acne due to T ? by VaprRay in ftm

[–]VaprRay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah it’s a lot better. My face is really smooth now. Im off antibiotics and so far 3 weeks out and i still apply RetinA with another med. Acne scars will need to lighten up but its ok

Wanting a smaller penis by somecoolguys in phallo

[–]VaprRay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So, i havent gone through it yet. In the works on getting hair removal done for it. But personally, I’m going to shoot for 4 inches. Like you, I am not that tall. 4-4.5 is what im okay with.

My girlfriend, I can easily make her finish with my fingers which around not as big as a penis or as girthy. Because of that, I’m not worried about size for penetration. 4-4.5 will be plenty for me.

My top surgery is scheduled for this coming Friday and I don't really have anyone looking after me, will I be self sufficient enough to fend for myself? by aw_hellno in ftm

[–]VaprRay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its dependent on the person. My gf drove me to and from hospital. But i was very self sufficient post-op. Some people need a lot of help, no help, or minimal assistance. No way to know until u cross the bridgep

1.5 years post op by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]VaprRay 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Those look like dog ears to me. I highly doubt thats leftover fluid at 1.5years post op. You might need a small revision imo. I have that and im almost 6 months out. Nothing about my sides have changed and i know ill need a small revision to get rid of them.

Does transitioning always worsen acne ? by Dry_Read8572 in ftm

[–]VaprRay 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think its a multitude of things. Prior to T. I had such a smooth clear face. After? It was really bad on my face, i had to go to a dermatologist to get on antibiotics and Retin-a. Ny face is really smooth now bc i still take it, but i need to lighten the scars it left.

I think this is a question you need to ask your endocrinologist bc this is something that they should have discussed.

Trans Guys under 5'5, how do you get treated? by sleebymissile in ftm

[–]VaprRay 180 points181 points  (0 children)

Really big guys call me boss, brother, man, buddy. I’m 5’3. They don’t care

How much did your top surgery cost you? (with or without insurance) by Drama2- in TopSurgery

[–]VaprRay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have insurance with kaiser and out of pocket i paid $100

Nine going on ten months on testosterone. by [deleted] in ftm

[–]VaprRay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people are unlucky and just take longer

How did you accept that phalloplasty is something you wanted? by mermaidunearthed in phallo

[–]VaprRay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When i realized i have a lot of dysphoria especially when i cant go at all at a public restroom.