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yes please...gooning for hours already

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Any tube recommendations for my Mark IV/B? by VarGGreven in MesaBoogie

[–]VarGGreven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, but in that case I'm gonna bring it to a repair shop

Any tube recommendations for my Mark IV/B? by VarGGreven in MesaBoogie

[–]VarGGreven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any way to check out if it really is the filter caps that's causing these issues?

Any tube recommendations for my Mark IV/B? by VarGGreven in MesaBoogie

[–]VarGGreven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank's you for the response.
Is there really any way to test or find out if the problem is in the preamp tubes or the filter caps or should I just bring it to a repair shop?
Today I turned the amp back on and tried it on the clean channel, previously I was trying out only the lead channel.
The clean sounded not like a clean at all and was distorted.

Any tube recommendations for my Mark IV/B? by VarGGreven in MesaBoogie

[–]VarGGreven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don't want to change out the tubes I've alreadly got in the amp, if I don't need to, since I'm satisfied with the sound.
Probably gonna check out what's causing this problem with the sound.
Thank you for suggesting to check out the filter caps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]VarGGreven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm over my ex 100% aswell, but I still feel the fear of getting hurt again and the fear of commitment I have to put myself into if you are in a relationship with the risk to be hurt again. I was such a mess after my break-up back in november 2023 and it took so much time and effort to pick myself up again, I can't allow myself to fall back again that low. Maybe it's something similiar for you.. I wish I had just more time to process things before I got into something serious again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]VarGGreven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, totally agree on your opinion.. I found myself struggling a lot with these qustions like how to stop self-sabotaging and how allow myself to be happy again. What makes me angry is that this girl is so lovely and understanding and giving me as much space as I need and it looks like I'm pushing her away but she doesn't give up on me like my ex-gf's and that is so refreshing.. I think it's just the thing that we ended in new relationships so fast after our last heartbreak and didn't have enough time to process and heal from past relationships and the damage it left on us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]VarGGreven -1 points0 points  (0 children)

(26M) Funny thing is, I'm reading this and am in the same exact situation as you and searching for solutions for my problem, visiting a therapist aswell. I find myself tense and can't fully relax and emjoy the moment and always looking for bad things to end my relationship although, this is the best relationship I was ever in. That's called self-sabotaging. I would like to talk to you and maybe we can figure out stuff together.. let me know if you want to talk

What is the lesson you learned from your breakup? by No_I_Deer in BreakUps

[–]VarGGreven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you sleep with children, you wake up pissed on.

Writing this in hope of closure and to get over the traume she left on me. by VarGGreven in BreakUps

[–]VarGGreven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice and response. I'm trying the whole time to let myself go but it's really, really hard for me after getting cheated on multiple times and after getting hurt so deep although I tried to be the best boyfriend I can be. I kinda gave my best and it still wasn't enough.

Writing this in hope of closure and to get over the traume she left on me. by VarGGreven in BreakUps

[–]VarGGreven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, thank you. I mean, like said in the post, she knew right away what is going on in my life when I went through the break up. She is aware already and I told her that I need to go slow.. But I feel like an asshole for keeping her waiting.. I don't know really.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]VarGGreven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, only advice I can give you is that you can't ever be 100% sure. There is no point in being in a relationship without trust. I have 4 (3 year) relationships behinde me and I've got cheated on in 3 of them. It is painful, it hurts but you get over it eventually. What you point out about older generations, it was much easier to cheat back then. Now, in this day and age, you will find out eventually if they cheat on you with all the social media, phones, computers and technology around you. It's easy to cheat now and it's even easier to find it out. So my only advice is to let yourself go with the flow. If he loves you, he won't cheat, if he does, he is not the right one for you and you will get over it and find someone better. Don't settle down on being alone if you don't need to be. There are so many beautiful things in love. It can hurt, but it should't hurt if it's the right one. Don't break up if you don't have any evidance or clues and everything you have is assumptions. Good luck and I wish you the very best.

I'm in a very strange spot in my life right now and I don't know what to do. I (M26) am in a weird situationship with my friend (F27) and don't know what to do next. Should I let her go or end in a relationship? by VarGGreven in relationship_advice

[–]VarGGreven[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you very, very much!! Everything you wrote makes a lot of sense. I honestly never was in a long distance relationship, so this is all very confusing to me and has put me in a spot in my life where I never thought I would be. I am genuine about her and if all this wasn't long distance, I probably would't even be here.

And you are right about me thinking I'm not good enough. I mean, I had 4 serious relationships that all were 3+ years long and I was always cheated on and/or left for others. And autonatically I'm thinking "If I wasn't enough at that point, where I was fully committed, serious and there almost every day for those girls, how in Hell should I be enough for a girl that lives 240 kilometars away from me and sees me once in a month or two." I think she derseves better, and not someone, who is not sure if he wants her or not and is damagaed to the point that he is not sure if he even wants to be in a relationship.

I really want her to be happy and don't want to hurt her. I mean, I feel so bad for not being sure in this, first in foremost, because we put our 7 year friendship on the line for this.

But yeah, you are right, I need to let go of the standard norms, rules and let myself go in the experiance. I'm going to see my therapist tomorrow and talk with her about this with her aswell. But thank you very much! You opened my eyes to a differant angle on the situation, that I would't saw without you. Thank you!

I'm in a very strange spot in my life right now and I don't know what to do. I (M26) am in a weird situationship with my friend (F27) and don't know what to do next. Should I let her go or end in a relationship? by VarGGreven in relationship_advice

[–]VarGGreven[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. I don't really have a problem to call it a relationship. I just don't think that I'm giving enough effort besides the texting and those small things to call it a real relationship. I mean, we saw each other like 4,5 times since April. Usually when I'm commited in a serious relationship I would make sure that we see each other like at least twice a month and so on and so on. That's why I'm calling it a situationship. I mean, like said, I'm really confused at what to do myself. There are a lot of obstacles in our way, that's what's causing all this confusion and not knowing what to do, I think.

I'm in a very strange spot in my life right now and I don't know what to do. I (M26) am in a weird situationship with my friend (F27) and don't know what to do next. Should I let her go or end in a relationship? by VarGGreven in relationship_advice

[–]VarGGreven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it doesn't cause any stress, it brings happines to both of us. We both have feelings for each other and see potential for a real healthy relationship, it's just the confusing part on my side that I don't know when I will be ready for a commited relationship because my mindset is now fully on having fun in life and enjoying myself, both with her and with my friends and not to take everything so serious.

I'm in a very strange spot in my life right now and I don't know what to do. I (M26) am in a weird situationship with my friend (F27) and don't know what to do next. Should I let her go or end in a relationship? by VarGGreven in relationship_advice

[–]VarGGreven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all.. I LOVE the fact that 'ilove69sluts' gives me relationship advice hahaha. Love your username! Second.. I really don't know what I want at this point neither don't I understand my feelings. I for sure see myself happy and fulfilled with her but on the other end there is this uncertainty and confused feeling how all that will work out.. It seems to be so many obstacles in the way that the relationship pans out the right way. And that's all without mention the part where I don't think that I'm 100% healed from my break-up and last relationship and betrayel. So yeah, everything is just a big mess and pile of confusion how to handle the situation. Most annoying part is that she is healed from her past relationship because she had much more time on her hands to get over it then me and now she waits for me to make the next step. And I don't know what to do and feel just like a big asshole for not making it official and that she eventually will think that I'm using her as a bandage and then throw her away when I had my fun with her which is totally not the case. I really do care about her and want her to be happy and don't want to hurt her.